Congrats! So how did they choose to handle the references to his golf passion?
Great report! Sounds like it was a huge success!
Congratulations. Sounds like a great success.
No golf references except during the toasts of his senior year HS project he did with 3 buddies to play all the miniature courses in their state (and he beat them all by a mile, even playing left handed). ?
Congrats to you and the happy couple, @intparent!
Congratulations, @intparent . Sounds like a lovely time. Glad you could enjoy all the moments.
Now I know to bring a sewing kit.
With extra white thread (or whatever color the gown is). ?
Pinch Provisions makes lots of “emergency kits”. They are small and brilliant! There is one especially for a bridesmaid: (you can usually find them at Anthropologie)
https://www.pinchprovisions.com/products/minimergency-kit-for-bridesmaids
Those pinch provisions are adorable, @greenwitch!
How did your children handle inviting children to the wedding? My son’s cousins have children and all 10 or older. I don’t know about brides family. They would like to,keep it an adult wedding. I wonder that if the teens are not invited, the couple won’t come. All my family will be flying to the wedding.
D1 cut it off at age 16. Groom had a lot of young cousins, so we had to make a cut off. They all came without their uninvited children.
Congratulations, @intparent. I’m glad things went so well.
@bookworm, my S and DIL invited their wedding party (6 children under 8) and infants who couldn’t be away from their moms. Otherwise, the youngest “children” at the wedding were my S’s 14-17 year old cousins. A friend of my younger S is getting married soon and her mother is adamant that the groom’s young cousin (who is in the wedding party) not be invited to the reception. Personally, I don’t get the problem.
There were 200 people at my kids’ wedding and I barely noticed the youngest children. The babies spent the evening in car seats or their parents’ arms and the young children hung with their parents who seemed to have a really good time. On the other hand, my H’s best friend left his older teens (not invited) in the hotel (they had flown in from Chicago) while he and his wife came to the wedding; it didn’t keep them from attending.
To me, family is different, and I guess I’ve never understood what makes something an “adult” wedding when we’re talking a few related kids. *NOTE: The mothers of two of the infants exited the ceremony when the babies started to fuss and no one even noticed. Of course, at my kids’ request, those two mothers also did readings or read one of the seven blessings and they brought the babies up with them. It was a wonderful example of the cycle of life. But this was at the bride’s and groom’s specific request.
I guess, as with everything wedding-related, YMMV.
Oher than the 9 mo old niece/flowergirl (older s’s daughter) there were no kids at DS#2’s wedding.
In some cases I have heard of families arranging childcare.
Agree with you, @runnersmom. In my family, children are invited as we view weddings to be family celebrations and therefore mini-reunions in a way. We’d all miss the children if they were left out.
Why do people object so strongly to children at weddings? Is it a cost issue? Do you feel weddings are “too fancy” for kids?
We’ve discussed this before and, since then, I’ve rethought. Thing is, in some areas- my local neighborhood area, eg- it’s remarkable that I almost never hear/see babies or toddlers fussing. If anything, it’s one peep.Parents walk with them, take them to the market, sit with them in the coffee shops, take them to church…and they’re happy and quiet.
On my recent vacation, I heard this fussing/screaming routinely. Everywhere. To me, it is very ymmv. It may be the 'cycle of life ’ but I didn’t want my own wedding service interrupted.
We did have 3 friends who’d recently had babies, the oldest was 7 months. When I mentioned we had childcare set up, in the church building, two immediately said they’d already made their own arrangements. One (wife of the best man) let it be known that if her infant wasn’t invited, she wouldn’t come. This was the father’s lifetime church, too. They knew the church ladies who tended babies routinely.
So I think this works at least two ways. Parents who insist their small kids belong at a solemn event (and those of you who don’t mind,) and those who prefer an adult event. Either is ok, if it’s what you want.
Maybe that’s the difference with my thinking. I wouldn’t consider a preferred wedding atmosphere to be solemn. We take the commitments themselves seriously but see weddings as celebratory. Using solemn to describe a wedding would not be in the first 50 adjectives that would come to my mind.
To each their own. Just trying to understand the thinking as it differs so much from my own thoughts on weddings.
Plus, I just really like kids and feel they add to the events rather than detract.
My D is having a very small wedding, only 20 people including the bride and groom. The 20 people includes siblings but no dates for the siblings. There is no one invited that has small kids, the youngest is my 20 yo son as the brother of the bride.
The reception will be bigger and there will be kids invited. It will be a big family party. In fact, D was annoyed that a cousin will turn 18 between now and the reception. It means a higher plate cost for the dinner. 
Dos, I use solemn here same as I think I did in past discussions on kids. Not grave, somber, or funerial, but a serious life event. Well behaved kids? No issue. But I’ve been at weddings and others where kids did scream, run, talk, and it did affect others. Most recently, a funeral. Woe to the folks sitting behind those kids: me and two other adult cousins. While the whole family was happy to see each other, the interruptions were difficult.