Now, of course, there are different diseases that are sexually transmitted – HIV, hepatitis, herpes and so forth.
Wishing @VeryHappy and @deb922 a wonderful wedding weekend for them, their children, and extended family! Savor every moment!
Am I missing anyone? Any other CC weddings this weekend?
Ditto to what @doschicos said! My best advice, be in the moment and take it all in - it goes by so fast…
Thanks @doschicos. The wedding couple left our house this afternoon for the venue city and we leave in 15 minutes for the airport to pick up other kid.
A few hiccups today but hoping it’s smooth sailing for here on out.
Have fun this weekend! Around here…it’s supposed to be a lovely Indian Summer weekend!! Looking forward to Monday updates!
All the best to @deb922 and @veryhappy! Enjoy the wedding weekend.
Congratulations. Enjoy the weekend.
Enjoy every minute–it goes so fast. Congrats!
Thanks to you all! Last night I had both sons and their significant others in my house at the same time. I’m a happy woman.
I just teasingly asked the bride if she was sure about this wedding thing. She said, “No, but I’m sure about the marriage.” Great answer!
To this weekend’s wedding moms: Best wishes for wonderful memories!
Save-the-dates were sent out a couple weeks ago, and we heard from relatives we didn’t think would attend - they plan to be there. I am very happy, but I hope we didn’t underestimate the number of people who would decline. We are okay with the extra cost, but still … I am glad we did some trimming of the original relative-list (removing the ones I felt obligated to invite until I realized we should just invite the ones we actually want to share the day with us).
Good luck to everyone with weddings this weekend!
I’m feeling a little put upon and aggrieved today. I’ll get over it.
D is getting married in May, and I planned to look for a dress when the spring styles come out, but I got notified last night that FSIL’s mom is shopping now. She sent a few of the dresses she is considering so I will know what she is doing.
I have zero interest in actually dealing with this in 2017.
@zoosermom Why don’t you just let her know that? Just tell her you don’t plan to worry about it until the new year.
@zoosermom - DD’s wedding is 6/18. Right there with you on wanting to wait on dress selection until the new year. Get why some folks start earlier, just not where I’m at. Hope the fact that your FSiL’s mom is communicating is a good sign. DD’s wedding is bi-cultural and her FMiL will wear their culture’s traditional attire and I will not. Don’t foresee the need to coordinate our looks; will check with the bride.
Yes, fall is a lovely time for weddings. Everyone enjoy.
I am having trouble with D over wedding plans. She wants to keep to a budget that is simply unrealistic. H and I are okay with spending more money. She thinks we don’t need a wedding coordinator. Am I supposed to handle any snafus that may arise on wedding day? She looks at quotes for party rental stuff without considering set up and break down. They just drop off the stuff. Who is supposed to set it up?
This is why people elope or go to Vegas. I said if she wanted to do that I would write a check for her to pay toward her student loans. But no.
My feeling is that you cannot invite people to fly across the country at considerable expense, stay in a hotel for a couple of nights, take time off work, and then throw a minimalist wedding. Am I wrong?
@deb922 and @VeryHappy - enjoy! I look forward to hearing about the weekend.
@zoosermom - I can totally understand where you are coming from. Is the FMIL a hard to fit size or maybe she feels she can get a spring or summer weight dress on sale. Or maybe she is just a shopper. Whatever her reason I don’t think you need to rush. My friend had the situation where the MOG kept buying more dresses. It frustrated my friend to the point where she was 2nd guessing her own choice.
Tomorrow I am going wedding dress shopping with my future DIL. Her Mom and sister are flying in. I have met the MOB only a few times and in both cases it was for a short period where I don’t feel like I know how she handles these things.
We aren’t actually acquainted personally, but I asked my daughter to let her know that I’m not looking until the spring dresses come out, but that I won’t be wearing a gown, and she should feel free to get whatever. She appears to be looking at very ornate gowns (she is stunningly beautiful), and I’m looking for short and colorful. I really don’t feel the need to coordinate, as long as we are both respectful of the bridal and bridesmaids’ dresses, which I know she will be. She seems to be a lovely woman.
I’m just not going to be provoked into looking before I’m ready.
TatinG, I am having the very same fight with my D over the very same issue. She isn’t having a very lavish wedding, the goal is curated and comfortable, which is fine, but she has a lot of people coming from across the country and I think there are certain accommodations that need to be made as a good host - wedding or not.
I have also offered the check and been refused!
DS#2 and fiancée are planning to send out save-the-date announcements soon. They asked for our list of invitees and then called us to tell us we need to cut the list. We know, based on the # that attended DS#1’s wedding, that few will come. The wedding is across country. I tried to explain that many of the invitations are courtesy invitations b/c we are invited to their kids’s wedding and need to reciprocate, but the weddings we are attending are for the large part local, and we’d like to courtesy invite. His response was that if he doesn’t know them, he doesn’t want to invite them. I understand, but we are paying for a very large chunk of the wedding (probably most of it) and he and his fiancée are paying the rest. Sadly, her mom is not able to contribute to the cost. He has decided not to send “save the date” cards to some of the people on our list and we will negotiate the invitation later, when its time. I just hope they order enough invitations.
@jym626, been there, done that. My S was adamant that if he didn’t know the people he did not want them at the wedding. As it turned out, we were unable to invite a good number of close friends he does know, let alone others who would have been more courtesy invitations. These wedding things are tricky. In the end, all was fine, but I still feel uncomfortable about a few people we did not invite. However, we also invited a few couples who had not received save-the-dates when room became available later in the process. In fact, we invited one couple only about two weeks before the wedding and they were very happy to join us, and did. Everyone here reassured me that people would understand…and they did.
I am glad yours worked out, @runnersmom. We had a very awkward situation with DS’s wedding when some of the people that helped to throw a shower for future DIL couldn’t be invited to the wedding. There is more to the story that is not worth getting into here (all these people were invited to a local large engagement party we hosted here, and the one who was the most openly angry/nasty/rude asked to bring a person I had never, ever met in my life to our very expensive engagement party so that her friend, who was visiting from out of town, could meet her friends who were coming to the engagement party. I of course said yes, and this was a very expensive party we hosted. So some total stranger came to our party on our dime. But I digress…
This go around, the shower will be hosted by one person who isn’t asking for help. But given the bad taste the last awkward situation left in my mouth from the rude verbal ass-whooping I got from the person who wasn’t invited to the wedding (due to the small venue my DS and his wife chose) , I won’t make that mistake again.