The only nearby hotel is a Country Inn and Suites and our wedding is Labor Day weekend. They have already reserved a block of rooms, with a 10% discount, and have offered to give us a free shuttle bus if we book at least 30 rooms. I think that’s a great deal.
Or maybe offer to research it for them?
My S is getting married at the same mountain venue @jym626 mentioned. Our wedding date isn’t graduation but freshmen move in weekend. Rates are expensive.
My D is getting married next June and I realize that while it is not any special event weekend it is expensive to stay on the Ca coast in June and many places have a 2 or 3 night minimum stay.
And we didn’t even get a referral fee, @mom60 8-> oh well ;). But, tip- my SIL tried several websites and stumbled upon a deal at that hotel (assume you mean the Hilton) for the wedding/graduation weekend, and booked her room (outside the room block- but a much better rate). She then copied the reservation confirmation, we sent it to DIL’s mother who had made the reservation/room block, and they worked with her to adjust the price for the room bock. Still wasn’t cheap, but was better than what they had. Oops on move-in weekend …
Speaking of SF. I’m headed to CA soon and we thought staying a bit south of SF (on our way south, next day,) one night, might be less expensive than the city.
Not. If it isn’t some local function or move in/out on your wedding weekend, it can be business travels and expense accounts mucking things up.
@lookingforward - we were out there a year ago for the birth of our granddaughter. It happened to be during their huge worldwide security conference in SV and the Hampton Inn and Embassy Suites next door were… over $400/night!! We chose the HI because it was small and easy to get around in on my knee scooter with my then newly broken ankle. Those were the best prices we could find in the area we needed to be in (we ended up near the airport).
Jym, yes, I found way higher than 400 in Burlingame, San Mateo and others south of those. (I was starting with Marriott and its brands.) It turned out to be less to spend that extra night in SF, even at a popular spot.
So my advice for these away venues is not to assume it’ll work out or guests will find “something.”
The hotel they used for DS#2’s recent wedding in the general area you mentioned @lookingforward, was lovely, and $139/night.
In our case, free to stay where we want, I used points for one SF night and we’re paying higher for the other, but divided, it works out to be good.
When I went to my godson’s wedding in remote IL, there were 3 choices in town. That was all. One B&B, booked, one trucker’s sort of stop, and a regional chain, which turned out to be wonderful. If that hadn’t been available, it would have been about an hour to the next reasonable place. Between the wedding party/guests, and a few others, we booked the whole place. We ended up playing musical chairs, I ened up sharing with MOG to give another friend his own room. At one point, we didnt think there was a room for the brother of the groom.
It’s not something to assume will work out. If it does, super.
The issue is resolved. My son just texted that they will avoid the Marathon weekend, and thanks for giving them a warning. :-h
I would have preferred a wedding in nyc, but bulk of guests were from the groom’s side and travel costs were also a big concern to them. Even though we were paying for the wedding, MOG did speak up. We found a location where everyone was happy with. MOG was also very insistent on having a sit down rehearsal meal, but we wanted a welcome party, so they ended up hosting a small rehearsal lunch and the welcome party.
I am all about speaking up.
@bookworm, glad it worked out, and I am sure they were happy you gave them heads up.
Thx, Oldfort. Since it took them several,days to decide to,shift the date, I suspect they did their own homework.
Three weeks from yesterday! I’m feeling good about the tasks I came away with from our recent planning session. I’ve got dessert ordered for the dinner at D’s apartment with both sets of parents and sibs on Thursday night (D’s dad has never met groom’s parents, so we are potucking a dinner to make that happen). I’ve arranged the food for the suite where hair and makeup is being done (bagels & coffee am, sandwiches & salad around noon). The memory table is all set, I just need to print and frame the sign for it. Stickers for food and allergies for escort cards are ordered.
A little bit of last minute wresting with RSVPs, as expected. 2 of my cousins have ignored texts from a few days ago, and I left them phone messages today. (Weirdly, knowing them, this is more likely a sign that they ARE coming than that they aren’t). And I hope they are, as one is my particular favorite. 
My ex-BIL (D’s uncle and my dear friend) is having some drama – he was going to bring his wife, who has Alzheimer’s along with a friend of theirs who lives in the area of the wedding to help with her. But wife has had some new health issues starting a couple of weeks ago, so now her ability to travel and attend is unsure. Ex-BIL is supposed to be a reader at the wedding, too. D has asked another relative on that side to be a backup reader just in case none of them come. So the ex-BIL has not RSVPed for his party group yet. For understandable reasons, but still trying to organize tables, and caterer needs to know meal numbers and choices by next Friday. And ex-BIL isn’t the best communicator in good times.
My ex-H is pestering D about transportation options for the wedding. D’s apartment (for Thurs night dinner that he asked for) is 40 miles from the airport where he is flying in that afternoon (not far from the venue), and he booked a hotel back up near the venue for that night. But he doesn’t want to rent a car. I’m baffled. I checked, they aren’t hugely expensive even at this late date. His driving skills are perfectly fine. Yes, there is a fee to park at the hotel, but he has not contributed a penny to the wedding, and the fee isn’t that much. I offered to help book the car in case his computer skills aren’t up for it (possible). He said no. I finally told him to stop stressing the bride about his transportation, and just take care of it. He needs to be at the Thursday dinner and get to the rehearsal on Friday at the venue (there is a shuttle for the wedding). He’s never taken an uber in his life, and it is really a long ways for that anyway, so… It just makes me happy I’m not married to him any more. 
And D and I were talking about her aunt on her dad’s side who has had a lot of conflict with the rest of the family for years, and D decided to NOT invite her. But the wedding info is all easily searchable online. We were talking about, what if she just shows up? As D said, there is no dinner for her, and she will ask her dad and ex-BIL (brothers of the aunt) to handle her if it happens.
@intparent -Your ex can get to know his daughter’s impending in laws by bumming a ride from them!
And @bookworm - sounds like you did the HW- otherwise they might not have been aware of the marathon.
All the best, @intparent. Most sounds good; somethings are beyond one’s control.
What is it with people who assume they don’t need to be responsible for their own transportation? My single brother who loves to drive otherwise and is fiscally secure decided to skip a rental car for DD’s wedding. We told him as hosts we were out of the chauffeur business, as were B/G and wedding party. He said uber would work. Which it did, after all possible family members were shook down, including father of 3 under 8 with a 7+month pregnant wife tied up as matron of honor. Really? He had the least to look out for (himself) and it was annoying that he seemed oblivious to the bigger picture.
Think your DD is on right track with aunt. DD password protected most of her wedding website for similar reasons.
Enjoy it all. Consider making a “schedule” for yourself to take it all in every hour or so, walk around, get a special photo, whatever matters. It moves so fast.
Husband fretted about transportation from hotel to wedding venue for guests but we finally decided “uber is our friend” and let it go.
We will be attending a wedding the same weekend as the college’s graduation (large school/college town, will have inflated hotel prices)…in part due to the young people and others who will be in town for graduation. However we will travel back out of that area and either stay with one or the other of our DDs or use H’s points (from business travel) with a hotel. DDs I imagine will be invited as their whole family was invited to our DD’s wedding.
DD got her gown! We were only going to “Look” since it’s so difficult for her to make decisions. She tried on quite a few, all in the style she preferred. One of her maids pulled a different style since we felt she should round things out by trying something different. It was the one! She actually made a decision! And it looks beautiful. It turned out to be discontinued (they hadn’t marked it and it fit her, other than length will need minor alterations) so she got it for half off! Bonus!
Nice! Alterations can be pricey!