<p>I’m still stuck on how it is possible not to find a dress you like better than a six year old taupe lace gown. Tacky depends entirely on specific circumstances.</p>
<p>“bike function makes a difference to anyone who uses a bike.”</p>
<p>That depends. I only ride my bike around my town which is flat as a pancake and I avoid even the tiniest inclines. I don’t need a bike that functions like CF’s bike. I would be fine with a bike without gears (don’t know if they even make bikes like that anymore.) </p>
<p>I very rarely agree with Flossy but I agree with Flossy. </p>
<p>OP should ask her one of her friends who likes fashion to go shopping with her to look for a dress. We do that often and lots of time we will make a day trip of it and go to Manhattan or New Jersey (no tax on clothes.) </p>
<p>The things we care about, we can’t imagine other people don’t care about, how can they not tell the difference between this hemline and that, this brand of chocolate vs that, this brand of bike vs that? It’s so blindingly obvious! </p>
<p>The things we don’t care about - well, people who do care about those things, and spend time and effort to obtain the best of those things, are automatically materialistic and superficial (especially if they already have a dress, a chocolatw bar or a bike on hand). They’re overstating stupid, pointless differences and are elitist snobs on top of it. </p>
<p>Did I get this right? </p>
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<p>Because I don’t give a rat’s patoot if you want to buy new clothes every season and can’t be seen in the same thing twice (but no whining then allowed on this forum about not enough money to retire comfortably or pay tuition…). I honestly don’t notice if you do or don’t do this if you are someone I see regularly. But you DO notice if other people make a different choice or choose to not be slaves to the fashion industry’s “trends” (in quotes because they are manufactured to try to make women feel guilty and spend more on clothes), and you judge.</p>
<p>Ah… and now one is deemed to be “not good looking” if they don’t take any interest in fashion trends and shopping. Can you imagine men (straight ones, anyway) even having this conversation? Or that comment being made about a man (he must not be good looking if he isn’t interested in fashion)? Women want to be taken seriously… at least most of the women I know do. Maybe as a group we should stop worrying about whether it is a year for beads or ruffles, or whether orange or yellow is still “in” or not.</p>
<p>I skimmed the last 4 pages, but when I think taupe lace dress my mind goes here . . . with sleeves anywhere form 3/4 to cap for a MOG. </p>
<p><a href=“http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-mock-two-piece-lace-sheath-dress-petite/3665227?cm_cat=datafeed&cm_ite=alex_evenings_mock_two-piece_lace_sheath_dress_(petite):547273&cm_pla=dresses:women:dress&cm_ven=Google_Product_Ads&mr:referralID=d8ec632f-101f-11e4-92a4-001b2166becc&origin=pla”>http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-mock-two-piece-lace-sheath-dress-petite/3665227?cm_cat=datafeed&cm_ite=alex_evenings_mock_two-piece_lace_sheath_dress_(petite):547273&cm_pla=dresses:women:dress&cm_ven=Google_Product_Ads&mr:referralID=d8ec632f-101f-11e4-92a4-001b2166becc&origin=pla</a></p>
<p>I am no longer a “fashionista” but am not fashion backwards or apathetic either. I’m thinking that a basic lace sheath dress isn’t going to go THAT far out of style in this time. To me the more glaring thing would be a MOG who doesn’t dress her age. There are hem and sleeve lengths that are more appropriate for a MOG of a certain age even if a different length would be more fashion forward and even if she might wear something more daring at another time. It is not her day and she should endeavor to look and feel great but in a sort of neutral way that won’t distract from the bride or MOB. (IMO)</p>
<p>*According to some here, since the MOB already had her first perfectly lovely dress for the occasion, changing into a second dress was “materialistic and superficial.” Or maybe that’s only if the second dress cost above $400. *</p>
<p>My impression was that OP was asking " since she had a dress that she was very happy with, was it really worth the time, stress and expense to hunt for a second dress that she wasn’t likely to enjoy as much."</p>
<p>I believe everyone agreed that " no, it wouldn’t be worth it for her, although a couple stated they would never consider such a thing".</p>
<p>Men have rules, too. You should see my son shop for Levi’s, let alone a suit. He’s straight, btw and picky.</p>
<p>Intparent, thanks. But you are judging others because they care about something you dont care, aren’t you? ;)</p>
