I was very lucky. Really, no venting that I recall other than whining a bit about guests we had to track down for RSVPs. I think I enjoyed working with our daughter on her wedding plans because I had a good friend who was planning her daughter’s wedding at the same time. It was fun to compare notes, get ideas, etc. The weddings were different but both were so much fun!
Honestly folks, enjoy this time. The 6 hours or so of the wedding will zip by so quickly you won’t believe it. So…enjoy!
I agree. My daughter’s wedding was just amazing, every single minute of it. However, see the biting-your-tongue thread for the aftermath. I do hope she trusts me to see the photos and watch the video eventually so I can relive the event.
I don’t doubt that most people will enjoy and cherish the day or weekend or how we many days the event goes.
But believe it or not, planning a wedding and all that goes along with it isn’t everyone’s dream come true. My D wanted very much to be married and in the end loved the weekend. The whole planning part? Never something she was dying to do and dreamed forever of doing. As her mom, happy to do bits of planning with her or listen to her and fiancé but also not on my list of “can’t wait to spend oodles of time planning this event” It’s ok to have mixed feelings here and there. That doesn’t diminish the day itself.
I was lucky in that my D is a planner and enjoyed doing it. She and SIL put together the guest list (they ran it by us) took care of sending out the invitations and did almost all of the planning. I did go with her to look at dresses and talk with the wedding planner.
Me,too.
Have the best day!
Awww so sweet for May 4th! Have the best time!!!
Fabulous! Hope you have a wonderful weekend of celebrations.
“May the fourth be with you” 
I hope everything went really well. Report back when you have time please.
In all my years of going to Jewish weddings I have never been to a wedding at a synagogue. Maybe that because there is no religious requirement to be married in a synagogue ,even among the very most religious. The only requirement is for witnesses, a recitation of vows and the giving of something of value to the bride ( in the form of the ring in most cases).
Huh! I’ve also never been to a Jewish wedding in a synagogue, and I’ve been to many! Just never thought about it before.
Yes a wedding in a synagogue would be considered no more special or religiously important than one in a hotel or restaurant. It’s my understanding that this is not the case with a “ church wedding “ but I live in an admitted bubble so don’t really know if that’s the case.
I’ve been to a wedding in a synagogue. It was 35 years ago.
On a Sunday, the reception was at a local country club.
Conservative synagogue.
Been to a bar mitzvah, the congregation was Reformed. We were so honored to be invited. It was very moving.
Hope I said things correctly
Hasidic families in Brooklyn have huge weddings in their synagogues. Genders separated and each side dances the night away.
It’s “Reform “ not “Reformed” but yes “ Conservative” and yes “Synagogue” ,or “ Congregation”. Members of the Reform movement may refer to their place of worship as a “Temple” but Conservative and Orthodox Jews don’t use that term for reasons I won’t get into here.
My wedding many long years ago was in a synagogue (reception at a hotel). Brother’s wedding was at the Drake Hotel.
The synagogue weddings I have been to have all had the cocktail hour and reception in catering rooms attached to the synagogue. That said, I have not been to a synagogue wedding in years.
On the show Four Weddings, they’ve had a few weddings in synagogues, often very very expensive ones.
Last Thursday we went for food tasting for D2’s wedding. I said I liked the steak and the fish. They said to me that we only had one entre choice and a vegan option based on the package D2 chose. I also wasnt complete happy with with the wine options. They said we had the option to upgrade. D2 then told me that if we didn’t do our own lighting then the venue could look like a conference hall. By the way, the walls would a bit bare without some greenery. I took a deep breath, put on a smile, and said let’s do it.
We are almost done with all the planning, and most rsvps are in. We are having a shower for D2 in 2 weekends.
