<p>I was beginning to wonder why girls never approach guys? Why does it always have to be the guys to approach girls? Why do guys always have to do the hard work; the approaching, the greeting, the ‘asking out’ routine’, all that?</p>
<p>Now I’ve never approached a girl, not even asking her out because I can’t take the risk of rejection.</p>
<p>girls do approach guys - usually it’s the other way around, but in college, the “asking out” routine is pretty casual, like asking someone to go to a party together later - so I see girls and guys both do this. I approached my boyfriend first and we’ve been together over a year now.</p>
<p>honestly, based on the way you’ve described yourself in many posts - a misanthrope, weighs about 300lbs, low self esteem - that might have something to do with it.</p>
<p>Cold-blooded :(</p>
<p>I can’t take the risk of rejection either. I’m too fragile if I truly get turned down by a guy I like. I have to really really like a guy in order for me to approach him.</p>
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<p>That’s playing a High School game. Usually, it’s good to know that it don’t happen to be too difficult in college.</p>
<p>Swells… You need to stop this. Eat salad, hit the treadmill, and do well in your studies. In time, you will be where you want to be. You’re only, what, 20?</p>
<p>I personally think guys in general are intimidating as hell so I would probably never approach any.</p>
<p>The same reason why we all find it hard to approach girls, combined with hundreds of years of social convention that guys should always be the one to approach the girl.</p>
<p>Because men should initiate.</p>
<p>I know like two guys who both think men should always initiate and are not complete jerks, Baelor. I’d reevaluate your prospects.</p>
<p>^^^^^^
according to who? Society?</p>
<p>…Yeah.</p>
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<p>I don’t need to. I have a good friend who stands at doors until a nearby man opens them for her. I assure you, I’m fine.</p>
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Was she born without opposable thumbs, or does she simply refrain from opening doors herself out of fear she will be socially ostracized for such a display of masculinity?</p>
<p>girls do approach guys but some of them are a little desperate.Some girls that are very confident will go after guys they want. I had one friend who went after a guy whom i knew had no interest in her, persisted in asking him out.</p>
<p>It’s because females have to go through labor/pregnancy, and other female related pains, so society calls on males to even out the pains by initiating dates, relationships, cuddle sessions, etc… Not that it’s a pain to ask someone out if you’re attracted to them…</p>
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<p>I’m surprised at the lack of agency you give her. She simply considers it a chivalrous man’s responsibility to open doors for nearby females, and thus she waits for them to fulfill the role that in her mind they should.</p>
<p>What happens when this girl is exiting the ladies’ room? Sneak through the door as another girl opens it?</p>
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Alright, even if you think that women should be nothing but housewives all their lives, and that men are bigger/smarter/whatever, that is insanity. Were you making an obscure joke?</p>
<p>@Manhattan: I’m assuming Baelor rides by on his horse, sweeps her up in his arms and they ride away. She sits sidesaddle, of course, to avoid any accusations of unfeminine impropriety that may come from straddling an animal.</p>