Hugs. I know this feels like a life sentence right now but it’s not. Take a deep breath.
Do you have a job? If not- get one! Working in college gives you an entirely different set of people to interact with… I worked both on-campus and off-campus jobs and they have pros and cons…. but the biggest pro is making connections with people that aren’t sitting next to you, in your dorm. or otherwise in your orbit. Will everyone become a BFF? Of course not. But “bridge friendships” are really valuable in their own way. Someone to meet for coffee- even if you don’t have much in common– someone who asks “do you like Noir films? I want to go see XYZ this weekend but nobody in my dorm will go with me”.
Second- try not to idealize the U you’re considering transferring to. Some things will be better for sure. And some things are likely to be worse- you just don’t know what they are yet. Freshman often overestimate how great it is to live off campus– but take it from me, having to remember when to buy milk, taking a rotting head of romaine from the fridge when you were planning on a salad for lunch, not to mention prep and clean up…. it’s not nirvana. And students ALWAYS underestimate the cost of food. You look at the tuna sandwich you eat in the dining hall and think ‘I could make this for 2 bucks” and then end up spending 10 bucks on takeout because after a month of making yourself a 2 dollar tuna sandwich for lunch every day you just can’t stand the smell of tuna. So understand the economic impact of ALL the costs you’ll incur off-campus.
Third- unless you have very off-beat and unusual interests (the only EC you want to participate in is Morris dancing around a maypole with other enthusiasts) it’s hard to imagine that you can’t find any like minded people. Hate the drinking scene? Stop going to parties. Can’t stand the frat mentality? Don’t participate. There’s no chess club, bridge tournament, swing dancing club, chamber music ensemble, poetry slam, ultimate frisbee, politics/debate club, “collect coats for the homeless” drive, reading intervention for fourth graders in the public schools, “Adopt-a-grandparent” club? Nothing? Can you approach the student activities office and get funding to start one if none of these exist? Most colleges are happy to hand over a few hundred dollars to print flyers, buy donuts, and give you an empty lounge so you can start your own activity.
For sure fill out the transfer application. But continue to figure out ways of improving your environment right now.
As far as your major/career goes- there is nothing wrong with exploring. If premed no longer excites you, you have LOTS of company. Can you meet with a poli sci professor to discuss Health Care policy? An applied math professor to talk about how researchers are applying statistical principals to understanding disease transmission and eradication? A sociology professor to ask about his most recent article on “Attitudes towards aging in place around the world”?
Health care is much bigger than just bio and organic chemistry!
Hugs. It will get better. And your backup plan to transfer will be there humming in the background….