FWIW thinking back to the MOB/MOG dresses I’ve seen at weddings, virtually all were a solid color.
Mine was not! 
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Nor my most recent
D had no preferences in what either I or SIL’s mom wore. My dress was short (just above the knee) and SIL’s mom wore a long dress.
Both of us moms spoke at the reception, really just welcoming everyone. Neither of the dads are comfortable doing that. There were 135 guests and I recall we did use a mic.
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Neither my MOG or MOB dresses were solid. Both were short. Solid and long = not me!
Re: the mic…I just wanted to add, any speeches or vows during a wedding are too precious and important to not be heard. If you have any doubt whether everyone would be able to hear, use a mic of some sort. Hand held or standing.
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Both I (MOG) and MOB wore blue dresses for the wedding by co-incidence. Both were solid colors. I just sent a photo to DIL and she approved.
I wanted knee/tea length and found such a dress. MOB also co-incidentally chose similar length. Venue had brick/concrete floor and I didn’t want to deal with potential snagging or tripping.
I agree that if you found a dress you love, I’d snap a photo and send it to bride. Maybe you could get wear it for another wedding-related event?
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The bride and groom haven’t done much more than pick a date , venue, and I guess they have confirmed an officiant and attendants. Oh, and they also have a block of hotel rooms and a venue for arrival meal and Sunday brunch. I don’t know of any general color scheme or thematic thread and asking (I think) tends to come across as criticism of them for not having more “done”. I think I’ll just buy the dress, and keep looking for a sure thing until someone tells me more. I am trying hard to show FDIL that we can be trusted to stay in our lane, but still be interested in the process and planning.
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I wore a dress with black background, big flowers, floor length, at my daughter’s wedding. I was given a handheld mic for my toast to bride and groom. Son-in-law’s mom wore a solid color long dress. The bridesmaids all wore different shades of green and MOG and I were instructed not to dress in that color.
As it happened, the flowers on my dress matched the flowers in my daughter’s bouquet almost perfectly.
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The DJ gave everyone who spoke at our D’s outdoor wedding a hand held microphone and it worked fine.
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From a photographic viewpoint a coordinated neutral color palette will make for the most cohesive pictures. A person in bold print or different color will immediately draw the eye and become the focus of the picture.
Larger the hall or softer the speakers will increase the need for a microphone. Outside venue demands a mic in most instances.
Some venues are incredibly noisy–the more glass, tile, high ceilings, and lack of sound absorbing rugs/window coverings the worse it gets even if the space itself is not large. I went to a rehearsal dinner where I don’t think anyone could hear the speeches. Even though the place wasn’t large just the staff clearing dishes and swinging doors became a distraction–mics would have been welcome.
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I’m having this issue now. I want to wear a short (knee) length dress and everything I’m finding is black. I don’t want black because the bridesmaids are wearing green in several shades, the men blue suits and I don’t want to be the black blob in all the pics. I’m finding a few in green but my daughter doesn’t want me in green. She may lose this battle.
Last summer my nephew was married. My sister was not only MOG but the officiant. She found a navy dress and was okay with it, but later found a tan background dress with flowers (3D) on it and it was a much better choice. All the bridesmaid and MOB were in pastels and the flowers (gorgeous) were also those colors. Navy would have been okay but the flowery sheath dress was better.
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This is the second dress I wore at D2’s wedding. It was a formal wedding. I had a long dress for the ceremony and pictures and I changed into this for dancing. It is black, but very shinning. I will be wearing it to my nephew’s wedding this weekend.
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I think black can be fine, but it depends on what the bridal party wears. My sister would have looked fine as her daughter wore a black dress as she was ‘standing up’ for her brother and all the groomsmen wore tuxes, but the bridesmaids and MOB were in pastels. My sister’s dress was tan, not pastel, so sort of in between.
In my case, the groomsmen are wearing blue suits, so I’d be the only one in black. I think I’d stand out (in a bad way). I’m not a small person.
Son’s wedding is in 2 weeks and we finally have our dance song. We had our first dance lesson and it worked well for that. I’m so glad my dress is long to hide all my missteps!
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2 weeks! Its coming up!!!
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Wow just seems like you announced the engagement! Enjoy it all!!
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That was the song we danced too! So exciting!
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I was sort of surprised he was choosing the more sentimental songs.
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This was the first song my son suggested for his wedding, but in the end it just makes me too weepy and that’s not the look we were going for! Enjoy your dance! Someone here wisely said that it is likely to be the only time during the wedding that you will have him all to yourself
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My nephew picked the Lion King song for his mother/son dance. It was quick.
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