Of course, we want our kids to do the choosing. It’s the kid that has to be happy at the school, not us.
We all know that.
But we also know that kids know almost nothing about real life. Or at least my kids know nothing about real life.
Are there any criteria that you would steer your kids away from, or that you just don’t think matter much in the long run? I’m not looking for THE right answer, or answers, here. I’m just curious what people think. I hope this doesn’t turn into a fight to the death argument. I’m just looking for some opinions.
For example, my daughter is currently favoring schools that are in or near small cities or big towns, as long as they have an enclosed campus. I wish she would consider some of the more remote schools, but she’s dead set against them. I think she’s overvaluing the surrounding area a little bit, from my perspective. I get why she would want to be in a populated area, but I think she’s overestimating how much time she’ll spend off campus. Maybe I’m just remembering how little time I spent off campus, because there wasn’t much off campus.
I gently mentioned this to her, because it’s something I want her to consider, but it’s not something I’d try to talk her out of. I don’t think it matters all that much, except that she might be ruling out some schools that would otherwise be great fits. There’s no way of knowing how much it’s really going to affect her happiness in the long run.
One thing I’ve tried to steer her toward is smaller schools with smaller class sizes. She doesn’t sound convinced. With this one, I think it’s hard for kids to imagine. I don’t think they understand what it feels like when a teacher not only doesn’t know you, but doesn’t care one bit about you, or your future. I’m not saying that no teachers care at the big schools or that all teachers care at the small schools, but they’ll at least know who she is at a small school. I think it’s hard for kids to imagine what it would be like for their teacher to not know them at all, because they’ve never experienced it. Or at least my daughter hasn’t.
My daughter has experienced remote places and urban places, and she knows that she prefers urban places. But she’s never experienced a teacher who doesn’t know her name. This makes me feel a little more confident challenging her on this one, or at least trying to get her to think very carefully about it…
Does anyone else have any? Are there any criteria that your kid has/had that you tried to talk them out of, or criteria that you have/had, that you tried to talk them into.
Anyone have any ridiculous ones that you couldn’t talk your kid out of? My daughter hates one school, because she heard that one of the most popular majors is a subject that she hates - even though that major comprises only around 10% of the student body.