<p>I have been reading through this thread and I am wondering why this is an issue the school handled alone anyway. Isn’t underage drinking against the law? What else is happening on their watch that they are “dealing with” drugs, incidents of violence? I am not saying kids who drink are felons but there are laws. I wouldn’t want this arbitrary enforcement happening at my children’s school.
I feel like the value of Integrity is being pushed aside here. Doing the right thing when no one is looking is an important concept. Sure she is young and it would stink for this to affect her long term. However, aren’t all of these kids being impacted for the next for years from the decisions they made thus far. How are we deciding who and what should be disclosed? If they excuse a smart kids bad behavior, why not excuse an average kid’s poor grades if they have a excellent behavior?
Your judgement shouldn’t come solely from common ap. Look up the merit descriptions from the schools she is applying to and read their requirements. If you honestly believe your daughter fills those shoes then help that make you determination.</p>