RedThunder, you have been given some very good advice here. The very fact that you have reached out to the anonymous people on this board tells us that you are looking for support. Unfortunately, as anonymous people, we can’t provide all of the support that you need. Will you go - TOMORROW - to seek help from the counseling services at your college? They will be able to provide localized, very specific support to you in ways that the people on this board are unable to imagine.
@RedThunder Have you reported your keys stolen? (If you know they were stolen and not just lost.) If they could have been lost, is there a universal lost and found on campus for you to check? Or do lost items often get turned into the campus police?
If you can’t find your keys and you don’t have any spares at home, you’ll need to call a locksmith and arrange to have a new key made.
Hey, everything you’re feeling are common symptoms of depression.
Please see a counselor, whether at your school or otherwise. It’s one thing if the whole college lifestyle of party/drink/hookups isn’t for you, but if you just feel like you see no point in anything and everything’s unenjoyable, definitely talk to someone.
Best of luck. : )
I lost my keys Tuesday night and its thursday and i found nothing. I filed a report already and i seen a bunch of keys but not mine. I don’t kmow what to do. I cant get in my car, and i can only get in my dorm with help fron roommates and i cant get in the lobby without help either. It seems like i have bad luck all the time. I have to wait till my roommste get back.because if i leave i can’t get back in and if i leave my door unlocked people will steal.
Do you have any family members with a spare key to your car? Can they get it to you somehow? Also, the dorm should be able to replace your room key for a small fee.
My parents have a spare but they’re gonna get all pissy with me and yell probably. The small fee is “only” $120
Even if your parents get annoyed with you, you still need to tell them. They can send you the extra key. Have you talked with your parents on how you are feeling about school? As mentioned before you need to talk with the school counselor about your feelings. Eating an apple is not an acceptable meal. Do you get along with your roommates? If you do maybe when they eat you can go with them so you are not alone. It does sound like depression. The sooner you speak with someone the better you will feel.
My parents know i hate school but the say its because im not social. I only ate an apple that one night and i just got a rommmate and im not all the comfortable around him still for some reason. My main issue is to find my keys because its been near 3 days since i have even seen them and its seem to have vanished. I talked to the police,admissions,the gym where i last had it. Its just one issue after another with me.
Have you seen a counselor yet?
@oohcollege well grades are my number 1 priority in college, how else will I get more opportunities for my career ? Why else am I spending my money and time in college. A students work for C students, that statement is totally invalid.
@Shipsarecool - I think you should only be super conscious of getting good grades if you’re interested in graduate schooling. Bar awful grades, a solid GPA with good work/internship experience should get you a job - a 4.0 with an empty resume isn’t going to impress any hiring managers. (Obviously if you can pull off a 4.0 and still maintain a healthy social life, extracurricular/internship/work experience, etc then that’s even better)
Well, why are you in college in the first place? If you find that you really can’t find any justifiable reason to be there, save your money and leave. College isn’t for everyone.
@preamble1776 and where do you think you can get that experience from? Internships, duh. and how can you score internships? With competitive grades… So yes grades is very important and should be everyone’s number 1 priority in college…
Almost as important as proper grammar.
I am not saying that you shouldn’t strive for high grades. You should aim for a 4.0 regardless of your career ambitions. What I am saying is that you shouldn’t go through college forgoing opportunities because you fear that an internship/part time job/etc will take up time from your studies and prevent you from keeping XYZ high GPA. You seem to think that there are high GPAs and then there are lousy GPAs - this dichotomy doesn’t hold; a 3.7, a 3.8, a 3.9, and a 4.0 all have the grades necessary for a lot of competitive internships - in fact, a 3.7 with diverse work experience, interesting recommendations, and overall a good disposition, will likely nab the internship over a more one dimensional 3.8, 3.9, or 4.0.
And don’t paint with such a wide brush - you don’t know why everyone goes to college; you can’t tack on what everyone’s number one priority ought to be.
@Shipsarecool
@preamble1776
I’m just jumping in the conversation so I may have missed some things but in reply to your last post:
The number one thing that engineering professionals and professors stress is the GPA. It’s basically the reason shipsarecool gave. The GPA gives you the ability to go out and pursue the internships and research. GPA comes first and an internship or research can help out a lower PA down the road. I do agree that you should never be afraid of going out and pursuing internships or research but I think the GPA should come first, at least in engineering.
I think you’re also a little myopic about there not being lousy GPAs. I wouldn’t say “lousy”, but there are certain points where your GPA becomes less than desirable. In engineering it is anything below a 3.2. Some companies throw out any resume below a 3.2 so if you’re at a 3.4 you’re good, if you’re at a 3.1 you never stood a chance at the internship or job offer. There is obviously a point where the GPA shifts from being good to being average to being poor, otherwise a 2.0 would be the same as a 4.0.
The GPA is very important in the beginning when a job recruiter slices the resume pile in half and at the end when it comes down to two equally qualified candidates. In between it matters very little for engineers.
@jimmyboy23 - I meant that there isn’t a rigid scale of >X.XX> equal good/bad GPA - obviously there are rather objectively abysmal GPAs (the sort of grades that gets people on academic probation) but there are also gradations. Is a 3.4 a good GPA? What about a 3.35? A 3.3? It becomes subjective for many situations. There are usually certain cut offs that are circumstantial case by case for certain hiring practices.
I’m not saying that grades aren’t important - my argument is primarily that grades are important but they are not the be all/end all for the vast majority of career fields. Obviously with particular fields like finance and engineering, or fields that require graduate level study (ex: medicine and law), GPA trumps all or comes very close to it - but I think it is incorrect to say that one’s GPA matters more than anything else in every single case. George W. Bush didn’t become a two term POTUS because of his GPA at Yale.
@preamble1776
Grades are subjective only to the extent of the job the student is looking for or graduate schools. If the cutoff is a 3.2 and you got a 3.0 or a 3.1 or a 3.194 then all of those are bad because you won’t be getting the job. Meanwhile if a 3.4 gets you the job then that’s a good GPA.
My rule of thumb is that the GPA only gets worse when it closes doors. It’s like you said there’s no difference between a 3.7 and a 4.0 beause the 3.7 won’t close any doors. But the difference between a 3.6 and a 3.4 could be tremendous if your dream is to be an imagineer and Disney doesn’t hire anybody below 3.5.
George W. Bush is a good example that connections are very important but most people don’t have those types of connections. Some do, my friend’s father owns an engineering company and interned their three times throughout high school but most people do not have these connections.
@jimmyboy23 - Yeah, I know - I said that it is determined on a case by case basis dependent on the hiring practices. GWB was an extreme example - not everyone has those types of connections but there aren’t a whole lot of openings in the White House either. I guess my point is that unless, like you mentioned, someone doesn’t meet the GPA cut off for a specific job, the student with straight As isn’t at that much of an advantage of the student with the smattering of Bs if the A/B student has ample experiences outside of the classroom.
Sometimes it’s the hardworking and driven A-/B+ student who ends up with the internships and job offers, while the introverted A student gets passed by. Those networking and social skills are important.
The C- students, on the other hand, well…
And yes, it does vary by field.
@preamble1776 in ANY of my posts did I mention a specific gpa number ? NO, a 4.0 can be good for someone while a 3.3 can be good for someone, my argument is that when you enter college, grades should be everyone’s number 1 priority because it will help you out in the long run when getting internships before graduating college, also the big companies always requests college transcripts, so what does that tell you ? Still disagreeing with me ?