<p>It will probably be short-lived, but I sure am looking forward to my son coming home tomorrow. The year has gone SO fast! Unbelievable.</p>
<p>I suppose pretty soon though the messy room, the finding-a-job stress, the endless buying food, and the “guest” mentality will wear a little thin. But hopefully by then it will be late August. ;)</p>
<p>S comes home tonight. We are looking forward to him being here for 2 weeks. Then he heads off for a month long tour with the US Navy.<br>
We’ll have him back again from end of June til Aug. When he is here he is always off and running from one place to another and just leaves behind a messy trail (an empty milk cartons) to show he was here. I’ll be glad to have him back.</p>
<p>I picked up S1 on Friday–it’s great to have him home. We just have to find a place for all of the “stuff” that he doesn’t need until he goes back at the end of August. D arrives home in 2 weeks–can’t wait as she has studied abroad all year, and she only came home for a few weeks at Christmas!! It’ll be wonderful to have everyone together again–the siblings have missed each other, too!!!</p>
<p>I was really looking forward to my son coming home, and it is great to have him here. But there is one little intermittant problem. He has been used to being on his own and doing things his own way all year, and now it is causing a little friction as he tries to blend back into our family routine. Anybody else experience this? Any suggestions?</p>
<p>Mine got home last Thursday but has already left for a week-long fishing trip with his Dad. When he gets back he will head to his GF’s prom. He’s so glad that finals are over and he can relax a bit before summer school begins. I’m so glad to have him home!</p>
<p>lkf725, I found that it was a little tricky to incorporate my son back into family life when he was home between winter and spring quarter. The main problem I have is the weird hours he keeps. His roommate was home with us too, so maybe it will be better during the summer, when he should have a job. I just can’t take having kids up until 3 or 4 or later and then sleeping until 3 in the afternoon. Does this drive anyone else crazy?</p>
<p>Our 2 college-age kids stay up later, but they are pretty quiet, just watching tv or on laptops. If they go out, they are driving one of our cars, so we still have a curfew of 1 or 2 a.m., depending on where they will be (our car, our rules), since we will probably not sleep until they are home. They don’t like it, but they live by it. </p>
<p>In the summer the late hours don’t happen during the week because they are working and have to be up by 7 or 8, depending on what/where the job is. S1 has to open a pool by 6:30 a.m. several days a week this summer–you can be sure he is not staying out/up late on weeknights!!</p>
<p>ME!!!</p>
<p>He comes home this evening…and he’s bringin’ a college FRIEND who will stay with us for two weeks!!! I’m SO excited…I get another kid on MOTHER’S DAY!!! :). </p>
<p>sjmom~ Our son keeps similar hours, or at least did on all of his other breaks from school. It can grate you, can’t it? <em>lol</em> I’m hoping he’ll only do that for a little bit–until he recovers from all of the sleep deprivation of finals–and then find a new schedule this summer! <em>lol</em>.</p>
<p>What can be a little bit difficult on us is that there are SOOOOOOOOO many people around here when he’s home…friends coming and going all the time at all hours. With our other five, it is not unusual for us to end up with 12 or so for dinner regularly, not counting dh and me. <em>sigh</em> Good thing I’ve leared to cook good quality food in institutional quantities!! <em>lol</em></p>
<p>Tonight…homemade pizzas (including dough from scratch), vegetables and dip, and a quadruple batch of homemade chocolate chip cookies! </p>
<p>Can’t tell I’m excited, can y’all??!! ;)</p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>
Uh, irish? Do you think your S can get my S the same job with the same hours??? <em>lol</em> ;)</p>
<p>~b.</p>
<p>I think part of the occasional friction has been that our parental input is no longer welcomed in the amount and content is was a year ago. We are all glad to be together for the summer, though. I told S that I realized he had changed over the course of the year and it would just take a little time for us all to get situated in our slightly evolved relationships. In the mean time, I’ll try not to hover or pry or nag!</p>
<p>Me - although I won’t be here when she finally gets home.</p>
<p>“In the mean time, I’ll try not to hover or pry or nag!”</p>
<p>Good luck with that. Isn’t that your “job” as a parent? 
:)</p>
<p>wah- my daughter is graduating from college- so even if she * ever* comes home- it will never be the same again.
She is working in Portland this summer- so even though her room won’t be available ( she just found this out) till the end of the month, she won’t be coming back to Seattle but will stay in Portland for a while.
