<p>Dating/marriage is essentially a civilized big game hunt, and every able hunter wants the head of the male elk or bear on his wall. Society ingrains into the heads of its women that the best of them should be able to get tall men; otherwise, they are not as attractive or desirable as those who do get their 6 ft. plus guys. So when girls say they want tall guys to protect them, they’re absolutely correct: tall guys offer them protection from the societal criticism they would get if they dated shorter guys.</p>
<p>Some of you guys are way too worried about what “society” thinks. Most people seem to be that way though. Albert Camus once said “nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal”. Most other people are not going to care who you are with. With that said, my reason for not dating an overweight girl is because of what dcfca said. I see it as them being lazy and not doing something about it. Maybe they are doing something about it, but if they were really devoted to doing something about it, then over time you will see results.</p>
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<p>Before getting all judgmental, I think we do have to acknowledge that genetics/body types do play a large factor in one’s size. For example, I’m much more athletic and active than my brother yet I weigh 20 more pounds than he does (we’re the same height). I have a more bulky and muscular build than he does, and no matter how much I run or how little he plays sports, I’ll always outweigh him because of my body type.</p>
<p>True. As I said earlier, I would accept a few extra pounds though.</p>
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<p>Not really, I’m attracted to tall guys, because it’s the opposite of my dad (who’s around 5’2), so I feel more secure with tall guys. There is a psychological aspect to it, and I know it. I am willing to overlook overweightness in favor of height. Does that mean that I will never be attracted to a short guy?" Possibly, but personality is also a factor, if I was to see a guy at a party without even knowing him, his height would definitely pique my interest enough for me to get to know him better. </p>
<p>Different people have different standards on what attracts them, mine just happens to be height, but for a lot of my friends it’s the shade of skin (dark skinned or light skinned) that determines their attractiveness for them.</p>
<p>To be honest a fat kid wouldn’t be my “ideal/fantazieed,augh spelling romance” but I can say that if the person was a cool person and if we clicked adnd all that I would SO make it work and I’m sure the fatness would make our relationship stronger. So basically tha chances of me having a relationship with a fat kid are small but if I did I would make it the best thing in the world…</p>
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<p>I wasn’t referring to dating preferences as much as I was referring to people picking their preferences due to societal pressure. Such a pressure only exists if you let it exist. As I said earlier, most people aren’t going to care who are with. And that is true. Ask around. So that implies that one is willing to conform to societal standards in the context of dating. And again, simply having a preference for something because it is simply attractive to you is perfectly fine because that is natural and comes from within, not the excuse of societal pressures.</p>
<p>Sorry about that, I thought you were talking to everyone that had responded to the thread who said that they had a preference. Yeah, that comment about the public caring about who you are dating was kind of odd in my view (but he has a right to his opinion).</p>
<p>But, I believe in what you are saying, one shouldn’t care what society thinks, its about what you think is attractive, and if someone does care, tell them to mind their own business.</p>
<p>i’ve noticed that is a lot easier for a guy to be overweight…at least slightly or so…than a girl</p>
<p>yah well just imagine a thin guy with a fat girl = lol
whereas a thin girl with a fat guy= girl feels protected…that’s just my opinion.</p>
<p>yea its one of the unfortunate double standards</p>
<p>But then I guess it evens out because fat women are more common than fat men. So when people see a fat guy they become more “disgusted” than if they were to see a fat woman. Because somehow being a fat woman is more excusable than a fat man.
But what the heck … theres more to life than a couple of extra kg’s but then one does wonder what kind of person will let themselves stay like that (unless it’s a psycological order which takes a while to correct)… one asks are you lazy? have no self control… or is it a serious mental problem that’s out of your hands?</p>
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<p>Geez, I don’t know what’s more discriminatory, height or skin colour?</p>
<p>BTW, do your friends prefer light or dark?</p>
<p>Here are the main ones that I have had the discussion with and have debated this issue about…I have other friends, but these are the friends who find the skin colour a big factor in attractiveness…I’ll use their initials…I apologize ahead of time if it offends you that I’m not using politically correct terms…</p>
<p>Sorry if this is long, but my friends all differ on whether they prefer light or dark, but I have found at my school that a whole lot of black females prefer the light skinned guys.</p>
<p>KR- white female, and prefers black guys, doesn’t matter the weight, height, or whether they are light or dark…she just wants a black guy…</p>
<p>LP- is a black female…prefers short light skinned guys…also attracted white guys who are short…</p>
<p>FA- is a black female …prefers the in-between shade in african american guys…have to be her height (5’10) or shorter…</p>
<p>GA- black female…prefers dark skin…and guys who look like they were ran over repeatedly by Hummers…no joke…</p>
<p>MA-black female…prefers black athletes who are average in skin tone…if their smile is great…she is willing to overlook everything…</p>
<p>RC- chicana female…prefers dark skinned mexicans or chicanos, and sometimes black guys…</p>
<p>MR- mexicana female- prefers mexicans and chicanos who have the skin tone of the european spanish (pale)</p>
<p>CR- Asian (Viatnamese) female prefers tannish guys…not too pale, but not messed up tan that looks orange…</p>
<p>EW- Asian (Chinese) female- prefers dark skinned Indians…</p>
<p>LH- white female, prefers avg. skin toned white guys who have dark hair… </p>
<p>Height and skin color are both discriminatory to the same degree in general if it’s a preference…but if it’s racial dislike for a certain race that is predominant in a certain skin color then that is when skin colour becomes more discriminatory in that case.</p>
<p>Wow those are some … uh … unique preferences there. =P</p>
<p>I’m a lot less picky than all of you I guess. =D
I would date a girl who was overweight, just as long as she could show some self-control and self-respect (as discussed in the thread).<br>
And a taller girl for that matter too… and somebody from a totally different race… actually just as long as she is a nice person, that seems to be the key for me (I know, totally unbelievable, but I speak the trust =D)</p>
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<p>Er, after reading this thread, has anybody else’s self-confidence suffered? Not that I’m overweight, but I’d love it if I were actually attractive enough to have the choice between dating fat or skinny guys.</p>
<p>There are also some girls out there that are just plain crazy about being thin. I am sick and tired of them, they don’t respect their body just like some fat people don’t respect theirs.</p>
<p>Crazy girl: “Like oh my gosh, I want to be thinner than the ipod Nano, let me go purge the mint I just ate for dinner”.</p>
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I’ll let it be known that my examples were 100% hypothetical. (FWIW, I’m 5’6 and 117 lbs.)</p>
<p>In reality, I’ve been asked out by three guys. One had greasy hair and severe body odor. One was emotionally unstable, and subsequently told me that he hated me. One was, and still is, my best guy friend. </p>
<p>For all I’ve said about respecting oneself, my self-confidence is in the gutter.</p>