I read on the “Ivy Coach Admissions Blog” that you shouldn’t write a college essay about a relationship because colleges don’t want to hear a sap story about a break up. First off, I’m not aiming for an Ivy League and my #1 choice school has a ~50% acceptance rate (which is definitely a lot less competitive than an Ivy).
Second, my first “love” was actually a profound experience for me; it crashed and burned, and I learned a lot from it. Long story short, I learned that relationships aren’t black and white and that it takes both partners to uphold it. I clung so desperately and so childishly to my ex-boyfriend that I didn’t realize that I was suffocating him. Originally I blamed him for not caring about me, but later I realized that I contributed a LOT to his negative sentiments. Even though this was a romantic relationship, it affected the way I viewed my friendships and it made me a lot more cognizant of how I treat other people.
It’s not about how some jerk broke my heart; it’s not even really about love. It’s about how my relationship failed and how it affected the way I treat other people now. Is this still too cheesy?