<p>I’m back again with another wedding question. </p>
<p>My oldest son was married in 2008. The wedding was held locally. Son #2 is getting married in August. The wedding will be held out of town.</p>
<p>I have a gorgeous taupe lace dress that I wore to my oldest son’s wedding. I’m in love with this dress! It’s very flattering on me and I feel pretty when I wear it - sometimes that’s hard to do when you’re my age. I’ve been looking all summer for a dress to wear to son #2’s wedding but just haven’t found anything that I like nearly as much as the dress I already have.</p>
<p>Would it be tacky to wear the same dress to both weddings? I would wear different shoes, different jewelry, different hairstyle.</p>
<p>As long as you won’t mind seeing the same dress in the pictures…I say go for it. If you love the dress, and it’s really what you want to wear…wear it!</p>
<p>I also say go for it. My only hesitation would be if doing so bothered the bride (or family). As a Mother-of-the-Bride, I would have not been bothered in the least. (Maybe a bit jealous - lol - that you have such a great dress and you’re done with looking. I never found a dress I loved. I did find one I liked but for a while half-heartedly threatened not to go to the wedding myself if I had to try on another dress I hated.)</p>
<p>I think the only way anyone would care exactly what you wore is if were glaringly strange (or if they are glaringly strange). If you feel good and look good why not? I was thinking you were going to say you wore it earlier this year. 2008-2014 seems like a large enough gap for it to be a no-brainer if you’d like to wear it. Splurge on some great shoes and accessories!</p>
<p>My MIL wore the same dress to both our wedding and SIL’s wedding. I was actually happy she did. It was an old dress and very dated I was a little miffed that she couldn’t be bother to buy a new dress for our wedding. H tried to tell me that was her “good” dress. I felt better when I saw her wear the same old dress at SIL’s wedding and realized it wasn’t personal, just the way MIL is…</p>
<p>I can’t imagine anyone is going to recognize a taupe dress six years later, other than your closest family members. I love the idea to splurge on new shoes or accessories to give yourself something special and new for the event. If you are comfortable in it and feel pretty, wear what you love and enjoy the party!</p>
<p>I disagree with the above posters - the photos will look odd if you are in the same outfit, six years apart. Can you wear the dress to the rehearsal and get something new for the wedding?</p>
<p>Do you hate America? Are you trying to tank the economy by refusing to participate lavishly in the wedding-industrial complex? Really, I’m just jealous. If I found a dress that made me look and feel great, I’d want to wear it more than once as well. Have a great time, and congratulations.</p>
<p>Tacky? I don’t think so. Yes, you’ll have the same dress in both sets of photos, but who cares other than Gourmetmom and others who feel that way. Unless your kids have an objection, go right on ahead.</p>
<p>I posed with my son when he was 8 in an outfit–wore the same on to a mom/son dance 10 years later. Love the two photos in the same dress, and am happy I can still fit into it. </p>
<p>I have a very expensive dress that i’ve worn to a number of occasions and will continue to do so as long as the style works, I can fit it and it looks good on me. </p>
<p>Was the bride around six years ago? Did she attend the wedding? Is she very friendly with the other DIL? Do you have lots of wedding hoots displayed in your home? I haven’t seen my own wedding photos in 20 years, and they have never been displayed at my folks home or my in law’s home. I once saw a wedding photo from my hubby’s 7 year older brother, but mom in law was not in the photo. If she was, I def would not have paid attention to her dress from “ancient history”. Oh, the arrogance of youth!</p>
<p>Funny related story. I took a picture of the aunts and uncles at a family wedding. TEN years later, at another wedding, I asked them to congregate again for a new picture. One of the aunts was wearing the same outfit (a very flattering suit). I sent them all copies of the picture and they got a good laugh. The aunt said “guess I really like that suit.” Yep! And it looked terrific.</p>
<p>I think it shows self confidence to wear the same dress and that you know that the event is not all about you anyway and everyone else is more concerned with what they are wearing. If you love the dress and it is flattering and appropriate, by all means, wear it.</p>
<p>I don’t see an issue. With different accessories, shoes, bag, jewelry, an updated hair style, normal personal changes over six years – someone would have to be studying the photos closely to pick up on this. You could always change the hemline or the neckline with a good seamstress, add a belt or a scarf, add a jacket – all kinds of possible changes (that I am guessing at without seeing the dress0.</p>
<p>On a related note, I bought a beautiful deep pink dress with a lace bodice at TJ Maxx last year for $15. Big brand and would have been quite expensive at a department store. I already have in mind to wear it to my son’s high school graduation next year! Like yours, it is gorgeous, great color and is flattering. I’m IN.</p>
<p>Well, call me crazy, but I’m with @Gourmetmom. Unless you have some physical anomaly that makes purchasing well-fitting clothes almost impossible, I think you should get a new dress. Personally – and this is how I would feel if I were in your situation – I enjoy shopping and trying things on (even when I’m unsuccessful). I would enjoy buying and wearing something modern and chic for such a big event – my son’s wedding!! What you wear is part of the “entertainment” of the day. Your friends and family will enjoy seeing you in something flattering and new. I don’t mean “new” as in never-worn-before; I mean “new” as in never-seen-on-you-before.</p>
<p>If I were you, I’d keep looking. But again, that’s what I would do. You’re not me. </p>
<p>I say if you really like the dress and feel good in it, wear it again. Wear different accessories, wear your hair differently, if possible. This is coming from someone who finds shopping to be a frustrating endeavor.</p>
<p>I have a good friend who bought a beautiful & pricey Marisa Baratelli dress for her oldest D’s wedding a few years ago. She loved it and looked wonderful in it. When middle D married last summer, she had it cut off and wore it for that wedding as well. Both weddings in the same town and no one thought a thing about it since it was so pretty and we knew she had chosen to wear the dress again because she loved it (financial constraints were not an issue).
I’m in the camp of go for it, but mix up the accessories, etc. Enjoy!</p>
<p>I’m not a shopper, and would certainly wear the dress again. I think it is bizarre that anyone would really care what the mother of the groom is wearing.</p>
I’ve been looking all summer for a dress to wear to son #2’s wedding but just haven’t found anything that I like nearly as much as the dress I already have.</p>