Worried

Parent Cafe
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<p>Recently, my mom has been seeking job opportunities outside of New York. Today, one of the places she applied to contacted her. While nothing is final, I must admit, my world is a little shaken and the thought of moving is bothering me.</p>

<p>Here’s some background:
I’m a junior in high school. In May '12, we relocated for personal reasons: my mom thought it was a good idea to downsize because my only other sibling had found a place of his own. Therefore, I switched schools at the end of sophomore year. I left many friends and opportunities behind. However, I took the opportunity to meet new friends and have new opportunities in stride. Since the move, I’ve become really involved [yearbook editor, VP of student council, varsity sports, etc.] at my new school. I’m really close to my teachers and I know they will be able to write stellar recommendations. My guidance counselor and I have also become really close. Although I really want my mom to take advantage of this [or any other] opportunity, I do not want to be displaced. I feel that if I relocate now, I’ll have to start all over again … again. I know colleges don’t care how many times you’ve switched high schools, but I don’t think I’ll have the time to create new relationships. </p>

<p>When my mom told me about the possible opportunity, I expressed the concern to her. I told her that wherever she goes, make sure you tell the employer ahead of time that you’ll require them to pay for lodging for a year and a half as you have a senior son. Is that unheard of? She says if anybody hires her, she doesn’t plan to make me relocate with her; she’ll have my grandma stay at our house until graduation. But what if grandma isn’t willing? </p>

<p>Maybe I’m being over dramatic because nothing is final yet but I feel my mom should have thought this through a little more before beginning a job search. I’m worried.</p>

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<p>Your mother’s work situation may be much more tenuous than she is letting on right now. If she feels that she needs to be looking for different opportunities, please try to step back and let her do that. I know it will be hard because you don’t want to move again, but do try.</p>

<p>She also may have already had conversations with your grandmother about this as well. They may have begun to consider how they can work together to keep you in your current high school.</p>

<p>If your mom is offered the job, that will be the time to worry about what you are going to do. Try not to think about this too much just yet. It will work out.</p>

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<p>If I had a nickel for every job interview I went on and didn’t get offered the job, I’d be a rich woman.</p>

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<p>I do understand your concerns. This must be quite unsettling. This is as good a place as any for you to express your worries. Nothing you can do right now, but I bring most of my worries here and it always helps some. Hang in there with your coursework and ECs. Sounds like you are a great student!</p>

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That’s certainly not common at all - especially if your mom isn’t a senior executive. And your mom can’t ‘require’ anything, she can only request and that request could mean losing the opportunity.</p>

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What was her response?</p>

<p>It’s understandable that you don’t want to switch to a different HS for your senior year. Hopefully your mom empathizes with that and will only move if she really needs to economically at this time as opposed to after you graduate HS.</p>