Those are sweet, @oldfort
@fretfulmother I love when whatever it is feels affectionate. That’s what so many of us hope to have. Whether it’s “Mom” or the firstname, it can be a nice sense we’re all in this together. It’s always tough to hear some parents-in-law can’t loosen up.
And I do like when regional traditions play. Always loved the southern traditions to use Mama or Miss.
@fretfulmother That dress was the only one I tried that did not need to be hemmed with a low heel shoe. The length was great and if at all it is very slightly longer on back. I am about 5’5” tall and not slim. It is very forgiving.
@Singersmom07 - Have a great time! Funny how many of us have worn that same dress as MOB or MOG! It is comfortable, flattering and washable!! A friend accidentally bumped my arm and spilled my red wine all over me/my dress! (And I hope you also got it on sale!)
From the start, our kids’ friends have called us by our first names (as they did their pre-school and elementary teachers-public school). With few exceptions, it was the norm locally. Our SIL always called us our first names., while our D called her now in-laws Mr. and Mrs. X. When they became engaged, she shifted to first names. We share a warm relationship with our SIL; asked him what he would like to call us and he chose to continue with first names. H and I called our in-laws by first names, too.
So many possibilities that can work well; the options aren’t necessarily fraught, but sadly people can make them so.
All the years DH and I dated, his parents were Mr. & Mrs. Lastname. When we married, there was no way I was going to call them Mom & Dad nor Mr. & Mrs., so I called them nothing (seems I’m not the only one to do that). DH had no problem calling my mother Mom, nor did DH’s sibs’ spouses have a problem calling his parents Mom & Dad, so my non-name for them was pretty obvious.
When S1 got married, we let FDIL know that she could call us Mom & Dad if she chose, but that first names would be just fine. She chose our first names. S calls her parents by their first names too.
We see DIL’s family at events like DIL’s baby shower or GD’s birthday, but I’d have trouble getting together for holidays. Her immediate family is much larger than ours, so I sometimes feel like I’m just a fly on the wall at their family get-together. They’re not rude or unwelcoming, just talking about things that have nothing to do with us.
I’m the OP of this thread - and my S and his wife will be celebrating their 4th anniversary this June! And with their union we recently have a grandpup - haha - no kids in the forecast for awhile and that’s FINE.
Anyway, with the new year upon us I thought it would be fun to see whose weddings “we” will be celebrating on this thread in 2020!
Who has a 2020 wedding coming up? Maybe share (if you’re willing) any components like son or daughter, local or destination wedding, small/medium/large event, - or any other details you’d like to share!
@abasket -Wow! Happy anniversary to your S and DIL!
Our older s will celebrate his fifth anniversary this year, and our younger s will celebrate his second. And we will celebrate our 36th! (The anniversary of the day we met is next week.) So, we have no weddings this year in our family, its fun to watch and share with our compadre’s here.
Two of our s’s sister in laws/brother in laws and a nephew are in serious relationships, so might possibly be invited to a wedding (though none are engaged yet). Two friends kids are marrying this year - we have the date of one of the 2 on the calendar so far, but the other isn’t finalized yet. Its less stressful when its someone else’s event, though I will be co-hosting one of the bridal showers.
May I also say Happy Anniversary to your S and DIL, @abasket. This may be redundant but in the spirit of @abasket’s post #9206 (wow!):
S1 will celebrate his 3rd wedding anniversary in September 2020 and they are the parents of our delicious 14-month-old GS.
S2 is getting married on 3/21/20, right around the corner! They are having a pretty formal evening wedding for about 200 people in a historic mansion venue that is local and pretty special to our family. It’s where we had Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebrations for all three of our kids, so we’re moving on to the next life cycle event. Some not atypical tensions have arisen among the parties during the planning process, but I’ve shared those in previous posts. Now that it’s 10 weeks away and invitations are being received by friends and family, things are beginning to feel real!
Anyone else?
Well first disaster has struck. I have been uneasy about their wedding planner in the DR but stayed out of it. He had her recommended from a good friend of his. Yesterday as final payment was due she told them the food they had chosen was out of budget and her assistant gave them the wrong menu to choose from. She sent the “right” one and DD hates it. It is boring and standard buffet fair. FSIL is trying to deal with it there while working. Sigh. I am just a sounding board at this point. Wedding is next Saturday.
OMG, @Singersmom07 ! That is outrageous! The wedding planner/her assistant made the error- they should eat (pun intended) the cost of the approved menu items!
Oh, @Singersmom07, I’m sorry that issues are starting to pop up. Hopefully FSIL will be able to convince them that it was their error, therefore their responsibility. Had the menu been part of the contract or confirmed in any way?
I prefer my first name. I never go by Mrs Tx5athome. I have my Pharm. D so technically I am Dr Tx5athome. But even at work I go by my first name. My DIL calls me by my first name (or now that they have a daughter sometimes Grandma first name). My parents and in-laws are very close. We all live in the same area and spend a lot of time together. We are friendly with DIL’s family, but not “holiday” friendly and we are not in the same neighborhood. Son and DIL live with her parents (while saving for a house), so they definitely see more of her family than ours, but make an effort to come up and see his (1-2 hrs away) once or twice a month. Future SIL’s (wedding in MARCH) parents are divorced. We have not met his father, but have met the mother numerous times. She is about 7 hours away, but we will invite her to all holidays. Future SIL is not very close to his dad, but is very close to his paternal grandparents and aunt/uncle/cousins. We tried to invite them up (about an hour away) for a kind of meet and greet, but I don’t think they are interested. So I guess we will meet them at the wedding.
@runnersmom Unfortunately I can only suggest things. Contract is in the DR and in Spanish so I have no idea what it says. They are trying to work it out. FSIL would be the one to deal with it. His mom has been helping out though.
My DD is getting married March 28th. It is a Saturday Brunch wedding. It is at a restaurant near the beach with a large patio for events. There is no bridal party. My sister will be the officiant (she also did DS’s wedding in 2018). It is “adults only” so no kids. Invites went out in November (before the Christmas card season). RSVPs are online and we are still waiting on a lot of my extended family.
@fretfulmother the dress singersmom bought has an even hem all the way around. Not longer in the back.
It’s a great dress! I wore it in lavender to our daughters wedding. Very comfy!
I like the way Kate and William dress their kids. It is a bit old fashioned but they always look nice. And not uncomfortable.
When I had portraits done of my kids, I dressed them up. They weren’t in their play clothes but Sunday best.
William and Charles were in suits, George was in a very acceptable dressed up little boy outfit.
@deb922 - was the post above meant for the Prince Harry thread?
@fretfulmother and @singersmom- agree with @thumper1 - the dress hem is even.But I found out the hard way that if it is an outdoor event, the dress picks up sticks, and brambles and pricier things like you wouldn’t believe! I was pulling those things out forever before I could throw it in the wash to get the spilled wine out of the dress.
Lol @jym626, it was! Opps
D & SIL will be married 2 years in May (time flies). Our grand pup just turned 1and will have to be enough for the near future. SIL calls us by our first names, which is fine by us. H & I will celebrate 37 years in May. We have always called each other’s parents by their first names, although for years we pretty much avoided having to call them anything.
Although we are not “friends,” we enjoy D’s in laws. D likes to entertain, so she has decided to host holidays at her house … both families + assorted friends are invited. (We all live in the same area.). It has worked out well.