Here’s how I view success. Suppose you have 2 groups, X and Y, and that the people in group X generally end up in 6-figure salaries, while the people in group Y generally end up earning a mediocre salary. Now, it might be tempting for parents to place their child in group X, as that’ll give them the best shot at success.
But here’s the thing: There won’t be anything impressive about someone from group X working in a 6-figure salary, as it’ll be expected of them. And if they don’t end up in a 6-figure salary, they’ll come across as a loser, as they didn’t achieve what was expected of them. However, if someone from group Y ends up in a 6-figure salary, that’ll be very impressive, as that’s way more than what they were expected to make.
You could say that I was put in group X. Personally, I would have been happy with a modest career and a modest salary, but because I’m in group X, I feel under great pressure to succeed in life. Despite the logic that I used when express my resentment of being in group X to other people, they seem to think me crazy, even though it should be obvious why it doesn’t feel good to have so much pressure on you.