I’ve also read all of her books, and I love them without shame - despite the fact that I keep kosher (never had or will have any of that food she describes) and that I can’t stand the beach. The only thing written by EH that I haven’t bought was the tourist guide to real places on Nantucket or something like that.
So I can’t say that EH’s tropes annoy me in any real way, since I love reading her stuff so much. But it’s fair to say that the tropes annoy my children. “Mommy, that book seems like it’s not at your reading level.”