It’s a “what would you do?” thread.
There may be as many different answers as posters. And those answers will depend on sometimes very different personal circumstances.
I’m interested in all the different responses. Thanks for asking, OP 
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off topic: Like somemom, it’s been a much healthier year for me due to staying home. However, I have realized that lots of my nasty “colds” are actually pretty bad allergies. Kind of unexpected!
My husbands nephew is getting married in June, the first one of that generation too. I’ve already told my husband and alluded to others that I won’t be going if I don’t have a vaccine. I resent to a certain degree being put in that situation
of being the “bad” guy. Thankfully it looks like we will be vaccinated, but I would go unless I was!
@alh, we have been surprised how many stomach bugs the grandkids picked up whilst totally isolated. They did not see anyone for months, and Dad worked from home, but still several bouts of vomiting. No one else got it, so not a norovirus that runs through the house, I guess it was just kids picking up and developing immunity to the bugs to which we all become accustomed?
so interesting! When husband got sick, I assumed it was spoiled food?
Last year this time, I was visiting and helping with grandchildren and everyone in the household was taking antibiotics, tamiflu, etc. One grandchild had just been hospitalized briefly. Kids had been missing work. It was wild.
That household ( all working from home, isolated with other grandparents) is still wild, but so much healthier. It’s been good for the little ones’ developement, imo. I just try and find the positives of the year.
When I get back to my doctor for a check-up, I’ll be asking for allergy meds!
No. I don’t want to be part of a national news story. Say you got the vaccine but still passed on the virus to someone else, who infected their elderly grandparent and the person died. It’s not worth the risk.
Millinocket Maine Wedding Outbreak
"The wedding reception at a small town led to three separate Covid-19 outbreaks that infected 178 people, putting three into the hospital and killing seven more, health investigators reported Thursday.
None of those who got seriously ill or died even went to the wedding, and many lived 100 miles away. It is a case study of how failure to follow social distancing and masking guidelines can have far-reaching consequences, the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention said in its weekly report."
Long term after effects of COVID-19 are a lot more common than death. These include being winded walking from one room of one’s house to another. That is both underreported (except for worryingly common anecdotes) and understudied, although the few studies on the subject have shown frequencies from 10% or 87% or some such.
That means that every elderly person’s contact (e.g. younger relatives like their kids or grandkids) or care giver (whether employee in an assisted living home or at the elderly person’s home, or a relative who is an informal care giver) needs to continue to practice COVID-19 avoidance to ensure that the vulnerable elders are kept safe from the virus. How many people do not have elderly or otherwise vulnerable relatives or friends whom they want to see without potentially unknowingly giving them the virus?
So neither mine nor my husband’s siblings have been especially careful during this pandemic. Even though they are all medical professionals. They are all vaccinated, we have not been. It’s been disheartening.
For that reason, I would stay home.
Fortunately none of my nieces or nephews are currently engaged so I won’t have to make that choice.
To be honest, I don’t think I will see my sibling nor my husband’s in the same light after this. The disregard they have shown to a very serious medical crisis and the fact that they have lived their lives as they always have has shown me what they are. And have always been.
I would say it is too soon to know. If I was fully vaccinated and if the numbers were low and weddings of the size and venue in question were allowed by then, I would go.
Wow, hot topic. Differing views.
OP, if you are having hesitation that’s your answer right there. If they are insisting on an answer now, you should not agree to something you have legitimate cause for doubt about.
I don’t think you mentioned if it was inside or outside. Is perhaps the wedding outside? I might agree to a ceremony outside with spacing.
I think it’s going to take some time EVEN when we are fully vaccinated for some of us to feel ok about being in large groups or a congregation of people.
I’d go.
Our church holds about 1000, so even a ‘large’ wedding of 150 would easily fit with distancing. Restaurants and event space are limited by square footage and outside spaces, even in tents, have to be vented and have distancing.
I know many people wouldn’t go, but I would.
I wouldn’t be going even if vaccinated- not even close to everyone who wants/needs a vaccination will have them by then, and the vaccine doesn’t prevent spreading it (they don’t think… maybe… they don’t know). My dad died last week, making the second funeral I haven’t attended since Covid started. I can’t imagine anything I would willingly travel for and gather for at this time or in the near future.
This is unknown (for the Pfizer / BioNTech and Moderna vaccines), since the effect on asymptomatic infection and transmission was not checked in the trials (which were checking for symptomatic, serious, and deadly COVID-19). Some experts believe that it is more likely that the vaccines reduce asymptomatic infection and transmission, but it is not known for sure, so cautious people who want to avoid the possibility of infecting others will take precautions to avoid that even after vaccination (unless the others are all vaccinated, or if a study finds that the vaccine that they got does greatly reduce asymptomatic infection and transmission).
How will you know who has received the vaccine or even tested negative prior to the event?
We were invited to a wedding last August and planned to attend IF it happened. I know…it wasn’t a great time for travel, but these are important people in our lives. This Colorado wedding was postponed to 2022 about four weeks before the event.
So…for a spring wedding…I would want to know the wedding details, and I would wait to make a decision. If you feel comfortable going, then go.
I’d go. I’m not writing more about why because some posters just can’t seem to accept that others have different opinions.
@milgymfam so sorry for the recent loss of your father!
I would not go. I didn’t like weddings much in the before times so I really wouldn’t like them masked and socially distanced and outside. And I wouldn’t take off my mask so I wouldn’t be able to eat or, more importantly, drink.
No, I would not go to a spring wedding. My son got married last October in a very small outdoor ceremony with only local masked friends in attendance. Any bigger party to celebrate will be waiting until vaccines are widespread and Covid seems more under control. And people can feel more comfortable to dance and celebrate without masks!
A local , small, ceremony with vaccinated peope/masks is about all I might consider at this point.
This may be in issue for us. H’s niece had to postpone her wedding ceremony which was planned for last June. At this point it is on for this coming June. H received his first vaccination on Thursday and D and SIL have gotten theirs so they plan to go. If I am not fully vaccinated, I will not be attending.