<p>We both forgot. :(</p>
<p>Ugh oh! It’s not too late to do something special.</p>
<p>Happy anniversary!!!</p>
<p>Happy Anniversary! Don’t feel too badly…there’s still time to celebrate.
We’d always meant to do something special on our big anniversaries, the 10th 15th, 20th, 25th. But ust never did. This year, our 30th, I vowed it wouldn’t happen again.
Only by signficantly advanced planning, saving, etc did it all come together, but we took a wonderful exotic (for us) trip to a place long on our list of where we wanted to visit.</p>
<p>Start planning NOW for the 25th!</p>
<p>I shall start the planning. 
I’m thinking that I won’t mention it again until the weekend, and then surprise her with a really nice dinner out. I hope that does the trick. The trick of relieving my guilt, that is.</p>
<p>Well, at least you BOTH forgot. I suppose it would have been worse if one of you remembered, and the other one didn’t. The 20th is a biggie-- why not do an overnight getaway somewhere? Have a wonderful celebration and many more years of wedded bliss!</p>
<p>mantori, you always crack me up.</p>
<p>mantori, don’t feel bad. Neither my husband or I can ever remember how many years we have been married. Is it 26 or 27? We don’t know. We always have to figure it out, made more complicated by the fact that we can never remember what year we got married. 1984 or 1985? (H always tells people 1994, but we both know that is wrong.)</p>
<p>H and I went to dinner last night after dropping D1 off at the airport, so I wasn’t suspicious… when he pulled out a happy anniversary card. HOLY COW! I had forgotten our anniversary this year.</p>
<p>“September 7th is a day I’ll always remember,” he said.</p>
<p>“Honey, our anniversary is on September 6th,” I said.</p>
<p>I forgot the day completely. He was a day late. That’s what happens when you “celebrate” your 36th!</p>
<p>[PS: One of us always forgets our anniversary–sometimes him, sometimes me. I think it’s because of Labor Day. There’s just so much going on with the holiday and getting kids ready for school, etc., that sometimes the day gets missed.]</p>
<p>Mantori - Tell her you are celebrating the 20th anniversary of your honeymoon instead of your wedding.</p>
<p>My H and I have our wedding date engraved on the inside of our rings. I suppose you could even do that now - might help as you enter your dotage.</p>
<p>Like someone else said, at least you both forgot! Happy Anniversary and have a great time celebrating this weekend. </p>
<p>We got married on Dec. 20, which as far as anniversary’s go, is not a smart date to get married. It is too close to the holidays, things are crazy, and now, kids going back and forth to school. We always either forget completely, or have good intentions but get too busy.</p>
<p>Never too late to celebrate. We rarely do anything special for our anniv. but since next year will be our 30th, we’ve begun talks of taking a trip.</p>
<p>mantori, at least you both forgot. The first Mother’s Day after S1 was born, DH didn’t do a thing for me (S1 was 3 months old), didn’t say a word about MD. I went through the whole day expecting some big surprise. He didn’t realize his gaff until he called his mother to wish her a Happy Mother’s Day and she asked what had done for me! He apologized and said he forgot I was a mother too.</p>
<p>We took a trip this past summer for our thirtieth. Our twenty-fifth fell right in the middle of what we called The Decade of Denial (i.e., when we were putting two kids through college).</p>
<p>All is not lost next year give her a beautiful copy of this poem: </p>
<p>The Anniversary</p>
<p>A marriage aged one
Is hardly begun;
A fling in the sun,
But, it’s hardly begun;
A green horse,
A stiff course,
And leagues to be run.</p>
<p>A marriage aged five
Is coming alive.
Watch it wither and thrive;
Though it’s coming alive,
You must guess,
No or yes,
If it’s going to survive.</p>
<p>A marriage aged ten
Is a hopeful Amen;
It’s pray for it then
And mutter Amen,
As the names
Of old flames
Sound again and again.</p>
<p>At twenty a marriage
Discovers its courage.
This year do not disparage,
It is comely in courage;
Past the teens,
And blue jeans,
It’s a promising marriage.</p>
<p>Yet before twenty-one<br>
It has hardly begun.
How tall in the sun,
Yet hardly begun!
But once come of age,
Pragmatically sage,
Oh, blithe to engage
In sweet marri-age.</p>
<p>Tilt a twenty-first cup
To a marriage grown up,
Now sure and mature,
And securely grown up.
Raise twenty-one cheers
To the silly young years,
While I sit out the dance
With my dearest of dears.</p>
<pre><code> ~ Ogden Nash ~
</code></pre>
<p>We also recently celebrated our 30th. While some friends took trips to Europe, and others a Napa Valley winery tour, our budget dictated something a bit less$$. We drove 1 hour to a local winery, did the tour and tasting, had a terrific dinner at their restaurant and spent the night in the adjacent hotel. It was great, and now I should be able to remember what we did on our 30th anniversary.</p>
<p>I don’t mean to hijack the thread, but since OP has also said he wants to start planning for their 25th, I hope he won’t mind if I solicit people’s suggestions on how to celebrate ours.</p>
<p>We are empty nesters, it will be next summer, we can probably take about a week or maybe two weeks off. I have no idea what our budget should be but I guess we would probably want to keep it under $1K/day including transportation, accommodation etc. Any ideas?</p>
<p>We generally try to go to a super-fancy restaurant for our birthday. If we could have afforded it a week of gourmet eating would have been really appropriate! For one of our anniversaries we happened to be in Saarbrucken, Germany and had a fabulous meal here: [Klaus</a> Erfort: Klaus Erfort](<a href=“http://www.gaestehaus-erfort.de/]Klaus”>http://www.gaestehaus-erfort.de/)</p>
<p>H and I have an agreement that we both are to forget our anniversary. We have too many friends who disappoint and anger each other with gift or event competitions. H is a sweetie pie. Days later he always says…how can I remember a special day when everyday is special? Corny and a big lie, but it works for me.</p>
<p>We spent ten days in Paris for much less than $1K/day. Rented an apartment on </p>
<p>PackMom, my H also forgot my first Mother’s Day. D was a little over a month old. I kept waiting for some acknowledgement, then finally rationalized it as “I’m not HIS mother. He’s probably waiting until D is old enough to tell me herself.” He remembered his mother, my mother, every mother in our church congregation EXCEPT me (he’s a pastor), etc.</p>
<p>When Father’s Day came around the next month, one day he said "For Father’s Day, you can get me a . . . " and then I let him have it. He was totally unaware that he had completely forgotten it was my first Mother’s Day. He said he just didn’t think of me that way.</p>
<p>We are still married - 27 years now. He has not forgotten Mother’s Day, anniversary, etc. since then.</p>
<p>I think this happens a lot to people who got married over a Labor Day weekend because LD is never the same date. </p>
<p>Happy 20th and wishing you many more!</p>