<p>Getting my veins done was the best thing.</p>
<p>Say it ain’t so, surfcity. I’m no fashion model. I turn 50 tomorrow. I still wear shorts all the time in the summer. I live in the south. It’s hot!</p>
<p>agree surfcity that our looks are changing, not necessarily “lost”.</p>
<p>pepperwhite–interesting, a planned divorce, mine was anything but, however a necessary act. one thought, the dating scene for divorced women changes dramatically right around 50 yrs old. Men of 50 want and often can get a woman of 35. If you are serious about divorce, I wouldn’t waste too much time waiting if your desire is to date and potentially have a new happier relationship. Not out of the question, but certainly a changed scene at 50+</p>
<p>@veryhappy, yes, time frame is agreed to. Kids are not aware. No, we don’t date, and the subject hasn’t come up yet. I am not really sure how someone dates in this situation - I’d think it would be a huge red flag to anyone seeking a committed relationship.</p>
<p>Our primary desire is to see our last child through adolescence and not disrupt her last years at home. That desire outweighs freeing myself up. I am not convinced there is much out there to rush out of this situation for.</p>
<p>@myturnnow, yes, it probably does change somewhat at 50. But, I don’t think it’s true that 50 year old men ‘often’ can get a 35 year old - maybe they hope to. I don’t know any couples like that unless it’s an exec on his second go 'round for the trophy (and I’ve seen a lot of divorce and remarriage in my life) And that type isn’t worth having anyway! I feel I have a lot to offer, but I also feel good about being single for the duration. Yes, it’s got me a little spooked, but overall, it will be better than what is going on now.</p>
<p>I read somewhere that we stop giving off strong pheromones as we age. It’s possible that our looks don’t need to change dramatically for us to stop attracting the opposite sex. I really think that this has something to do with that feeling of invisibility that many of us feel. Perhaps we are not turning heads because we we don’t “smell” fertile anymore.</p>
<p>RE: looks/attractiveness. Men and women age differently. Generally, females get the advantage at the front end, while males benefit at the other end. </p>
<p>Ques.: What is natures purpose in doing this?</p>
<p>I think nature’s purpose has to do with procreation. Men still look good late in life so that they can attract young fertile women, thereby ensuring the survival of the species.</p>
<p>I think about this kind of thing a lot. I even have a theory about hot flashes. My theory is that, when we lived in caves, a menopausal woman would become so miserable that she would go throw herself off a cliff, thereby making more room around the fire for the younger woman. Lol.</p>
<p>I do believe that some women just “have it.” My SIL is 60,and men are still interested. My MIL died in her mid 70’s, and men were pursuing her until the end. And my cousin’s wife gets all kinds of attention, walking down a New York City street, even though she’s over 50 and overweight. Some of these suitors were even young men! Maybe they still have/had the pheromone thing going on. It’s kind of fun to watch these sexy older gals.</p>
<p>EPTR–that’s for sure! They have discovered that women who are ovulating give off certain pheromones.</p>
<p>We try hard to rise above nature and behave, but we are up against powerful forces. :D</p>
<p>I have to say that I really don’t believe that “men still look good late in life.” SOME men do, but I think we are very forgiving when it comes to old guys. And what about all those threads about high school reunions, where the women look great and the men aren’t even recognizable? What about hair loss? And the fact that so many guys who lose the hair on their heads manage to grow it everywhere else?</p>
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But, EPTR, aren’t there a lot of good-looking younger men around, too? I agree that the successful older guy might be able to attract some young, still-pheromone-producing woman. But one factor young women might consider is whether they want a short marriage or a long marriage.</p>
<p>For men, money is the pheromone.</p>
<p>I’m still having regular periods @ 55 and I told H that is Mother Natures way of saying I am supposed to have another baby!
He doesn’t buy it 
Since he had a vas years ago he isn’t that much help in that area anyway.</p>
<p>Frazzled, yes, younger men are always going to have the opportunity to procreate but add in the older male population and you up the numbers. </p>
<p>And yeah, what is about the bald guys and the body hair. Yikes.</p>
<p>Here’s a question. I have a friend who is over 50 and still gets her periods regularly. She and I got into a discussion about the liklihood of her getting pregnant. Can a woman over 50 get pregnant? How likely is it? I’ve never heard of it happening outside of extreme fertility inducing situations.</p>
<p>She might take her temperature to track ovulation. I don’t think I have ever ovulated regularly, which is probably why my kids are 8 years apart, but if she is still having regular periods, I would say there is a chance.</p>
<p>I don’t think you hear about 50 year old women getting pg that often because I don’t think many are still having regular periods. I am the only one still doing so in my book group.</p>
<p>My sister has a 6 year old, 23 yrs younger than her oldest. (she does have three others inbetween).
Good to get the most use out of that Lego investment!
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<p>It can certainly happen, although it’s quite rare. Wikipedia has a list of pregnancies over 50, and you can see the examples of “natural conception”: [Pregnancy</a> over age 50](<a href=“Pregnancy over age 50 - Wikipedia”>Pregnancy over age 50 - Wikipedia)</p>
<p>My mom got pregnant when she was 44. She was not even supposed to get pregnant ever again because she had ovarian tumors (at a time). She thought she was menopausal and gaining weight, until my father decided to buy a pregnancy test.</p>
<p>I now have a brother who is only one year older than my son. My brother keeps my mom young and active. We say that he saved my mom’s life, because the tumors disappeared during pregnancy. They were inoperable, so for this he gets extra love from my sister and me.</p>
<p>Happy Birthday, Packmom. Welcome to fifty something.</p>
<p>So today I was at Busch Gardens and was standing there looking at an owl. Somebody behind me said,“Hey, hooters.” I turned around because I thought it was my BIL being silly. It made me laugh.</p>
<p>Friend thought she was in menopause. Her periods were erratic. She ended up with twins. She was 48.</p>
<p>…and I have an aunt that delivered at 49…so none here yet reported over 50…but very close.</p>