Debated about starting this as new thread or just adding to another…
How do you decide who gets what room if you’re vacationing with others?
I feel like if we are paying more (especially when we travel with our adult “kids”) we get the best room.
My son has been the planner for group trips of his friends, and he says they agree he (and his wife) get the best room because of that.
We went to Hawaii with friends, and I did ALL of the planning, renting, rental cars, etc. I let the other couple have the better room for our second location, because it seemed like the right thing to do, but my husband felt like I should have taken the best room as the planner.
When we travel with husband’s family we generally split the costs and kind of alternate around. When we went to one place recently we stayed in the least desired room, so the next time we picked the nicest room (other than the primary BR, which we let the “birthday girl” have).
When we invite people to stay with us at our 2 BR timeshare, we always take the primary. I did invite friends to stay in a timeshare with just me, and I let them have the primary.
A friend does a HUGE beach rental in NC every year. The older generation pays, and they give the younger generation with kids the rooms with easier access to bathrooms with bathtubs. Apparently all of the rooms are pretty nice in these places.
We only travel with our 3 kids and their partners. So 4 bed spaces.
It’s easier for my H to not climb stairs if that is an option so sometimes that matters. He and I actually don’t care about having the “best” we don’t spend any time other than sleeping and getting ready in a bedroom.
I let my kids duke it out. They are good about taking turns. And we try to choose spots that have decent options for all bedrooms.
Our rental in a couple weeks has one bedroom on the main floor, 3 on lower level and an upper loft. Prob we will take the main floor, the 3 couple will take the lower level ones and the loft will
Be my refuge it/when my husband starts snoring - which is a real issue for me!
That’s one reason we would rather stay in a hotel than a house/airbnb. A couple times we have gotten a suite so we would have a gathering place to share.
I guess you could use what the college kids often do - prorate the square footage , but there is some awkwardness there and sometimes there are other factors like bed size, shared bathroom or not, low sloping ceilings, proximity to noise inside or outside.
The only people I’ll travel with and share a home or condo with are my immediate family and a group of women I’ve practically known my whole life.
Since my DH and I pay when traveling with our kids/partners we take the best room and w/my girlfriends the main planner for the group is the one I share a room with so she always gets first pick. Honestly though all of these places are very, very nice so there’s rarely been a room I wouldn’t stay in.
If we travel with other couples we stay in hotels or separate condos.
I often travel with D1’s family. I let her figure out where we sleep. Last year I got the master suite because it was on the main floor and they wanted to be near GD1. This year thy got the master suite because GD2 was stayin in the same room with them.
I have shared a house with few friends before, but they were for a short period, so I wouldn’t make a fuss about it.
When traveling with family we go by generation: my folks get the primary bedroom, my sibling and I “take turns” on who gets the next nicer bedroom, and the kids scatter into the rest.
I kind of think the older generation should get the best rooms too, all else being equal.
When I was looking for a place for my next generation older relatives I would have let them all have the “better” rooms, even though I would have been paying half the total cost/much more than “my fair share.” I was going on my own, as a single. BUT, if my husband were there I probably still would have let them have better rooms, mostly bc they don’t travel that often and I wanted things “special” for them. Sadly the trip didn’t happen when planned and one of them died before we could reschedule - They weren’t that old - she was less than 70 when she died.
Traveling with others? Charming, but no. I won’t share a space with anyone but my husband and will share a bathroom with no one. If I must travel, nice hotels only for me.
When we rent the place, we choose the room we want. But we do keep in mind the needs of others who might be joining us. If a family with a baby is coming, we would give them the bigger bedroom, for ease.
We go to the Jersey Shore every September and have visitors sometimes. Some prefer a queen bed, and others don’t mind the twins in the third bedroom. So…we make sure that queen is available for those who want it.
I shared a rental with six others once, and I was the one who did the room assignments..,but done with input from the others who were coming along. I got most of them right, but two people did decide to swap when they arrived…which was fine.
When we rented a vrbo with friends, since my friends traveled from furthest and booked the lodging, we let them pick their room. Turns out we liked our room better anyway, even though they got room with golf course & peacock view. Ours was darker & quieter.
When we’ve rented other lodging with multiple bedrooms, since we are paying and may have D sharing our room, we choose larger bedroom and let S & (with or w/o DIL) have other room.
We once rented a vacation home with a variety of family staying with us (and others who lived nearby often eating with us). My husband and I paid, a bit of a splurge. We were there the whole time (11 days) and were paying the whole bill. So I claimed the very lovely primary bedroom with attached bath. I think Dad’s wife was a bit insulted that during their 3 night stay, on the way to their own vacation, I put them in another bedroom… also on the main floor. (Dad didn’t mind. One night he came out to the family room in his pajamas and said, “this is the best vacation ever” … he just loved being with the grown grandkids and having a private little beach on the bay.)
Does your H have to knock on the hotel room next door to have use of a bathroom when you’re traveling? . Or are there two bathroom hotels rooms I don’t know about!!!
This is topical because I rented a vacation place when my daughter and her husband are coming. Maybe the other kid. And my husband’s brother.
Many of the rentals I looked at had twin beds.
Do I put my daughter and her husband in a twin room? If my son and his family come, would they be okay with the twin beds? Should I put my bil and his new lady friend there?
I specifically looked for houses that had Queen size and larger beds. I paid more for that option.
My husband and I who have been married forever would be fine for a few days in a room with twin beds. In fact it’s preferable to a double bed which is uncomfortable.
When my bil owned a cottage, they got the primary until their parents got old enough that going up and down the steps became a concern. My bil and his now ex wife moved to the basement bedroom.
We went on a vacation last year, 4 nights with 2 other couples in a 3 bedroom condo. I told the finder of the place to take the good room with bathroom. (One of the couples is the ones who take the best seats at restaurants and I didn’t want them to have it). Of the other 2, we took the smallest one with 2 twin beds.
I do think since we were all paying equal, they should have at least bought drinks one night for everyone.
I don’t really care a whole lot. We have one couple we travel with frequently and she gets really hot easily so sometimes if the nicer room (if there is even a difference) is on the upper floor she would prefer the downstairs to avoid the heat rising effect.
Several times, when we are traveling with our kids and grandkids, we have given them the master or better room. Sometimes the master has a bathtub and the other bathrooms don’t, and it’s easier for them. Typically the master is bigger so they can more easily fit a crib or pack ‘n play. I want everyone to be comfortable, and often this is the way to do it. On our recent recent trip we got younger s and his family a large, 2 room suite in an inn (with a HUGE deck we all sat out on and ate dinner one night) and we took a regular 1 room (which had a sofa bed so 3 yo slept it’s us one night). But with the 2 rooms he could sleep in the big second room on the pull out bed and the 4 mo old didn’t wake him up. When we were in Kauai, we gave them the master for the reasons mentioned above (room for pack n play, bathtub, etc). We are completely fine with that.
- They weren’t that old - she was less than 70 when she died.
. Or are there two bathroom hotels rooms I don’t know about!!! 
