<p>I am attending college next year and because of a psychological disorder, I requested and was assigned a single dorm room. However, my building is all doubles/triples, and therefore people will notice that I am in a single. Will people dislike me because of this? How will I be treated? Have I ruined college before I have even gotten there?</p>
<p>No. Settle down, you’ll be fine.</p>
<p>They’ll most likely think you’re a senior.</p>
<p>Relax, it may hurt a tiny bit not sharing a room with another when it comes to friend making. But, you will meet many people on your floor and I am sure you will make plenty of friends. DON’T WORRY!</p>
<p>Let’s not be naive here…Obviously there’s going to be people that “think you’re a senior” or just don’t care, but you don’t care about those people.</p>
<p>Once you make friends/introduce yourself, people will ask you how you managed to get a single (they’ll think you’re lucky and might be interested in getting one themselves next year). Even if people don’t care/notice at first, there’s no way a long-term friend won’t eventually ask you about it, and I’m sure that’s what you’re asking about.</p>
<p>If you’re uncomfortable with talking about your psychological situation with new friends, you’ll want to make an excuse. It doesn’t matter what, but make sure it’s not something that’ll motivate someone else to try and get a single. Make it some sort of individual reason that no one else tries to mimic. Obviously, it’s best if you make friends by being honest, but if it’s a serious problem that you want to keep private you’ll need to lie–because you will be asked. </p>
<p>Keep in mind you’ll probably only have to lie once. After that, people will probably prefer your room because there’s no one else disturbing you two if you need to study, or there’s just more space, etc. It’s really only a problem the first couple weeks and then it’ll actually be a benefit (as long as you’re proactive and make sure you don’t seclude yourself)</p>
<p>So, NO WORRIES, everything will be fine. But make up an excuse before you reach campus. Ideally, try and find out reasons why the college ACTUALLY DOES allow singles, and use one of those. That way it’s a legitimate reason that no one can prod you about and find out you’re lying. (Not that this will happen unless they want a single, too!)</p>
<p>What are some good excuses? Im not an athlete, so that won’t work. I could play the old “blame the parents” game (i.e. say my parents threatened to sue if I didn’t get a single LOL).</p>
<p>lolwut?</p>
<p>From my experience, people will probably just say you’re lucky to have a room to yourself while they have to share.</p>
<p>Who you mind telling us the psychological disorder?</p>
<p>Some people at your school might be more understanding than you think. Of course, if you don’t want people knowing your private business — just say you got lucky of course.</p>
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<p>Was your single in a dorm where no one else had singles?? I had a roommate, but I would definitely think that if someone in my dorm had a single (no one did), there would be people wondering how they got “lucky”–I figured not everyone would think it’s personal/not care at all. It would just seem like a natural question to ask a friend once you got to know them, considering no one else in the dorms has a single. Obviously the OP doesn’t care about the people who won’t ask him(her?) about it. </p>
<p>But to the OP: I would definitely try and find out for what reasons the dorms give singles. Can you find anything on your college’s ResHall site or something?</p>
<p>I checked my ResHall site. I couldn’t find anything speicific, but it did mention something about how students with disabilities can get special housing. It wasn’t very specific though. I don’t know if this will make a difference but the Uni I will attend is large in population.</p>
<p>Keep your door open. Move in early.</p>
<p>Depends on the severity and legitimacy of this “psychological disorder”.</p>
<p>you could always just say that you had a roommate but he transferred to a different residence hall and didn’t give his spot to someone else…</p>
<p>Your social life will not be ruined.</p>
<p>One of the several social changes that people undergo in maturity during college is that the idea of cliches and “social normality” are dropped. People are individuals, and they are liked/disliked for who they are. Just because you live in a single and are different from everyone else doesn’t mean that your social life is ruined. People will accept you for who you are.</p>
<p>Also, living in a single has major benefits in terms of social life, because you will want to go out and meet other people, on your own terms. If you had a roommate who you were really good friends with, that might stunt you two in terms of branching out. If you had a roommate who you were on bad terms with, that would just be an added stress on your life in general. So honestly I think you’re in a great situation!</p>
<p>Or you could have the situation I did, where your roommate immediately ostracized herself in the residence hall by being a witch to everyone and then nobody wants to hang out with you for fear that she’ll be there. A single is a good thing.</p>
<p>There was a student on here a while ago who asked if it would be okay to request a single room on the basis of a medical condition due to migraine headaches, if you are just looking to cover up the fact that you have a psychological disorder (as someone with OCD myself, I can see why you might want to do that) you can very easily use a more benign decoy condition like migraines.</p>
<p>Or you can always just play dumb. “I don’t know why I got a single? Didn’t anyone else? Huh, I wonder what housing was thinking!” Nobody is going to seriously dwell on this issue. They may bring it up-- I got a room last year that was intended to be a triple but there were only two people and people constantly remarked on how lucky we were, but nobody made a big deal out of it.</p>
<p>You can get a single for migraines??? Gee, if I’d have known that I’d have requested a single last year… (I have really bad hormonal ones where I can’t get out of bed and having any light/sound in the room period is seriously painful to the point where I feel like I’m going to spill my guts out, so it makes sense that not having a roommate would be a good thing, it just doesn’t seem like they’d allow that…)</p>
<p>If I were you, I’d just say that you have a medical condition, and if they press it either offer another reason like migraines or say that you’re not comfortable talking about it/it’s complicated. If you want to tell the whole story, though, be assured that people will almost definitely be really accepting, if they care at all. One of my friends told us that she had OCD and some other psychological disorder for which she had to take meds - we don’t think of her any differently because of it.</p>
<p>Being in a single is awesome - you don’t have to deal with roommates destroying your stuff (like mine, who left her <em>uncovered</em> food in my fridge over break - I couldn’t ever get the mold fully out and had to buy a new one) or worrying about whether or not you’ll actually be able to sleep in your bed on the weekend because she/he might be in there with his/her fling/boyfriend/whatever. So just relax and enjoy it 
people will be nice enough and in almost all cases they’re not petty enough to hate or even dislike you for having a single. You’ll be fine :)</p>
<p>It would depend on the individual school’s policy, politica18. If you are still living in the dorms I would recommend discussing it with your housing department, the process may be as simple as getting your doctor to fill out a form, depending on the school. At my school as long as your doctor supports you and you have a feasible explanation you are pretty much good, and it only takes a minute to settle the matter. Other schools may be more stringent.</p>
<p>Everyone seems to want a single…they’ll just be jealous and think you were the one lucky enough to get it.</p>
<p>Just make sure you meet people during the first weekend, find a group to hang out with and it really won’t matter which room you live in.</p>
<p>^Agree with college 316 to the max. </p>
<p>And to the OP, if anyone asks, tell them your parents would sue if you didn’t get a single or just say I got lucky. No need to tell them the real reason unless you feel like it.</p>