<p>UCLAri – It’s weird that this thread always gets bump up again every few weeks. It’s fun to watch since I started it. Haha. I guess everyone has something to say regarding this topic.</p>
<p>I’m a girl who is pretty (I guess; nominated to homecoming court), smart (APs and 2320 SATs), and turned on by intelligent, smarter-than-me guys. I have had my fair share dating the “cute ass”, but I’ve come to realize how much more attractive intelligent guys are. However, it gets extremely frustrating trying to develop relationships with them that go beyond “How do you do this problem again?”. STOP BEING SHY. I just don’t understand why they can’t have as much confidence with me as they do with their school work. That’s all.</p>
<p>I’d say give it time. When I was in high school (eons ago, I know), the brightest guys I knew were mostly focused on studying & not so “into” girls. In college & grad school, I found lots of fascinating men who were also very bright & articulate. It seems sometimes folks are going through different stages at different times. My son is a HS senior & while he is intrigued by females, he IS pretty shy & focuses more on school & video games then speaking with girls. I am quite sure this will change next year when he starts college.</p>
<p>Mmmj:</p>
<p>I, as a marginally smart guy can say most of us aren’t exactly shy. We jsut have better things to be doing than trying to get a girl during high school. I have had 2 girlfirends in my life, and frankly I’ve found it a waste of time any money, sicne there is really nothing to get out of it. Yeah, you should give it time, but I’m pretty sure that the intelligent guys that you’re looking for also have to be at least somewhat charming and good-looking. Whatever though, I’m sure you’ll find a great guy for you one of these days. Best of luck :).</p>
<p>Meetasi- Thanks for the support 
I just hope one or two “wastes of time and money” haven’t permantly left you looking down upon relationships. Sometimes you learn just as much from life experiences -even as silly as a relationship- as you do in the classroom.<br>
HImom- I absolutely can’t wait :D</p>
<p>In theory, one can stop being shy. However, this doesn’t carry over to reality. I’ve had this problem.</p>
<p>MmmJ:
Let’s put it this way, one can never stop liking girls (well one can, but I can’t) it’s just that I know right now there’s no point. I asked a friend to prom, so you know where I stand. But really, many guys jsut want to get in a girl’s pants, I hope you know that and I think that the smarter guys have less social skills and can’t really think about wooing a girl or just flirting. Also, those dudes, lets call them nerds just because it’s an easy 4 letter word, repress or someone else repressed their desires for a girl. I have many friends who would love to find a great girl to date but either can’t work up the courage to ask any girl, or jsut don’t know how to. Frankly, if you want a smart guy before college, you’re going to have to ask him yourself. Don’t expect any “nerd” to come up and ask you. But then, some intelligent guys aren’t nerds and have social skills. As I said before, good luck with your task of trying to find a guy.</p>
<p>Oh and speaking of silly “relationships,” I asked a girl otu once, she accepted and then about 2 horus later she said that she couldn’t go out with me because she had “thought about it”. Then shes turns around and goes out with one of my good friends for about a month and then dumps him. My other real “relationships” have lasted no more than 6 months and I don’t think I’ve learned a thing other than how to keep a girl happy, what to buy them, what not to say, and mostly to nod and smile when they start talking about something I have no tinerest in. (Hey guys, the secret is eye-contact, keep that and you don’t have to listen and can just think about other things. Also when they stop talking you can ask vague and amibiguous questions to make them think you’re listening ;)). The pointlessness of a high school relationship is definitely evident and I don’t feel like tryin again for another year or so.</p>
<p>Not as smart? Sure.
Smarter then me? No thanks.</p>
<p>I’m a guy.</p>
<p>Not as smart as me?</p>
<p>Well…that’s basically everyone…so…Yeah, I guess I would…</p>
<p>:D…lol</p>
<p>“It’s weird. I’m not really attracted to either looks or personality (both have to be decent though), but I’m completely entranced by intellect.”</p>
<p>I agree, although, personality is important for me. But oooh yeah, give me a smart guy plz!</p>
<p>preferably a smart, mildly girly asian guy! </p>
<p>But … why are they all so shy? I know that school is important and all but c’mon! Nerdy asian dudes, girls want you! :D</p>
<p>**** we’re not shy!!! There are jsut better things to be doing than trying to get a girlfriends right now. Halo, programming, sleeping, gaming, sports, etc. Really I’m supirsed that there are this many smart girls taht want smart guys. Get your priorities straight, procreation doesn’t need to happen fro a while. I hear people are having kids in their 50s, ladies, just wait. sheesh…</p>
<p>^Who says procreation is the goal? What about companionship?</p>
<p>He has Halo. He doesn’t need “friends.” :p</p>
<p>LOL! I want to get married early because i want to have as many children as possible. I’m a guy and somehow my parent’s strong traditional precedent has set a foundation in me somehow. i don’t really think i should date until college for some reason. Idk why but it’s my mom and dad’s precedent and my sister followed it too. And yes i am asian(korean) lol.</p>
<p>Are you really so shallow that you need a gf or bf for companionship? What about jsut good friends? </p>
<p>Yessirree, Halo</p>
<p>meestasi, isn’t that a bit presumptuous? I have many friends, I’ve never had a boyfriend, and I’m certainly not shallow. </p>
<p>There are more reasons to be in a relationship than “making babies”. Just sayin’.</p>
<p>“Physics is like sex: sure, it may give some practical results, but that’s not why we do it”</p>
<p>Richard P. Feynman.</p>
<p>Brilliant.</p>
<p>Gotta love Feynman.</p>