<p>In college you are allowed to have more than one boyfriend, so you can have a serious one and then ones you are just friendly with. Guys are just suposed to tell their girlfriends that they dont have other ones so they wont hurt your feelings even though they usually do. I know.</p>
<p>I am a parent, so I will be brief. I would SHOOT myself if I had married the guys I liked when I was 18.</p>
<p>kollegekid is my favorite poster here now (used to be OrsonSwells but I think he died)</p>
<p>^^^ yeah like since there’s a double standard and everything ppl might call the girl a hoe…but normally guys are notorious for being playaaas…</p>
<p>who cares…you’re young and in college…you can still have fun and if you’re looking to get serious you could led on a couple of guys and only talk to the ones that interest you :D</p>
<p>dont feel bad if he doesnt like you back he prolly not even that cute…and not worth it when you look back on it :D</p>
<p>this thread is incomplete without pics</p>
<p>I can relate–back in high school, “guys I liked” and “guys who liked me” were a really sad Venn diagram that didn’t connect in the middle (with one or two exceptions). I also rejected quite a few who didn’t interest me–the way I see it, if I’m not interested, I’m not obligated to “give him a chance.”</p>
<p>I think most of the problem was that I was still stuck with the remnants of my middle school “academic good girl” reputation, the type of guy I fell for never really noticed me. The one or two exceptions are people who met me later and didn’t have the old preconceptions.</p>
<p>I don’t know if you’re coming from a similar background of fighting against incorrect perceptions of yourself, but college is a fantastic opportunity to be yourself, let people get to know the real you. Just relax, keep your eyes out for opportunities but don’t stress about finding someone. It’s worked for me :]</p>
<p>Why dont you ask them out? It would be a real favor for some of the introverted guys out there.</p>
<p>Meh, some people aren’t meant to have boyfriends or girlfriends - I’m on the same boat as well. Just focus on making good friends and studying hard!</p>
<p>Why do you want a boyfriend so badly? I’ve found that when you’re not seeking a boy toy, he’ll show up in your life.</p>
<p>^ That’s debatable.</p>
<p>With girls it’s almost always looks that’s holding them back, with guys it’s almost always confidence.</p>
<p>It’s also possible that BOTH members are attracted to each other–but both are too shy to do anything about it. Or perhaps the guy may ask the girl to get coffee or a quick lunch, but the girl is too shy to show her true feelings and the guy is too shy to make a move. </p>
<p>Then no one would get anywhere. =/</p>
<p>without reading this it is either one of two reasons:
- you are not as attractive as you think you are
or - your lack of confidence is offputting (it can manifest itself as clingy-ness, etc.)</p>
<p>So, pretty much overconfidence or lack there of.</p>
<p>or, she’s crazy.</p>
<p>Attractiveness is the only thing most guys (in college) care about.</p>
<p>Sorry.</p>
<p>Omg I have the same exact problem. Last Friday I turned 21 (woot woot) and I have still never had a boyfriend. I’m not fat or anything either, 5ft 4ish and around 120lbs. I pretty cool with how I look…I’m not drop dead gorgeous but I’m not butt ass ugly either o<em>O Every guy I have evvvvvvvaaaar liked has never liked me back and even humiliated me for my feelings, meanwhile everyone and their great grand dog are in a relationship. Like you I also don’t want to have a boyfriend for the sake of having one, it would just be pleasant if someone I had feelings for had feelings for me too. I’m cool when I’m not interested, but when I am interested it just sucks. Especially cuz my friends are all PDAing n crap. This last guy I told him how I felt, and I pretty much told him it wasn’t a big deal or anything but he had no idea how to respond and its been awkward for the past 3 years I’ve known him .</em>__. Apparently he is also not my biggest fan. I’m also tired of people telling me in time, honestly I’ve been hearing for forever. I also don’t buy the “maybe you’re acting needy” crap because I don’t know about you but I’m pretty independent and I have a blast with or without friends. For some reason its my love life that’s just dead. Whoa novel. Anyway last point wanted to make was don’t settle for less. We both probably have high standards and with all the walking dicks its difficult to find a decent guy. Unlike my friends, I don’t believe in giving a person you’re not interested in a chance, there has to be some attraction on some level. I don’t think its fair to that person or yourself. A friend of mine does this alllll the time and those relationships never work out. I wouldn’t like it if the idiot I like just went out with me to “give me a chance” I don’t need pity. So stick to your standards. In the meantime focus on things you love. Right now I’m focused on becoming successful, influencial, and happy (and rich) so I can travel and take care of my struggling family and buy things 
I don’t have the answers, and I understand the frustration, but know you’re not alone. Good luck girlie!</p>
<p>Not always. You can stop looking and still nothing happens. I really think it depends on the person</p>