If he wanted to be with you, he would be.
He has blocked you on social media… that’s not a prelude to getting back together.
Time for a little ice cream therapy, than to move on.
If he wanted to be with you, he would be.
He has blocked you on social media… that’s not a prelude to getting back together.
Time for a little ice cream therapy, than to move on.
Will all due respect you need to move forward in your life. Don’t make a guy the center of your universe. You are attending a private college that your parents are paying hard earned money for. College years is a time for emotional growth and developing independence. You need to focus on your career goals and work towards them. Your primary purpose right now is to be a focused student. You want to be an independent woman who is capable of taking care of herself without depending on a man for your happiness.
College is the perfect opportunity to meet new people. Take advantage of all the opportunities that your college offers. Utilize every chance to get involved in clubs. Please do yourself a big favor and don’t enroll in the same classes as him. That comes off as stalking and as desperate. You can’t force somebody to want to be with you. Work on being the best version of yourself. Your views and personality will change as you experience new things in college. What appealed to you in high school may no longer be of interest as you graduate college. Please close the door on the past and move forward because I wouldn’t want you to miss opportunities that may present themselves in the future that would have a positive impact on your future.
Stop thinking about him because you will only hurt yourself by doing that. Move forward and think positively for what is yet to come.
I know I’m going against what everyone else said pretty much, but because you guys dated for 4 years, I’m sure he has not forgotten his feelings for you. I’m sure if you two stayed close after breaking up, you will manage to rekindle in college. Maybe try asking him to grab a coffee and catch up, but don’t avidly search for him, just go about your day and if you run into him, ask him. The only thing I’m a bit worried about is the girl who came into the picture soon after your breakup. Do you know if he is still dating her? if so, trying to win him back will be challenging, but you may still become friends once again…but I know that’s not what you want. I think asking him to get coffee is a good idea, and if he can’t, remember that won’t be the last time you see him. You can still talk to him in class. You are going to have to tell him you made a mistake, no way around that. After that, it depends where he is with this other girl. You were talking 24/7 after the breakup so no reason things can’t go back there depending on his relationship with her. With her being an hour away and you being right there in class, I think you definitely have the upper hand. Plus you have known him for longer. You know deeper things about him then this other girl does. Most senior year relationships don’t work, most are over by the fall or by Thanksgiving, known as the ‘‘Turkey Drop’’. Just keep your head up, you got this. Remember, if it is meant to be it is meant to be.
I don’t see how you could possibly be “sure” about that.
Well, It just makes sense to me. I mean they were so close even after breaking up until this other girl came in and stole his attention. He is young and easily distracted when this other girl is an hour away at college and he is back in the same place as the OP, it just makes sense to me that they will probably rekindle.
I have seen this type of thing play out before, with friends and my own personal life. I was that girl that broke up with a guy just to be rejoined with him about 2 years later as co-workers. He had moved on as well and gotten a new girl when we met again the new girl he met was moving and me and him, sloooowly started talking again. Now 25 years of marriage and 2 kids later we are positive that was one of the best things that could have happened to our relationship. It allowed us to see what other people were like and then come back together. I strongly believe in young love like this. I have many other stories similar to this as well.
This has been lightly touched on but not hit hard with the early focus understandably on that you need to move on.
You don’t need to worry about any relationship. You’ve been dating for four years and now depend on someone else 24/7, your words.
You need to learn who you are. You need to develop resiliency on your own. You need to build a friendship circle in college. At some point later, you’ll be ready for a relationship. It will highly likely be with someone else.
@Mom008 , I think 99% of adults would agree that yours is the exception and not the rule. I really do not see how your comments are helpful in anyway to this girl who has been BLOCKED on social media by her EX-boyfriend who has a new girlfriend. Times are different. OP, I urge you to disregard what this person says. Sure, if it’s mean to be, it will happen, but it’s not going to happen by you moping around and waiting for him.
Even if I had a heartwarming story to share about young love managing to survive, I wouldn’t. That’s not going to help the person in need of sound advice. SMH.
@Mom008 and the OP @Countryangel707 are the same person. I am closing this thread.