<p>Girl</p>
<p>-As long as they have the drive to be somewhat successful in life, I’m cool with it.</p>
<p>i’m a little bit curious to why westerners r more open about discussing sex. In korea, it’s not really sth u would openly discuss or draw an analogy to.</p>
<p>Westerners are prudes. Europe is way more open about sex. Asian cultures probably are least open because in general Asians tend to be modest and shy.</p>
<p>imiracle911… Moscow, represent 8-)</p>
<p>Makshim,</p>
<p>Separating Westerners and Europeans is kinda strange. Europeans are Westerners. I think you’re basically referring to Americans. Yes, Americans are pretty prudish about sex. And Asian culture is way too broad. For example, the Japanese are far from prudish about sex.</p>
<p>imiracle911,</p>
<p>The Korean prudishness might have to do with the heavy Christian influence in the country. Just a guess.</p>
<p>My ex-boyfriend, well, let’s just say people were surprised we ever went out. I’m not the smartest girl, in fact I am far from the smartest girl. On this forum I am like nothing. =] But at my school, where the standards aren’t set so high, I guess I’m somewhere near the higher end academically. Sort of. </p>
<p>I wouldn’t say I was smarter than him, maybe only grade-wise. His grades were horrendous, enough to hold him back…for more than one grade. He had some horrendous spelling errors on this simplest words in addition to a limited vocabulary, which irritated me sometimes, because he was a year older too.</p>
<p>I never though I would ever go out with someone like him, but I did. Before that, all of the guys I liked were pretty “smart”. However, I don’t regret it at all. We had so much fun and undeniable chemistry. A lot of my friends just labeled us as “opposites attract”. For me, it’s pretty much personality that gets to me. But don’t get me wrong, my “ideal” guy would be someone who put academics as a huge priority…</p>
<p>I’d date anyone who’s genuinely nice, generous, friendly, and sweet. If they can make me laugh, smile, and I can hold a serious conversation with them, I’m good.</p>
<p>well i’m actually korean lol. I know for a fact that sex is not openly discussed because of the confucius influence not the christian influence in korea. But i wonder why it’s ok in Europe and the US(we call it teh West).</p>
<p>Different cultures, I don’t think sociologists even have an answer for it. Maybe it’s because of the numerous wars in Europe back in teh day and the recession into the middle ages.</p>
<p>I prefer smart men so I can engage in intellectual conversations…hhaha jk -<em>__- as long as they’re good at science and math then it’s all good ^</em>_^</p>
<p>All these girls talking about wanting to date smart men. How come I haven’t met any of these types of girls? :p</p>
<p>Meetsasi, there is a huge difference between “normal girls” and “college confidential” girls!!!;)</p>
<p>I don’t think asian guys(I am one!!!) are shy at all. In fact, Asian guys are the most “sexually inclined” compared to guys of any other race/ethnicity according to recent scientific publications. The fear of rejection and a career-oriented lifestyle are probably the reasons why Asian guys don’t seek relationships as high-schoolers.</p>
<p>^The same is true for guys, I think.</p>
<p>hmm r u sure about that evil<em>asian</em>dictator?
b/c i think black people(no bias here) are the most sexually inclined. Can you give me the web address of that publication? i need to see it to believe it. </p>
<p>P.S. thisyearsgirl: this just rang a bell but how’d it go with the editor guy?</p>
<p>Thanks for your concern, imiracle, but sadly, nowhere. </p>
<ol>
<li>I’m a nerd. <a href=“well,%20so’s%20he…”>i</a>*</li>
<li>I’m really shy.</li>
<li>I don’t know how to approach him.</li>
<li>I’m probably not pretty enough.</li>
<li>He’s a senior.</li>
<li>What would he see in me, anyway?</li>
<li>This is ridiculous.</li>
<li>I’m acting like the girls I swore I’d never be.</li>
<li>Aghhh!!!</li>
</ol>
<p>edit: so this is all tongue-in-cheek, but even so, that pretty much sums it up.</p>
<p>Go for it.</p>
<p>Thanks for the encouragement, JimmyEatWorld, but, please tell me–how?</p>
<p>Seriously, if you have any advice, impart it. I’ve only ever fallen for close friends before; I’ve never had to do any of the approaching. I’m a good reporter, but seducing the editor isn’t in the job description! ;)</p>
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<p>i think from previous comments everyone said u were pretty. idk never seen ur pic so can’t say.
Really write a story and ask for advice or copyedit his page. That’s a really natural newspaper process. Let’s see r u going to Chicago for the publication convention? You can certainly take the same classes as he is there or just hang out. oh yeh r u a page designer or some editor or even assistant editor? i know i have to go after school for the editorial board meeting and story assigning meeting. Go there and u will definitely talk with him of course with others.</p>
<p>I’m not going to Chicago–what convention is that?</p>
<p>My school is really segregated, so any interaction between grades is awkward. Juniors and seniors have journalism class together twice a week (this is when we do article assignments, planning, etc), and layout weekend every few weeks. Next layout weekend is the first weekend in December. Let’s just say I’m plotting.</p>
<p>well it’s sponsored by the National Scholastic Press Association and Journalism Education Association. btw did u go to Atlanta last year or seattle? if u did u know what i’m talking about.
LOL plotting huh? y don’t u just ask him about ur story angle, page design(if u design a page), or enlist the help of the sponsor.</p>
<p>(haha…that previous post was my 10 characters of pure inspiration.)</p>
<p>The first and last thing is self-confidence. If you have that, it’ll go well no matter how or where or when you choose to talk to him, I promise. By self-confidence I mean, speak clearly and firmly, and don’t be wishy-washy. You may consider yourself shy, but if he doesn’t know you well, you’ve got a perfect chance to make whatever sort of impression you want to make. Use your acerbicism (um, I doubt that’s a word, but you get what I mean) to your advantage - you can convey yourself as funny and smart.</p>
<p>If this guy is shy, after you get to know him a little, you may have to occasionally prod him to keep the relationship moving along. He won’t mind - in fact he’ll probably appreciate it - but it’ll be something that you’ll have to do. </p>
<p>Good luck (not that you need it, because there’s not really any luck involved - you’re in full control of what happens). Just go for it. The longer you torture yourself about it, the less likely you are to actually say/do something meaningful, so the sooner the better.</p>
<p>By plotting I mean, uh, collecting myself. It sounds so pathetic, but I’m so used to just being the girl guys ask for homework that I have to plan anything else in minute detail or I’ll regress into that girl (who tends not to be the focus of romantic interest, it seems). It’s like the image people have of me is someone very serious and academic, but not really anything beyond that, and it’s difficult to get rid of, if that makes sense.</p>
<p>I haven’t been to any of those conventions… I go to a small private school, and I don’t think we really get involved in things like that.</p>
<p>Thanks for the ideas – I’ll keep them in mind!</p>