Words of Wisdom

<p>Many of on CC are aware of the health, family, and emotional challenges that some of us have faced. These challenges profoundly change us and in a sense give us insight into life that we might not have otherwise. Whether the challenge is our children, cancer (or other life changing illnesses), death of a parent, spouse, or even more profound a loss: a child, we emerge on the other side changed.</p>

<p>The other day a friend of mine, yes, very prone to bragging, was giving me her vacation schedule for this year. After telling me about their trip (in detail) and then asking me what we were doing for summer (Europe…just a general…Europe) she asked, “What are you doing in 2012?”</p>

<p>I’ve learned not to plan that far in advance I answered. I’m just planning this year. My answer was met with silence. She had, earlier in the conversation refused an invitation to our holiday party because we invite another couple that they no longer friends with. Why? A “bad” line call in a game of tennis ended that friendship.</p>

<p>I used to have 2/4/5 year plans. Life is short. Now, I’m thinking about today. And I always say, “I love you” (and mean it) when I end a conversation with one I love. </p>

<p>Has anyone else found themselves changed by a life’s event? And how has your perspective changed? And I think that I meant to say insight…not wisdom.</p>

<p>I agree life is short.</p>

<p>if I take the age @ death of my parents & divide in half, I get 5 years older than I am now. <60. Yes I know it isn’t rational- but I have read that " feelings of doom" are part of perimenopause. Oh. Joy.</p>

<p>However I find I am living my life- that way- as much as I can- to try and be conscious about my decisions and try and leave something of myself to my kids as well as trying to cram as much joy or at least contentment as possible- even though that doesn’t include even half of the things I would have liked to have done. ( I can count my flights on one hand for example- haven’t traveled much, except by foot/car/train)</p>

<p>I don’t make any decisions I don’t feel good about- I don’t make tradeoffs & I don’t do anything to hurt anyone on purpose.I make a lot of mistakes, but I try not to focus on them or on those of others. We are all here for very short time & that makes life very precious.</p>