<p>Jamesmadison,
Since you can’t see us you can’t know if we are beautiful or ugly or in-between and since you don’t know what we looked like as younger women, you can’t determine that we are NOT more beautiful than ever. I have been told by many many people that have known me my whole life that I have never looked better than I do now.</p>
<p>When YOU are in your fifties or sixties, women our age will start looking pretty darn good to you!</p>
<p>Someone upthread asked about the cost of the eyelift, I seem to remember it was around $2K, (I am in DC area), but that was just the surgeon. It was about another $2K for the hospital. Still worth it to me.</p>
<p>I will be attending my 40th HS reunion next year. Judging by the pictures that my friends post on FB, a lot of us are looking good!</p>
<p>JamesMadison - The wholoe point is we are not chasing our yourth! What we are seeing is we’re not missing it! We are powerful, beautiful, strong, sexy women who RULE!</p>
<p>The advantage of being 50 instead of 20 is we have confidence, money, experience - we know what we want and we go for it. </p>
<p>Wrinkles, saggy ibts - sure we have more of them. The point is we don’t care. I may color my hair, I may have eyelid surgery. It is not trying to be 19 (what an awful age- sorry). We know what makes us feel great and do it.</p>
<p>Sorry for your viewpoint that you think your life is just coasting downhill - but the women on this thread are awesome! Get over it or you’ll be missing out on some great people, and wondering why your fat wallet isn’t baggin you some teenybopper.</p>
<p>Do not feed the ■■■■■. Living well is the best revenge.</p>
<p>+1 to booklady!</p>
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<p>Even though I still believe you would trade your confidence/money/experience for youth if you had the opportunity, I still generally appreciate your perspective. You simply accept and love yourself how you are. Bravo, we understand each other!</p>
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<p>This on the other hand, is just pure denial. I don’t need a picture to know that a woman is probably more beautiful at 20 than she is at 50. Even if she has lost lots of weight and has confidence and swagger, it really doesn’t matter. </p>
<p>BTW “you look better than ever” is almost a generic greeting for a middle aged woman. Surely you realize this. </p>
<p>I’m sure you have many great traits though and your years of life experience have enriched you. I think that is much more important than physical beauty. </p>
<p>It just bothers me that people are so ready to believe whatever makes them feel best at the given moment. I guess that’s why religion is ubiquitous.</p>
<p>There’s all kinds of ugliness in the world JamesMadison. Some ugly you see, some ugly you speak. You are right, we have to accept that we get ugly with age, but you can choose how ugly you want to behave.</p>
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<p>I am not a ■■■■■, really. I have like 600 posts here. Its funny how vehement the reactions are. My only crime is giving people a painful, but necessary, dose on reality. I have not outright insulted anyone and it is not my intention to do so.</p>
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<p>Why not specifically address one of my points? What is one particular thing I have said which is blatantly false, or that you strongly disagree with? Again, my only crime is telling the truth and if you confront me, I will find lots of objective evidence to back it up.</p>
<p>JamesMadison–you don’t say how old you are. Sure, a foxy 19 year old is more attractive to a 19 year old guy, and to some older men too. But I appreciate an older, wiser man who prefers a 40-something b/c he sees her as attractive AND wiser and a better conversationalist too. And perhaps the mother of his children. </p>
<p>There’s all kinds of beauty, and a foxy 19 year old can be really ugly on the inside.</p>
<p>And you know what? Early on (when my DH started losing his hair) I realized I really preferred men with receding hairlines! It meant they were not kids and more likely to be mature. Interesting. Wage-earners. 
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<p>And, as Murphy Brown revealed,-----at 40 “great, every time.”</p>
<p>This thread has disintegrated into bickering, so I am closing it.</p>