Speaking of no memory of hearing it, I had to ask DS#2 and DIL what they had at their recent wedding. I truly did not recall. They had a guitar soloist play a song from their favorite band for the groom and bridal party’s processional, and 2 Beatles songs, one for the bride entering and one for the recessional. Again, I did not recall, but it was special to them.
Crazy Rich Asian’s wedding theme song was “Can’t Help Falling in Love.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zZkih54evUs
Too bad D1’s wedding is over, but I still have D2 (she would kill me).
Music at wedding is a very personal choice.
DD and SIL took a lot of time picking their first dance music. They used a very contemporary violin piece…the only “recorded” music of the evening. DD gave DH the go ahead to choose father daughter dance, but she had veto. He choose My Girl (Temptations) and it was terrific.
The processional and recessional choices were really a team effort between DS a professional trumpet player who was going to be playing the music, the grooms dad who was also playing…and us. We sent DD a bunch of choices, and she chose.
But this is funny…our son and the grooms dad really hit it off at the rehearsal playing their four pieces and asked if they could play for 1/2 hour or so while guests were coming in. Everyone agreed it was fine. We had no idea what they were going to play…but it all was terrific!
I would lean towards letting them play the Masters theme if that is what they choose, whether I personally like it or not. I think it personalizes the ceremony. DS and DIL did not have strong preferences for the processional and had the DJ recommend. For their first dance they picked a song from The Flash (Running Home to You) which is one of DS’s favorite TV shows. It is a love song and I doubt anyone knew it was from The Flash. For the Mother/Son dance we picked You’ll Be in My Heart from Tarzan because as a kid he LOVED Disney movies.
Weddings should be personal and fun … they are events to be enjoyed. It’s really important to try to keep that perspective, and it does seem many here have been able to do so. And I think some who worried found out that the worry was needless, because it was all wonderful in the end.
S and D-i-l used “Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Elvis for their first dance. I think they picked it mostly because it was slow/short and they aren’t dancers. They did a good job, though. I thought they must’ve practiced a lot to look that natural, but S said they only practiced once the night before. He was singing to her as they danced, which was sweet.
Honestly, I don’t remember hardly any music from the 50+ weddings I’ve been to. The only thing that comes to mind as “awful” was the off-key “Theme from Ice Castles” sung in church right before the pastel rainbow bridesmaids processed in at a friend’s wedding back in the '80’s.
I think it’s a good sign that the groom is involved enough in the process to care about the processional music. And it seems appropriate if he is into golf. I watch golf now and again but the song itself is not over the top. And his parents sound involved as well in terms of the rehearsal dinner. The wedding sets the tone for their future. They want a personal experience and probably have discussed the music . If you have already discussed your concerns, I would let it go. You may not want to risk alienating your daughter and her chosen and his family over a song. Hope the wedding is wonderful!
The only music I can remember from a wedding was a friend’s more than 40 years ago. Their first dance was to “She a good hearted woman in love with a good-timin’ man.” I do not know if it was planned or just the next song up on the play list, but we were all laughing about it.
Our good friends danced their first dance to You are Always on My Mind. It is the only first song I recall from any of the many weddings I have attended through the years. They were divorced within six months.
Wow, nice wedding photos.
https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/hilary-swank-wears-elie-saab-195108425.html
But those Louboutins! In a redwood forest?! Yikes. (“Something blue” likely refers to custom wedding shoes he makes - instead of the signature red soles, they have blue ones)
@BunsenBurner thanks for sharing. Agree those are stunning wedding photos.
I’ve agreed to make snack bags for the cabins for my S’s wedding. Suggestions as to what items you’ve put in that have been hits. Also how do account for multiple people. Some of the cabins will have 4 or 5 guests. I don’t think I want to make individual bags.
The best thing in a recent gift bag was a little snack size ziploc that had an emergency kit in it. Some Tylenol, bandaids, I forget what else…but I just popped it onto my purse. Never used it…so popped it onto my purse for the next event!
At a Bat Mitzvah, we got a black umbrella with the gal’s name on it. It rained all weekend, so,that was handy.
@mom60, if you don’t want to do individual bags (1 per person), then you can do one per cabin once you know how many people will be in each cabin. If you’re dealing with 4-5 people, I’d probably use small boxes, rather than bags and make sure there’s enough of everything to go around. I did that for my S’s wedding when I knew that certain families were staying in one room and that there would be more than two people. Depending on the number of cabins, it’s not really more work than making an individual bag for each guest. My boxes had water, personalized M&Ms in 2oz. mason jars, granola bars, potato chips (the bride’s go to snack), Ghiradhelli chocolate squares, clementines, and emergency kits as described by @thumper1, above. Everyone was very happy with the treats!
We did the ziploc snack size “emergency hangover kit” too- it had 2 little 2 packs of Advil (one tablet, one liquigel), bandaids and a small roll of tums or Rolaids. Also included in the gift bag were snack sizes of items that were things they ate in college (Cheetos, Welch’s fruit snacks, chewy granola bars) and we also had small bottles of water, snack size Milano cookies, Godiva dark chocolate ganache hearts, mints and the welcome letter. There was something else but I forget what. IF I happen to look at the Costco receipt (its in the pile to be put with this months bill) I’ll report back. We got great feedback on the goodies. Big hit.
This cater is driving me crazy. In checking out buffet prices, she tells me that buffet prices include ONE meat entree, ONE salad, and two sides. If I want to offer another meat or salad, I have to order and additional 100 servings of each for my 100 guests “because they might all choose the same meat or the same salad.” Please tell me I’m not the crazy one.
That does sound off.
You are not crazy.
the whole idea of having a buffet is to have variety of food, otherwise you would have a sit down. They should know how many different meat options they should offer to 100+ people.
Yup, an experienced caterer should have a rough idea, based on previous experience, on quantities for a buffet without needing to have enough of every single item for each of the 100 guests. Not only is that expensive, it is wasteful. Or she’s just trying to rip you off.
I think the “rip off” theory may be at work here. The venue requires everyone use this caterer. My next call is to the catering co. owner, followed by a call to the venue owner.