Does anybody know for Lanman-Wright would room B52 be a 5th floor double? A floor plan is tough to find. Thanks.
@Alimac , I believe that’s a 5th floor room in stairway B. I don’t think it necessarily is a double. By the way, most people refer to it as L-Dub.
Mom of a JE ‘15 here, just to reassure new parents that Jonathan Edwards is the BEST (as are all the residential colleges). Based on my son’s experience, JE students are a very friendly group, the college itself is beautiful, there are lots of JE traditions to be discovered and enjoyed, and a large network of proud alums. Your new Spiders couldn’t be luckier!
Do you eat with your Freshmen on move-in day? I’m a Yale alum but it was a different game when I attended. Do you make reservations for your child and suite-mates, just you and kid or are you on your own? any tips appreciated. TIA
You might grab a quick dinner with them (and possibly suitemates) after you move them in and go to the open house in the residential college, but they have orientation meetings in the evening. The next day, you go to the freshman assembly, maybe the president’s reception and lunch in the college, then leave. They’ll be busy meeting people and will be ready for you to go - try not to take it personally.
My recollection matches up with DeepBlue86. Particularly for the FOOT participants, there is little free time on Fri. My DS and I did a quick stop by the Open House and then he was off with his roommate and busy with orientation. The next day, instead of freshman assembly I went back to the store for a few more things they needed for their room. I dropped the items off, had a quick lunch in the college, and departed.
Agreeing with @DeepBlue86 & @Momwith2boys . My son’s suite mates’ parents were not around, and he was happy to see me depart so that he could join all the activities. I live within an hour, so I drove home and back up the next morning. We ate lunch together both days, and I think the second day may have been in the college dining hall, but I am not certain.
We had dinner with roommate and parents during Family Weekend in early November.
We had dinner with our daughter on Friday night (there is no Yale dinner provided that night for the students), and she reported back to her college for the start of orientation by 8 or 9 pm. She did FOOT and arrived back to Yale in the afternoon on Friday, cleaned up, then we went to the reception at the head of college’s house. There wasn’t much time to coordinate plans for dinner (and I had made a reservation for us ahead of time), although we did sit with her suitemates parents at the lunch in the colleges on Saturday.
Does anyone know anything about Bingham Hall and it’s configuration? DD is in a suite with 2 doubles and common area in the tower part of Bingham. Just curious what the space might be like.
My daughter is a Froco in Davenport next year and she said to have your kids email their assigned Froco with questions regarding the different layouts and locations of suites. They lived there and might have a better insight about size and shapes of various rooms. She was even assigned two students that are staying in the suite she lived in (one is even in her room) so that is a great asset for them to have.
Good idea @Memmsmom! Thanks.
Hi Yale Parents! My daughter would kill me if she knew I posted this (good thing she would never come on CC), but any advice if she just wants to meet a nice boy to date? She tells me random drunken hook ups are the norm, but this is not her style. She is so happy at Yale - has made lifelong friends, intellectually challenged, appreciates and treasures each day there and takes advantage of all the campus has to offer… but, as a mom, I know it would all be even better with a special person by her side.
There are so many natural opportunities for healthy relationships to develop from hanging out with people with common interests in your residential college, classes, study groups and other student groups. This would not be something to worry about and certainly nothing to force.
I have noticed with my own two kids (both out of college now) that “steady dating” is not as big a thing as it was when I was in college. Avoiding the “hookup culture” is perfectly ok, and both my kids had many friends of both sexes to hang out with, without being in romantic relationships. I wonder if you as a parent are projecting a bit, remembering how it was “back in the day.”
Thanks so much for the responses. Yes, maybe I am projecting, but she has told me that her and her roomates would all like to meet boyfriends…
@Happymom18, I think it gets better over time, as the kids mature and “get over themselves.” There was a shocking guest editorial in the YDN about the expectations that young Yale guys have, their lack of reciprocity, and generally, their sense of sexual entitlement. This is a family forum, so I’ll leave it at that; the column was much more graphic.
That said, there are nice boys/men also. My son is one. After a year or so of hookups (he was raised with high standards about what consent entails, so not drunken hookups), he entered into a relationship with a wonderful Yale woman. They are still together, and traveling before starting their jobs.
ETA: in my youth, and I’m not sure that this has changed, I found good relationships when I least expected them (doing laundry, riding a bus, studying, etc.).
Anyone have thoughts about the benefit, if any, of going to the 14 meal plan vs the full meal plan after the first year? My son mentioned it but there doesn’t seem to be a cost advantage. Any experience with this? Thanks!
@Biotechgirl - My DD opted for the 14 meal plan her sophomore year and she loves it! As a matter of fact, after a couple of weeks of having it, her suitmates (4 of them) changed theirs as well. There’s no cost advantage but according to my DD and suitmates, it gives them more flexibility to use the “credit” to purchase food elsewhere on campus which apparently works particularly well when they are not able to make the cafeteria hours or they are away on weekends due to time conflicts (athletic events, acapella, work, study groups, etc). My DD plans to keep the 14 meal plan this year and next (she’s a raising Junior).
Thanks @IxnayBob for sharing your insight.
@HappyMom18 - How I wish I could remember the title, but when DS started considering elite colleges (which I knew nothing about) I read the most fascinating University review. It discussed the critical details of every university in the country, and not just price, political climate, Greek life, etc., but other things like how “green” the campus was and…how likely a student was to be with the person they would marry by the time they graduated. The top Ivys were very low in this. My theory: elite students, such as the ones at Yale, are, by and large, not thinking about starting their “grown-up” lives directly upon graduation. More of them are thinking about the next phase of their schooling or landing the choice job. And this isn’t likely to happen where their current romantic prospects are. Instead, it’ll likely be an opportunity to start all new relationships.