<p>What are your thoughts on friends of the opposite sex staying over for the holidays? When I say friends, I mean of the romantic persuasion. A dear friend asked my opinion on her DDs “friend” coming home for Thanksgiving break. I tend to be a bit old fashioned. What do you all think?</p>
<p>Better her than me! Personally if logistically possible, I would put the “friend” in a remote guest area and look the other way at late night wanderings by my kid.</p>
<p>This happened to us over spring break. The “friend” stayed at a hotel - we paid. There were no late night wanderings. </p>
<p>Oh my, I feel that I stumbled into a time machine. I would rather my kids do what they’re going to do anyway, in the comfort of our home. This has applied to my sons and daughters. I think it is important that the friend be made to feel comfortable in my home, and not that they’ve been doing something dirty.</p>
<p>The reality is these “kids” are away in college and we don’t know what they do, do we? I constantly try to remind my son to be careful and protect himself. Other than that there’s no much I can do… He’s 19 and his girlfriend already flew to Yale to visit. There’s nothing I can do but to give him my advice</p>
<p>What is Freshman Screw? Is it something that we should be concerned about??</p>
<p>It is a dance. Your roommate or suite mates are supposed to set you up with a blind date. </p>
<p>I googled it. Thanks! </p>
<p>Hi I understand they are trying to make it even nicer by maybe even changing the names from Davenport screw to Daven"court" and Trum"Ball" for instance</p>
<p>There is an article about it from 2011 in The Yale Herald. The name sounds quite off putting.</p>
<p>I was wondering how you parents are handling your students expenses, specially the freshman. Did you set up a set amount, do they charge to the cc you lovingly gave, do they have to have some responsibility to have a few hrs of work per week? </p>
<p>My D pays for everything that is not tuition and room and board. She had a few thousand going into freshman year from working and gifts. She did not spend it all. She was back up to about the same amount going into her second year this year. She uses a debit card from her home account. She has some part time employment on campus this year to supplement. She is not a big spender so this works fine for her.</p>
<p>I plead guilty to spoiling my son. He is frugal, almost to a fault. He has a CC and a bank account. I think working is a good thing for kids, but right now I’d rather he work on his psets, in labs, and at internships.</p>
<p>^^ The way we’ve worked it with my son (Yale) and my daughter (Harvard) is that we cover 100% of tuition, room and board. They are each responsible for 100% of the cost of books, personal expenses, clothes, food, booze, entertainment and travel. Each of them works during the summer, earning about about $3500 from a summer job. Additionally, each of them has a term-time job earning about $1000 per semester and that money goes to them as well. The system has worked well for the last four years, basically incentivizing them to work – the more they work, the more money they have to spend on themselves.</p>
<p>Hi like IxnayBob my son is living really frugally. We are international so the exchange hurts. We set up an American account and he uses that debit card for most everything. He works in the summers and put his own funds into that and all his scholarship money (where we live it just comes to you as a cheque and you apply it to the college) and we topped up for tuition etc. He has a cc too. Because he’s doing a varsity sport, a volunteer job in the field he hopes to be in, and a science with labs along with the other courses i feel sorry for him. He can’t really work but it looks like he’s only spending a few hundred a month on stuff monthly outside of needed stuff for school so far.</p>
<p>This is a tough question!
I worked in college during the school year but my husband didn’t for instance…</p>
<p>My son covers his books and personal expenses from money he has earned. I pay for his travel. No credit card for my son yet, because he is too young to qualify for one. However, he will probably get one when he turns 18, so he can build up credit. </p>
<p>Thank you parents. </p>
<p>I’ve given each of my kids $85 a month for “fun”; I cover books and laundry/toiletries (in theory) though each of my kids is frugal and cover a lot themselves without my asking. My daughter has worked every summer (my son is just a freshman) and that money is of course hers. They are both at very academically rigorous schools, and I don’t expect them to work during the school year, though my daughter has, at a 5 or so hour a week level. </p>
<p>Sorry to be chiming in so late. I had downloaded the Yale academic calendar into my personal calendar so I would have the dates with everything else for planning vacation flights. Either the calendar changed or the downloadable version was buggy. In any event, I clearly had dorms closing at 5 pm on Dec. 16 when the (clear text) calendar has it as Dec. 17. This is why we use Southwest.</p>
<p>My son last test is Dec 17 and I’m flying him down on the 18th. Supposedly residences close at noon on the 18th.</p>