<p>I don’t get why people still belief the myth that many more women are raped than those that report it. With the possible exception of wealthy defendants (and even with million dollar attorneys fighting rape charges even with little to no evidence other than a he said she said situation is nearly impossible) most rapists even ones that only were convicted of having sex while drunk go to jail for a very long time for the first offense. Also, sexual harassment is extremely rare and most men are more scared of offending women then women are of being harassed. A guy can be fired for saying a girl looks nice and arrested for putting his arm around a girl ON A DATE.</p>
<p>I have been raped once, and harassed at several different workplaces. And no, the harassment wasn’t telling me I “looked nice”. It was grabbing, groping, leering, explicit comments about my body parts, and kissing. I never reported any of it, largely because I knew that there are lots of people with the attitude that you exemplify. </p>
<p>Please cite some sources for your comments.</p>
<p>Even though the girl falsely accused the guy, she will likely face few consequences while people will still believe he’s guilty for no reason. Women always believe other women so his dating life will likely also be horrible. </p>
<p>Luckily the charges he was facing were state charges. Usually state prosecutors back down on ridiculous cases if the defendant has enough money. However, that is not true with the DOJ. The DOJ regularly jails people for no reason and has tons of political prisoners. Michael Milken was basically jailed so Guiliani could get elected (Our bias media never mentions that he was only convicted for technical violations and was only vaguely associated with Boesky. Also after fining him over 600 million, the judge eventually said his so called “crimes” cost only $318K). The SEC terrorizes individual investors with suits over the smallest infractions (i.e. a guy that buys large # of shares of penny stocks is now called a “stock manipulator” even though he buys large orders all the time). The old saying “invest in what you know” now gets people thrown into jail regularly for insider trading. A person can be prosecuted if they go to Starbucks and the barista says he’s been busy lately. The Feds latest victim is Steven Cohen who’s sole crime is being one of the smartest people in the financial community. The charges against him are laughable (He’s fired hundreds of people and NOT ONE of them has managed to provide ANY evidence against him. You would think one angry ex-employee would love to see Stevie pay a big fine, part of which he would get as a whistle blower and get sent to the slammer). </p>
<p>Are their people who deserve to be in jail? yes. Is there corruption? Yes. However, their are many thousands more people that have had their lives ruined by false charges than their are of women that have been raped or assaulted. Also, over regulation has created a situation where even the smallest infractions can ruin entire careers. A doctor that proscribes too many pills is now a felon, a trader that knows the manager at McDonald’s and talks to him about work is now a felon. A businessman that pays for dinner with a potential business partner is now a felon. This is according to the DOJ.</p>
<p>Shockingly ignorant! You’ve taken one extreme case study and misapplied it, pronouncing that all rapists get arrested and declaring that unreported rape is a myth. Poor form!</p>
<p>He’s a poly sci student @ UCLA who couldn’t get a date in high school & blames that on the women rather than on his personality. Sounds like his love life hasn’t improved in college , poor thing.</p>
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<li><p>Most men who are accused of rape do not get convicted. Saying “most men who are convicted go to jail” obscures the point that you’re talking about a very tiny portion of men who are accused of rape. (I once spoke with a prosecutor who said that she had never won a rape case wherein the man and the woman knew each other.)</p></li>
<li><p>There are several elements to the crime of rape: intercourse happened against her will. So first, she needs to prove that they had sex, and then she needs to prove that she didn’t consent to it. DNA evidence can provide the first part, but the second part is difficult in almost any situation. As a society, we try to balance between not convicting innocent men and not declaring open season on women. Under your rubric of not allowing “he said, she said,” any man could rape a woman whom he knows and then say, “I shouldn’t be convicted based on ‘he said/she said’ testimony, and that is the only evidence present.” </p></li>
<li><p>I know several women who were raped and didn’t report it. One woke up to a man penetrating her in an unorthodox location (to put it politely), screamed “no” and tried to pull away. He pulled her back and kept going. Now, did she “consent” in any meaningful sense of the word, as in, did she provide consent prior to intercourse? Of course not. But she didn’t report it. </p></li>
<li><p>As to why women who level false charges are not punished for it: see #2. What is your definition of a false charge? “Could not provide evidence beyond a reasonable doubt”? Should the LA prosecutors be charged for trying to convict O.J. Simpson of murder, given that the jury acquitted? We are very squeamish to say that a non-conviction means that the (alleged) victim was lying, for very good reason. If you were to stop and THINK about that, instead of emoting, you would understand.</p></li>
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<p>Finally, it’s really easy to beat a rape charge: don’t have sex with crazy women, women whom you don’t know, or women who are drunk. Seriously, exercise some self-restraint; you could still wind up like the Duke Lacrosse kids, but the case will fall apart. If you only have sex with women whose characters you have thoroughly vetted, whom you trust, and who have discussed having sex with you and endorsed the idea before it happens, your chances of being charged with rape drop astronomically.</p>
<p>In addition to not having sex with drunk or crazy or unknown women, men are well-advised to pay attention when women indicate that their advances are unwelcome. Any guy who pushes it after that point isn’t just inviting a rape or harassment charge – he DESERVES a rape or harassment charge. No. Means. No. I’m not sure why some men have such a hard time with that.</p>