You had me at financial discomfort.
If it wasn’t UVA but it was WVU and you want to end up in law school, I’d have the same answer.
Yes, Yale is not justifiable - think about how much easier your family’s life is going to be with an extra $300K - and perhaps they’ll use it to help you in law school or graduate business school - but that’s a lot of jack for retirement, etc.
Look at a school like Harvard - 147 colleges are represented in their law school - colleges like Brooklyn College, DePaul, Georgia State, Kansas State, South Dakota School of Mines, The College of NJ, UCF, U of Kansas, Mizzou, and the mentioned above WVU.
So Yale meets need - and unless you can find $70K more of need, not worth trying.
Here’s the other thing - at Yale, you’d be one of everyone.
At UVA, you’d be not one of everyone - but one of a few and all that comes with a Jefferson Scholarship - will come with enrichment including funded study abroad.
Here’s the other thing - your heart should never be dead set in this regard - nowhere is perfect - everywhere has bad food, profs, roommates, etc. And there are likely many schools where you can have a great experience - and there’s hundreds of schools that can get you to a fantastic grad school.
And yet you have access to the top program at not just any school but arguably the top public in the country. And South Carolina is no slouch either.
A “it was my dream” - I get it - and it’s hard. But with $300K more in the families pocket and access to enrichment set aside for the superstars - especially with grad school in the offing - there’s no way Yale makes any sense - in my humble opinion. The minute you said financial discomfort - I was out
As a parent, we want to do for our kids but when you can get to the exact same place, why should we be strained? And it’s likely just not today - but in the future leading up all the way and into retirement.
Best of luck. And congrats - I mean, all three you mentioned - OUTSTANDING. You hard work has paid off and you have rewarded your family