<p>My husband attends an annual dinner with his college classmates. He was laughing yesterday about some of the others standing around talking about how the others look so much older. He thinks they do not have a very realistic view of how they look.</p>
<p>I recently attended a funeral for someone who was survived by mourners in the 52 - 62 range . Overweight, diabetic, high stress job.
If you are in that range:</p>
<p>Get a good haircut including your neck .
Have a suit that fits
Own a white or light blue shirt</p>
<p>Because you never know when your friend/ co-worker is going to have a funeral.</p>
<p>If you are in the risk zone, forward this to your 6 best friends.</p>
<p>Sorry, I’m not being reasonable due to too many funerals this year…</p>
<p>I would think if the wife isn’t you get but looks a lot you get than husband, it would. Ltivate the husband to get it together, lose the weight and try and keep up.</p>
<p>I know women with husbands who but really let themselves go. A few are now single. Sure, it’s shallow, but the women felt they were getting better and the dudes just got lazy and complacent. It’s wasn’t just weight, it was life in general. Ennui can make people look very unattractive.</p>
<p>Yup. I read somewhere that when a woman looks in a mirror she sees the things that are wrong with her and when a man looks in a mirror, he sees only the things that are right.</p>
<p>My H has type 2 diabetes and won’t exercise or check his blood sugar He does try to watch his carbs but whether it is in control or not is a mystery. I ranted and raved for a year about it and have decided that it’s his battle to fight. I do, however, feel resentful that he doesn’t seem to care about his health and how it affects those around him who love him.</p>
<p>I’ve been thinking about the eyelid thing also. I’ve always had deep-set eyes, but the lids are really beginning to bother me. How bad does it have to be for insurance to cover it? How does one go about that process?</p>
<p>Edit: I just looked it up, and it appears that if the tissue above your eye is actually resting on or pushing doen on your eyelashes, my insurer covers it. Hurrah! That’s me!!</p>
<p>^^^ I don’t believe insurance will cover that type of eyelid surgery unless you have a medical reason for having it like a nerve injury or they actually impair sight due to excess drooping.</p>
<p>My grandmother had hooded eyelids and I believe her ins covered it after a referral from her ophthalmologist.
I have different upper eyelid though and don’t have same problem, thank goodness, I dont have time for plastic surgery, concentrating on surgery that improves function.
But looking forward to a facial and a massage.
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<p>dancersmom–</p>
<p>You are about to join Jane Seymour, Segourney Weaver, Olivia Newton-John, Jessica Lange, Helen Mirren, Rachel Welch, Tina Turner, Sophia Loren in the 60 and (some much) older and “doing fine” group. Congrats.</p>
<p>Carole King is 71! Yikes.</p>
<p>07Dad,
Thanks for inviting me into such an attractive group of “doing fine over 60 year olds”. I think maybe it’s karma that I’m now seen as attractive since I was teased or just overlooked when I was younger :).</p>
<p>I am told that with the eyelid surgery an incision is made in the natural fold of the lid skin and the excess skin is removed. Is the scar from the incision visible at all?</p>
<p>Well, today a six year old asked me to marry him. I guess I’m not in terrible shape.</p>
<p>My mom was covered by insurance, but i wasn’t. Her surgery was far more extensive, mine was simple. It does leave a light scar, but doesn’t show because I wear eye shadow. I don’t think anyone would notice if I went au natural. An MD that I worked with did the surgery before I did. She came to work with sunglasses on, and showed the stitches to anyone who asked. She was a positive role model for me. I hope I don’t need the surgery my mom did by acting proactively.</p>
<p>Harvest, my surgery was as you described; just removing some excess skin. My mom had to have eyelids stitched up. I had no pain and was working after weekend.</p>
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<p>They are “doing fine” with the help of plastic surgery, botox and fillers.</p>
<p>I have a thin scar that is right in the natural crease of my eyelid. It’s not really visible with my eyes open, and I have skin that tends to scar badly. If I pointed it out to you, you would see it. Otherwise it’s not visible. They took out extra skin on my upper lid and in at least one eye he “tacked up” a tendon that was stretched out. I’ve always had one eye that drooped just a bit lower than the other.</p>
<p>Insurance covered my surgery. The doctor took photos of my eyes & lids, and they had me do a peripheral vision test. I must have failed it since insurance paid!</p>
<p>I have a very thin scar in the crease of my eyelids, not visible unless my eyes are closed. In my case I had only the upper lids done and the biggest problem was covering up the bruises for about 3 weeks. It was not covered by insurance, but it was worth it to me.</p>
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<p>An argument can be made that throughout life “help” is available for those who want it. Tutors and coaches for academics, athletics and artistic endeavors. Prep schools and prep courses for ACT and SAT and LSAT etc. Shrinks and counselors. </p>
<p>Spanx and specific area support garments. Hair dye and makeup.</p>
<p>If something in the form of “help” is “worth it” to a person-- more power to them.</p>
<p>Fallgirl, I am curious about the cost of such surgery. If comfortable, would you share how much you paid?</p>
<p>My needs are so much more modest…
I found jeans a few days ago that are not cut too low nor tooo high, have a bit of stretch to them, the right length for my legs and only cost $21. THAT’s my idea of winning the getting older battle.</p>