<p>I was just at bar with my friends and we went there with the hope that we might be able to dance with some nice girls. Being the usual shy and very insecure me, I just stood around, never had the guts to approach any girl to dance, occasionally skirted the perimeter or pushed through people to just pretend to be doing something besides being awkward. Then all of a sudden, this pretty hot Asian girl pulled me to her and started dancing with me, or more like started grinding on me, hard. I have to say that that was one of the best times of my life and I was thoroughly enjoying dancing with her or shall I say grinding her. After about 5 minutes, ok, get ready for this, all of a sudden, she pressed her lips to mine and French kissed me. Guys, I feel extremely embarrassed to tell you this, but I have never kissed anyone in my life before that moment, never. So I was completely unready for it and a little shocked. With her tongue in my mouth, I wasn’t really thinking but I wasn’t panicked either. I did what I usually did hundreds of millions times already before when something came into my mouth: I BIT IT. OK, I didn’t bite hers hard which would be very very bad. Actually, I gave her a nibble which in retrospect i think must be pretty unpleasant. It was nice of her to not get rid of me right away, but as you can imagine our dance ended in about 20 seconds.
So I was left there with a thousand thoughts in my mind. I was elated, but also confused and embarrassed. After a while, I was a lot calmer and finally decided to make a move on my own. I mustered enough courage to tap this kinda cute white girl on the shoulder and asked her if she wanted to dance. She kinda gave me this a little annoyed look and turned away to her female friend.
I don’t know why but I felt really bad about myself after that. I didn’t get the first girl’s name and ruined a kiss. And now, I just got turned down by another girl. My self-esteem was at a new low.
So now I cannot help thinking that I will never get any girl in my life and I will walk out of college as a lonely dude the way I came in. People, what should I do?</p>
<p>Don’t worry, I bet a lot of guys on here wish they would of gotten a kiss at all. If the girl kissed you she must of found you attractive on some level, even if she was extremely drunk. This means that another girl will also find you attractive.</p>
<p>why on earth would you bite it?!!?!
ummmmm and was she drunk when she pulled you aside and started frenching you? from what i understand, drunk people do stuff like that sometimes. and sometimes, they dont even remember it.</p>
<p>What can I say, you fail at life. Just go crawl back into your little hole in the ground and live like a monk for the rest of your life. Seriously, you need to re-evaluate your idea of yourself and what a relationship is all about. You sound a lot like me, and my advice to you is to find someone you’re comfortable with and put yourself in situations where you’re at ease. Apparently, grinding in a bar with a hot Asian girl, while exciting, is not one of those situations. There’s something to be said for moving outside of your comfort zone, and I applaud you for it, but I don’t think you’ll ever feel secure enough to make something happen unless you feel comfortable with yourself and your surroundings.</p>
<p>That’s my opinion, and you can take it for what it’s worth…</p>
<p>Honestly, it’s probably a good thing that little escapade stopped right there. Once I was making with this very drunk girl who started to really hump me to the point where I had to stop her from doing anything really ridiculous. It happens. Although it still bothers me that I had to that (because since then we haven’t been on really good terms and the break up so to speak was not good), things like that do happen.</p>