<p>So a couple of my friends are going to the Winter dance together and want me to go with them. I figured it was just because we were friends but I found out that they want to hook me up with this really unattractive girl (she’s not really unattractive, but she is for my standards). Now I guess I’m not the most attractive guy I’m also really skinny and tall, but I find it almost offensive that they think we should date.</p>
<p>Friends often have a habit of matchmaking for their benefit, and do not take your tastes into account. For instance, I’m betting this girl is friends with one of your friends’ dates. The date likely asked the favor of finding her friend a date. If you were the one without a date, you got picked by default. </p>
<p>Also, you might not want to be so quick to judge. Have you taken her hobbies, personality, and interests into consideration. She could have a ton in common with you that your friends know about but you haven’t taken the time to find out about yet. </p>
<p>Maybe you should ask you friends why they think you two should date. If you they need you as a wingman, decide if you’re willing to do that. If it’s because they actually think you two could hit it off, you have to decide if you’re willing to look past her physical appearance and really get to know her.</p>
<p>“really unattractive girl (she’s not really unattractive, but she is for my standards”</p>
<p>So for some reason your standards are so much higher than everyone else’s?</p>
<p>They aren’t asking you to date the girl. They want you to go with a dance and they have someone for you to go with. </p>
<p>You have 3 options:
- Don’t go to the dance
- Go to the dance with the girl they want you too
- Find another girl to go with that meets your “high standards”</p>
<p>Pretty simple.</p>
<p>I should reword that. I don’t mean to say that I have really high standards but my friends probably think that I have low standards, I’m not trying to say my standards are higher than everyone else’s.</p>
<p>You said that she is not really unattractive (some attempt at objective observation through socially normal standards) but that she is really unattractive by your standards (suggesting that your standards are higher than whatever ones you used to say the opposite of this). You then go on to say that you do not judge yourself to be very attractive, so, if that statement about your beliefs is true, why are your standards higher? Also, I don’t see how you deny that they’re higher, unless you strike the part about her “unattractiveness” as false.</p>
<p>Anyway, all this talk about “standards” brings something to light. Attractiveness is subjective. Thus, one of your friends might think that this girl is attractive, whether through looks or other things about her person that you do not know. Even if you do not go to the dance with her, you should not find it offensive that they would put such an unattractive girl up for the consideration of one so great as yourself (statement warped to fit your “standards”). When you act like that, you’re the one being offensive, by (1) seeming to think that physical attractiveness is all that’s important and (2) by feeling that this girl is so beneath you that you find such a suggestion insulting.</p>
<p>With these attitudes, I wonder why you don’t have a date already. Come on, whether you say yes or no, you need to be nice and, preferably, humble, regardless of your “standards.”</p>
<p>Dude, shut the **** up</p>
<p>You asked the question on a public forum. If you didn’t want to hear any views besides your own, you could have kept it in your own head.</p>
<p>It’s not my fault your friends see you as a match for this girl, I just tried to explain some things.</p>
<p>Alright, physical attractiveness isn’t all that’s important, but it is still very necessary. If you don’t have that, then you can’t have anything more than a platonic friendship.</p>
<p>Don’t go to the dance with her, unless you decided to do it as friends, and just friends. I understand why you would be offended, but don’t be. That’s probably not their intentions. Also, if you do want to do to the dance with a girl but not her, find a platonic friend and ask her to go with you. That shouldn’t be hard.</p>
<p>Also, I agree that you should <em>act</em> nice, even if you don’t want to be.</p>
<p>But if you don’t find her attractive, don’t date her.</p>
<p>BillyMc is 120% correct in his responses and I find you to be a rude and UNATTRACTIVE person.</p>