<p>I would definitely buy a new dress, as I feel like such a special occasion deserves a new dress, but that is me. What a lot of people I know who were MOBs or MOGs have done is wear the dress again when a guest at another wedding. </p>
<p>I know someone who did this (no, not me), but actually had the dress professionally dyed first. Any chance of doing that? From taupe you might go to blue shades. </p>
<p>I agree with the suggestions of altering the hem, sleeve or neck lines or adding some sort of embelished sash, belt, etc. You have already shopped and not found a dress that you love or feel comfortable in.</p>
<p>Ok…I can be cheap but I wouldnt wear the same dress, unless it could be modified in some way where it wouldn’t look the same.</p>
<p>I wouldnt want the side by side pics from both weddings to show me in the same dress. Too weird. </p>
<p>Since you LOVE the style, take it with you to a few places that have a ton of dresses. Show it to a seasoned sales person and ask it they have something with similar lines. </p>
<p>confession: I just got back from a California wedding. We didnt even wear the same dresses to the morning Tea Ceremony that we wore to the afternoon wedding. </p>
<p>Or, you could do what I do, which is to go buy a new dress for a special occasion and end up with yet another dress that is almost identical to everything else in my closet! (Not recommending this approach!)</p>
<p>I know what styles and colors are most flattering on me and this knowledge has converted into a fixed algorithm in my head. It tends to kick in especially hard on occasions on which I want to look my best. I’m sure everyone thinks I’ve been wearing the same dress to every occasion for the last twenty years.</p>
<p>So: if your choices are:</p>
<p>-- buy a dress that is not as flattering as the lace taupe one, OR</p>
<p>-- buy another dress in basically the same style and same color family, </p>
<p>Definitely wear the one you wore before! </p>
<p>But you might want to see what’s out there before making a final decision. To ensure flattering pictures, you might also want to consider whether the taupe will be harmonious with the overall color scheme.</p>
<p>Men wear the same Tuxedos to weddings all the time. I say if you want to wear the same dress go ahead. </p>
<p>I was thinking about the menswear discrepancy also. :)</p>
<p>I am amongst the tiny minority that doesn’t understand why people make so many decisions about weddings that revolve around the pictures…</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s “tacky” to wear the same dress 6 years later. Perhaps not advisable. I would try to find something different, on the assumption that the season, location, and style of the wedding might be different, but if you can’t find anything, go ahead, especially if you would end up buying something almost identical. Wearing a taupe dress again is like wearing a LBD again: they are almost made to be dressed up and down and accessorized diferently. Put your energy into the hair and accessories instead.</p>
<p>But you might want to run it by your S and FDIL first…</p>
<p>Regarding pictures, if you don’t care I don’t know who else would. </p>
<p>If it is a classic style that is still as fashionable as it was 6 years ago, and if you can jazz it up with some accessories, and if the bride and her relatives are ok with it… </p>
<p>Ha, ha, Nottelling, I know someone who did just that. Tends to buy the same type of clothes, same colors so some of her things look just like older outfits. I’m guilty of the same, but do try to mix it up for certain occasions. I went to a wedding in December, and had gone to the sibling’s wedding three years ago, and I made certain that I got a dress different from the first wedding. Was shopping with the aunt, and she nearly bought a similar outfit to what she wore to that first wedding. </p>
<p>Now I have a friend who married twice within a few years, and I think it a case like that, if I were MOG or MOB, I would have made danged sure to wear a different outfit.</p>
<p>I couldn’t do it, but certainly understand someone choosing this option with a dress they love. I did talk my mother into wearing the same dress to both of my sons’ weddings. She looked beautiful in the dress and it would have been quite an ordeal to try to find her another. She received many compliments both times.</p>
<p>Check with both DILs and if they’re ok with it and you feel comfortable, go for it. I would change up jewelry, shoes, hair, etc. Depending on style, perhaps add a wrap or change the hemline. If time and funds permit, another option would be to bring the dress to a dressmaker and see about having a similar one made in a different fabric/color. Congrats and enjoy the festivities!</p>
<p>I wouldn’t do it. There are a zillion dresses out there, do you really want to show up in the same dress? I think it would be noticed, and look tacky to see you in the same dress at different weddings that many years apart. I think it gives the message that you’re cheap or can’t be bothered. </p>
<p>While I probably wouldn’t do it, I can’t imagine caring about or being friends with anyone who would judge me as being cheap or lazy for doing so. </p>
<p>OP says she’s been looking for another dress but just can’t find another she likes as much as the one she has.</p>
<p>I say wear it again! You’ll love it, feel good in it, and have one less thing on your to do list.</p>
<p>There may be a small minority that will notice, but that’s their problem.</p>
<p>I would worry about the picture. Have you considered looking at new styles from the same designer? Check ebay for the same great dress in a different color, or having it made in a different shade?</p>
<p>I am (to no one’s surprise) a black belt in shopping. (four days after I finished chemo it was Black Friday. We went shopping. So my take (since my son is getting married at the end of summer…I did buy a new dress. I will wear a new dress for all my kids’ weddings. I never buy a dress that I can wear once. And if this dress fits you and you love it…wear it.</p>
<p>If someone thinks less of you because you are wearing the same thing…you don’t need them as friends, because they are not, friends.</p>
<p>If it were me, I wouldn’t want to wear the same dress to two immediate family weddings, but the decision is totally yours. It’s definitely not tacky, though. </p>
<p>I’ve heard a lot of instances where the MOGs wore the same dress to both her kids’ weddings. If the dress is flattering on you, go for it.</p>
<p>I say find a new dress. </p>
<p>If the dress is flattering and you like it, wear it again! Most people who look at your sons’ wedding pictures aren’t going to be scrutinizing them to see what you are wearing. They’ll be looking at the handsome groom and the lovely bride. It’s all right to wear the same dress twice in six years. It’s not like you are wearing the same dress at YOUR second wedding as you wore at your first wedding six years ago. You’re not the bride, you’re the groom’s mother. Wear what you like, as long as it is appropriate to the setting, which it is.</p>