@VeryHappy , not only do I love the shoes … but the blue ones look like they might be perfect to go with my MOB dress. Just ordered them from Jet at a huge discount!
Always glad to help a fellow MOB/MOG, @kelsmom!
To everyone else: I’m not at all worried about the food itself – that’s easy, and @Consolation s right; I’ll probably just go to Stew Leonard’s, since they have it all prepared. More likely, however, Bride and Groom will go, because I’m going to try and leave this in their capable hands. “Try” being the operative word there.
I just told son and FDIL that I assume they’re going to do the heavy lifting on the shopping and cooking for the cookout. His response:
Now, someone raised that boy right!!
Yup, and we clearly know who that is! Be proud, mama!
@VeryHappy. What a kid! While, here you are finding a solution when there was never a problem
Awesome!! Good job, mom! 
Congrats.
Sigh.
So some of you might know that S and FDIL are living far away – in North Dakota. We are in Connecticut, and that’s where the wedding will be. They arrive in town Wednesday night (the wedding is this Saturday) and, first thing Thursday AM, are going to Town Hall to get their marriage license. A month ago, S asked me to look into what they need to bring with them to Town Hall. I looked it up on the Town’s website and copied, pasted and sent to them in an email a list of what they need.
He just called and asked me if I could do it again . . . or resend the email . . .
Just when you think they’re all grown up, they pull something like that. 
Yikes, @VeryHappy ! I just looked it up, and in Connecticut, you have to get your license in the same town where the ceremony will take place. In Virginia, where my daughter got married last month, you could get the license anywhere in the state.
Since most places that issue marriage licenses are only open on weekdays, I think it’s a very good thing that your son and future daughter-in-law are arriving on Wednesday. That way, even if their flight is cancelled or delayed, they’re likely to arrive in time to get the license on Friday. My daughter and son-in-law, who were flying to the DC area from Colorado, also came on Wednesday.
For the record: My husband and I got married in Connecticut, at my mother’s home. My mother’s property was only an acre, but two-thirds of it was in Norwalk and one-third was in New Canaan. We got our license in Norwalk. I think we got married in the Norwalk part of the property, but I’m not 100% sure. Maybe my husband and I have been living in sin for 41 years.
LOL!!!
When I got married in NJ, we were required to get a blood test before marriage license was issued.
Yes, a doctor’s note we were free of some diseases.
I think most states have done away with blood tests. When we got married in 1981, NH had already done so!
When we got married in 1978, we had to get blood tests to make sure we didn’t have syphilis or gonorrhea. And those tests were a holdover from The Old Days before they had antibiotics and those diseases could not be cured. They thought that by preventing the marriage, you could prevent the spread of those diseases. Because of course you’d only have sex if you were married. :))
@VeryHappy , we had to get the same tests four decades ago, too.
Your S sounds like my D…we had a similar exchange recently. Dh tells me our kids have no reason to spend time researching anything (except their hobbies) because Mom’s results are quicker and on target. I also function as a back-up alarm clock for our soon to be married D (despite the distance) when she has critical early meetings and appointments. I look forward to turning that job over to her new husband.
D2 sent out save the dates today. There was a total of five for my husband’s and my entire extended families.
It’s looking like we will be having two weddings in 2018, but it’s not set in stone. D1’s boyfriend contacted D2 to discuss engagement ideas. If it all works out, they would get engaged after dating for 10 months and then married after 22 months. I’m not sure how I feel about that, although they have known each other for more than a dozen years. There is just nothing I can’t overthink.
If they’ve known each other for more than a dozen years, and have seen each other during those years, they should know each other pretty well.
@zoosermom , our D and FSiL will have been engaged less than eight months when they get married after dating just over a year. Dh and I were/are not concerned because they were friends for about a decade before they started dating. I think it’s great that they got to know each other in a less artificial way than a dating relationship can be when each one may be trying to show their best side.
It sounds like 2018 will be filled with happy stress. How exciting!
For the record, when we married in CT in 1985 blood tests were required, and for the woman, it had to include a german measles test. We had ours done in NJ, where we were living, and I was informed I couldn’t get a CT marriage license because the report didn’t include the GM info. I contacted the lab, and they sent another report saying I had immunity. When I was pregnant, I was retested and no, I didn’t. Apparently they just filled it out and sent it back. The fact that I was not immune factored into my decision to stop working in Manhattan, commuting on the subway.
@VeryHappy, I was thinking along the same lines: People need blood tests for STDs because they don’t know each other in the biblical sense yet. I guess society needs to make sure that no innocent partner gets duped into marrying a player. 