<p>I am judging everyone who can’t step far enough back to see not judging (with regard to clothing and personal presentation) may be an impossibility. That it may be possible to judge our own judeyness as well as others.</p>
<p>So I am still in first place.</p>
<p>“But you DO notice if other people make a different choice or choose to not be slaves to the fashion industry’s “trends” (in quotes because they are manufactured to try to make women feel guilty and spend more on clothes), and you judge”</p>
<p>Did someone say that she had to buy something that reflected the styles/colors that are most in vogue at this moment in July 2014 and due to be “out” a few months later? </p>
<p>This is what always happens on these fashion trends. Those who aren’t into it think that those who do wish to look stylish and fashionable do so by slavishly following the trend of the moment. They don’t get it. It’s like the dreary designer/bag threads where those who don’t have any knowledge assume that designer handbag = huge logos visible across the room. </p>
<p>Did people miss the part where she said that she’s been looking all summer? She HAS shopped and shopped a lot and still not found anything that works well and isn’t less than what she has. </p>
<p>I see how peplums and other trends come and go in a year and really do date a dress, but if it really was a classic cut it will likely still be a classic cut. </p>
<p>OP also says that one wedding was in town and one out of town so chances are her side’s guest list will be quite different based on who will travel for the event. </p>
<p>“This is what always happens on these fashion trends. Those who aren’t into it think that those who do wish to look stylish and fashionable do so by slavishly following the trend of the moment. They don’t get it. It’s like the dreary designer/bag threads where those who don’t have any knowledge assume that designer handbag = huge logos visible across the room.”</p>
<p>When I see someone dressed in a look that I know from the magazines, I judge her as uncreative. Unless I can find some indication the look is being worn ironically. I judge her for lack of perseverance in finding similar quality that is unrecognizable. I judge for not being willing to spend that time on her look.</p>
<p>Now I think I am so far out in running for first place that I can take off the rest of the day without fear.
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<p>"Because I don’t give a rat’s patoot if you want to buy new clothes every season and can’t be seen in the same thing twice "</p>
<p>You gave the impression that you did when you said that anybody who was buying a new dress when they already had a perfectly fine one in the closet was materialistic and superficial. </p>
<p>And just like that my facebook newsfeed is full of lace sheath dresses from Nordstom . . . </p>
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<p>I would think that most people wear short dresses at the length that looks good on them, although that can depend on the garment and its proportions. The only truly trendy hemline I can think of is that short in the front, long in the back thing. And, of course, extremely short. But that one has come and gone for decades.</p>
<p>BTW, now I do recall the wedding in question! :)</p>
<p>“But you DO notice if other people make a different choice or choose to not be slaves to the fashion industry’s “trends” (in quotes because they are manufactured to try to make women feel guilty and spend more on clothes), and you judge”</p>
<p>Suppose the OP had said, “My first son got married 6 years ago. My second son is getting married now, and I’m interested in a new dress. The one I have from the previous event is perfectly fine, but I’m just kind of in the mood for something new and fresh. Any suggestions?” </p>
<p>Would that be “being a slave to the fashion industry”?</p>
<p>Unlike you, I have indeed bought black pants and black cardigans when I’ve had perfectly serviceable ones in the closet. I have dressy black pants that are slim cut, looser fitting, suitable for flats, suitable for heels, trouser cut, side zip, with or without belt loops, etc. I have half a dozen black cardigans – some with long sleeves, some with 3/4 sleeves, some that are slimmer cut with banding at the bottom, some with pearl buttons or embroidery, etc. These are all completely different looks to me and just because they are all in the taxonomy of “black pants” or “black cardigans” doesn’t make them identical. Is that “being a slave to the fashion industry”? </p>
<p>I don’t see how a mullet dress could be considered fashionable. ( or those balloon/bubble skirts)
One of my pet peeves is badly designed clothing that is in the stores just because it is different.
Planned obsolescence drives me nuts.</p>
<p>Trends like that are not for the MOG. They’re for young girls who want to have fun with fashion. </p>