BUt- Portland is very close- just a few hours drive ( or cheaper by train) and she has friends in the area- as well as us
I am looking forward to seeing her this weekend for her graduation- crycry, but not looking forward to having to share any of that time listening to my brother expound on one of his many topics like Bush and what a good job he is doing- why doesn’t D like boys in * that * way, and what a crappy person his exwife is ( who raised their two kids without his help and did a pretty good job of it too)
But ya- it is pretty exciting to have your college kid come home especially for the first summer.</p>
<p>My D, a college junior, is coming home at the end of the month. I’m looking forward to it but it always takes me a day or so to adjust to having more people around. I worry that is a sign of getting old, and wonder how I will feel next year when I have two returning college kids.</p>
<p>I think it’s hard on most kids to come home – it’s like going back in time to them, to a younger age, and that can’t be great.</p>
<p>I worry that is a sign of getting old, and wonder how I will feel next year when I have two returning college kids.</p>
<p>I have this problem
I think it is normal but this is what I think happens
We are used to fewer demands on us, we enjoy the little extra space/freedom, even though our kids probably also helped quite a bit around the house.</p>
<p>They have been pretty much on their own in their opinion, and feel quite grownup, but here is their mom, and sibs, expecting them to be the same, as when they went off to college.
We also may have an idealized view of each other, and what it will be like when they * do* come home, and while it might be like that for a few days- it soon wears off.</p>
<p>I know that no matter how much I enjoy being around my older D, who is admittedly very easy to get along with, I do find that comments that would make me recoil if they came from * my * mother or grandmothers lips, coming out of * my * mouth.</p>
<p>Sometimes it is almost like I cant stop myself, while I am speaking I am thinking " why am I saying this"?</p>
<p>But at least I am aware of it- at least some of the time- so perhaps I can learn to stop myself before I make a comment about something that doesn’t really matter</p>
<p>berurah~would love to have your S be here and work with my S!!! He could have stashed all his stuff in our guest room, which within two weeks will have S1’s, D’s and N1’s (nephew) college belongings (so no room for guests<strong>lol</strong>)!!!</p>
<p>As you know, S1 has the same job at school–loves to be able to work it between classes–they always need a lifeguard on duty!!!</p>
<p>D will be home in little snippets. </p>
<p>Coming home for mother’s day</p>
<p>Coming home for about 2 weeks in june, then back to school for sophmore summer</p>
<p>will be home from sophmore summer 3 days then off to her study abroad</p>
<p>will then have a winter leave term which means she will be at home until spring term</p>
<p>I love that she comes home, hates all of her junk, the way she throws the dog of schedule , and never getting off of her “school clock” staying up all night, napping 2 to 3 hours up for another few hours, etc.</p>
<p>Yeah, but I still missed her :)</p>
<p>Son came home Saturday night. I actually flew back to help bring his stuff home. (He couldn’t bring two trumpet cases and his laptop on board as carry on’s by himself…) I had a great visit with him on the way home, and I love having him around. We have wonderful discussions, and he is quite open with me. He has, however, already had a small skirmish with his dad–they seem to have a way of getting on each other’s nerves. And he is looking forward to his brother moving out, so he can have a bedroom again. (Living in the tiny spare room between the living room and the bathroom is cramped and not very private.)</p>
<p>He hasn’t had a curfew for years, so that is not a problem. Accomodating four people with two cars will be interesting, however… I’m glad I work from my home and don’t need to get out much. :)</p>
<p>Son will also be gone for three week of the summer to music festivals and will have to return in mid-August for RA training. So I will try to enjoy him while he’s around.</p>
<p>Berurah - just what you need, another child! I wanna be that child LOL!!</p>
<p>But anyway, I get to hang around with mine in HER city for the summer - she’s doing Summer I & II, on account of having decided to load up on Arabic. So I just drove from my shared office to her campus where she’s studying for one more final tomorrow - she was hungry so we decided to eat on campus together so she can stay at the library all night, anyway, get this, the library she’s using is next to the law school, and there’s a Subway’s in the law school building. So we get in line to order, and the guy behind the counter waiting on me says “toasted or not”, and, I got confused, first said yes then no then yes again (couldn’t decide about the toast). This - OMG - incredibly - awesome too nice looking to be real gentleman in line behind me starts laughing, and of course D is laughing too. He’s my age-range, clean cut, and, just, incredible, with this great terrific smile and oh hello :)</p>
<p>I’m entirely too slow and clueless, but, that gentleman was HOT. I almost forgot the rest of my order, and couldn’t even articulate what else to put on the sub. I think I ended up with a meatball sub with pepper and lettuce and cottage cheese or something on it, with mustard, considering what I babbled at the poor guy behind the counter. D says she believes the gentleman is a professor at the law school. I certainly hope so hee hee Suddenly it matters not the slightest what D will or will not do all summer, or how much time we will have together, 'cause I think I’m gonna hang out in the law school for the next month lol (j/k).</p>
<p>The sounds of tuba practice from the other room…music to my ears!
Maybe after a few weeks it will get old??
So happy to have son home…</p>