For one of my kids wedding, I found a timeshare that also rents when not full. I was able to find condos to rent for our family. So together but we had room to ourselves when needed. And lots of bathrooms to get ready.
It sounds like you aren’t in charge of that.
While it was nice to have everyone close, with all the wedding events, we didn’t spend much to any time together.
I’m not sure if I’m interpreting things correctly but I have one kid that discussing things makes them anxious so there wasn’t a lot of communication. I had to respect that because they are adults. The lack of communication was difficult
Too bad they aren’t getting married by me. Our Airbnb next door is 6 BR, 4.5 BA newly renovated for $500/night. Having an Airbnb next door actually so far - knock on wood - have been much better neighbors than some of our previous ones. Usually empty, groups come in for the weekend, looks like for weddings and funerals.
But oh my. My kids know that I’d have to have my own space. That many people together? Shudder.
What about a Bread and Breakfast? For one family wedding, most of the family stayed at one B and B, and the rest of us stayed at another (it’s a big family). The one we stayed in had about 10 rooms, a great breakfast, and a 5 star chef restaurant. It was great. It was like a big house.
We did the same for our kid’s college graduation….rented a whole B and B. That’s like staying in a house together.
The nice thing about a B and B is they serve you breakfast at least.
We would need 8 bedrooms, and I have not found anything a reasonable distance that size (and now I understand it is not my problem to find it). Their solution is to have people double up, or find a place with bunkbeds…
And to think I was privately congratulating myself for knowing this is not the time to ask if their officiant is legal in our state (nope, I already know the answer) and do they know that means they need a special kind of license?
We had a family member who tried this and they actually assigned guests to shared rooms! Let’s just say, we were all glad when that wedding date was cancelled due to COVID. A few of us had already expressed some doubt about the room assignments. As an example, they paired my newly married daughter and husband with my a great aunt and uncle who were in their 80’s. Who would think that’s a good idea.
When this wedding was rescheduled, they didn’t do room assigning, but we still opted to stay NOT at the inn where the room block was reserved.
Perhaps some folks will opt to find their own more convenient and private lodging.
Bunk beds. Oh my. Hopefully some people are young enough. I probably would be like “I’m happy enough to stay at this place until late in the evening, but im going to have to sleep in a hotel.
So true. My happy go lucky, upbeat daughter was pretty darn emotional a couple days before the wedding - ALL the feels. Lots of anxious tears. She def needed to go in a room and close the door for a few mins a few times jist to settle her emotions down!
While it’s not your problem to find the place, I’m wondering about a nearby park that might have a lodge if some sort. Hate to say it but think Scout camp!
I would insist on having a bedroom and attached bathroom for H and myself. You may need a bit of down time over the weekend and you definitely want to get ready in comfort. If this means staying in a different location so be it. I would make that clear upfront.
As parents of the groom, you just end up seeing what venue they select and go from there.
I see some of the pre and post arrangements similar for weddings and funerals. I flew in, rented a car, and had 3 nights’ hotel stay near my very good friend’s home (I asked her if she wanted me to come, and she said yes). I know more about some of her family (and have attended more events of her nuclear family) than many of those relatives that came for the funeral (which was near where many of them live).
The widow’s daughter complained (to her mom) that the parents’ purchased home (for retirement) was not ‘big enough’ for the family gathering – which actually the evening before it was fine – an outdoor cookout with nice weather. There was a luncheon at the church after the funeral services, and they had a ‘meet up’ at a city park reserved space after funeral services close to widow’s home. Later that day, almost all traveled off, and some remaining were shuttling people to the major airport not far away.
I put this in the category of young people’s ideas (or significant parent) – that it is one thing if the bride-to-be and/or groom-to-be have the resources (or their family is providing the place or the resources) for their ‘ideal’ scenario.
On DD2’s last visit to our home, she suggested we replace our perfectly fine sectional; DD1 also thought this was ‘ridiculous’, as it looks fine and functions fine. But DD2 is not what you consider ‘thrifty’ and has a way to go on her finances (likes to live above her means).
The weekend went by so fast. We started celebrating Friday night with dinner down at Chinatown. We had the tea ceremony and welcome party on Saturday at a Brooklyn restaurant with nice backyard that they decorated with lights and flowers.
On Sunday it started at 10am with hair and makeup. We were all tense about the weather because the venue texted us to see if we wanted move the ceremony indoor and we had to make a decision by 11. We saw the chance of rain was 50% at 6pm, but decided to take a chance with an outdoor ceremony. It turned out to be the right choice. It didn’t rain and cooled down by the time we had the ceremony/cocktail.
The venue was beautiful with flowers in full bloom. The reception was in their green house. It was decorated with very whimsical flower arrangements. The band very much respected our wishes to play soft music during the meal time and they really rocked the floor after that. I think everyone was on the dance floor, even my 86 year old mother.
Ok, now I am glad it’s over.
Weather can always be a problem with outdoor activities. It also is a bummer when people go into a venue with a lot of rain (or snow) and ladies in particular have to keep their hair/makeup/dress/shoes looking great.
Nephew’s wedding - indoors would have ‘worked’ but it would have been very crammed, as there was not the stand up space. For the dance after dinner, they had to remove some tables to create a dance floor area.
Glad the wedding and all turned out with weather cooperating!
at least they want family togetherness!
