Thanks! I’ve been hoping for non humid weather like Midwest summers
Now that you mention it, my husband was just starting to become a little emotional at the end of his rehearsal dinner speech. He had to switch out what he was going to say at the end because he knew he wouldn’t be able to get it out. He doesn’t cry. I’ve seen him wipe his eyes 3 times, at dear family members funerals.
When he was telling me what he was going to say after he sat down, he had to stop because his voice was breaking. He started chuckling a little and said, “see I can’t even say it now”.
He gave an awesome speech, i was so proud of him. Spoke to them each directly, spoke about each of their individual strengths, their strengths as a couple, he talked about marriage. Heck…I think he could have been a minister or something.
When my son (let’s call him Danny), was about 18 months, my DH walked into our bedroom after work. I was with Danny and he was jumping up and down on our bed like a trampoline. When DH walked in the room he kept saying really loud, “watch Danny, Daddy”, “watch Danny, Daddy”, over and over.
He was going to end with that story and say, “Son, I’m watching you now”. But he couldn’t get it out. He did a great switch, I had no idea that wasn’t the end.
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A number of things kept me from being emotional - a lot of it was due to having to hostess in-laws for days before and after the weekend (wedding was in a city 100 miles S of our home, and BIL/GF brought in-laws to our home after the car trip from OOS), and being hostess was more like indentured servant due to neediness of in-laws (physical and psychological) and having to have so much ready at the house. FIL forgot to pack a shirt for the wedding, so I had to organize and send DH out to get the shirt just before leaving for the travel for rehearsal. I got my hair done before they arrived, so I did not have to go to the beauty shop with MIL - let DH take her (and she was very picky/complaining there, which I certainly didn’t need to hear!). Then I got the comment from her “when are you having your hair done?” - mine was already done… Had to cut our time short (doing other things with other family) the day after the wedding because MIL/FIL were ‘tired’ – I wish I would have insisted on late check out from hotel for them so they could have rested in the hotel - but of course MIL wanted to rest at our home because it was ‘home’. Missed those few extra hours with people who I would have enjoyed spending time with (from OOS). Before I had left for the rehearsal dinner (I missed the rehearsal because I needed to do some extra things before I drove the 100 miles and I sort of forgot to factor in the driving time) I had things ready at the house so that I could prepare the big dinner Sunday night. I felt very servile before and after the time in the other city. The wedding and reception dinner/music/dancing was terrific; the hotel was terrific. Other relatives took watch over in-laws (thank goodness!). I made sure all the guests got taken care of - DH was at the front of the group going into the reception hall and I was at the back end. DD/SIL had certain tasks that others were supposed to do after the reception was finished, but it turns out DH, a good friend, and I made sure things were done - including loading and transporting the wedding gifts.
No worries about weather as Cathedral wedding and reception in connected building. July wedding in the south - it was a hot day.
Non humid weather in Hawaii sounds like an oxymoron to me. Paradise always comes with warmth and humidity.
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I am non-sappy in general, I can never bring myself to write anything of the sort in cards or on Facebook. DD1 did not live with her husband before the wedding, so it wasn’t a “finally” thing, but I never felt like crying. Just happy (or sometimes nervous about timing working out etc). Also I didn’t have to give a speech so that might have brought on emotion. DD1 and I are the stoics, and DH and DD2 are the emotional ones. So we’ll see how next year’s wedding goes lol
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That just made me tear up, @conmama.
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FdiL is collecting ideas for decorating the aisle – they aren’t sure they even want to, but are worried it will look bare otherwise.
Venue is outdoors, center paved aisle, garden at the front and hedges surrounding ; seating for about 175 on benches. She loves wildflowers and plants but it is going to be summer and we don’t want a bunch of bees . The aesthetic is “classic but outdoors” not rustic. Ceremony late afternoon w reception at the same venue but inside an elegant barn (it was purpose built for weddings, not converted)
Ideas?
I decorated the isle by tying little bouquets of a rose and some greenery with bows to the chairs on both sides of the isle. Like this:
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That’s so pretty!
Something with some summer greenery like sage or lavender (so something a little scented) with a simple flower would be pretty. But the star of the aisle WILL be the couple! So I wouldn’t overdo it.
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One of the reasons DIL wanted outdoor wedding in courtyard with lots of greenery was that it cut down greatly on any need for flowers and greenery. A floor arrangement on either side of the couple during the wedding and a floral arrangement at each table and that was pretty much all. It was lovely and easy. They even rented the vases so they didn’t have to store them. My sister took all the flowers home and offered them to attendees at the brunch at her home the following day.
Another good thing about outdoors was it helped reduce infection risks.
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We had a lovely wedding on a beautiful Indiana day.
My favorite pic of my two daughters (who needs a groom?)
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Congrats!!! 
I love this photo! Congratulations!
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What a great photo of your beautiful daughters! Congratulations to the happy couple!
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What joy!
@twoinanddone that is a great picture! One to print and frame.
I’m trying to learn my Photoshop software so thought I would have some fun practicing. With an experienced editor using the original shot, you could turn this into something special.
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So @twoinanddone, tell us more about the wedding!
My younger D is getting married on Memorial Day ('25). They haven’t been planning for very long, but do have the venue, caterer, and photographer lined up. For my older D’s wedding, which was at a resort where we have a vacation home, H and I rented and paid for lodging for our siblings and their children. There were lots of options available and we rented two houses for everyone. Younger D’s wedding will be in our town (both she and her partner grew up here).
D just got a text from H’s sister who asked D if there was date for the wedding, since she needs to ask for time off now (she’s a nurse practitioner who works for a pediatrician).
D just told us she wasn’t planning on inviting her aunts and uncles because she doesn’t want to spend the money for their lodging; she says they’ll probably expect that since we did it for them for older D’s wedding. So, how do you politely tell family they’re not invited? Ugh.
It’s H’s siblings who are going to be upset. My brother passed away last year and his wife wouldn’t come. One of my nephews would definitely come, but the others wouldn’t.
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