Some photographers give the digital rights to their client; sometimes they give the rights for a select photo or two. We have always enjoyed photographers that have allowed others to snap photos even when they ‘set up’ the picture (this is not during the event where guests honor the ceremony time, and the photographer takes photos discretely). DD got digital rights, but she was so busy that she didn’t share with us until later - cousin took so many good photos that I used his photos for Cmas mail that year.
Yes. My daughters photographers package is for all rights.
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We got the digital rights to the pictures as part of the package with the photographer. I think thar is a fairly common thing nowdays – I would not hire a photographer without this inclusion.
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My daughter spoke with 4 different photographers and as you said the full right seems standard now.
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It was a fire hose of semi-information from S1 and FDiLover the holiday – lots of half-formed ideas and I practiced my poker face and only gave an faux opinion when specifically asked "do you have thoughts about ". Faux, because I have learned they already have an idea, and are merely looking for validation, not another idea or opposition. And at least they told her family they cannot bring their dogs, and at least S1 will get to have cake. (FDiL doesn’t love cake and wanted to not have one at all, for anyone, of any size)
I do miss the antiquated idea that the marriage ceremony is the centerpiece, not the reception. But I kept that thought to myself!
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Great typo!
lol on bringing ALL the dogs! Practicing your poker face indeed!
My kid had no cake at their wedding. Had key lime pie as I remember, definitely no cake. I was not asked for any input or actually was given any information either.
No father daughter dance, we were not told and so did not have any input on that either.
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My family has been cutting cake with an heirloom sentimental cake knife for decades, and he wanted to do that too but she didn’t want any cake, just her preferred dessert and I said could you not have both? And FDiL understandably didnt want to add finding a bakery to the to-do list and DH said could you not have MOH pick up a grocery store 10" round layer cake the day before and FDiL allowed as that ought to work out fine. She is very big on 100% most complicated ideas ever.
I had not known that 5 guest dogs were ever on the table! Can you imagine? who asks for that?! (And no, said dogs do not get along)
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As a first time MOG after being an MOB I’m having a difficult time with my poker face. Scratch that, I don’t have a poker face and I have been sharing my opinions, primarily with DS. I’m also waiting for the $$ shoe to drop because DH has a very large family and will not accept cutting any of them from the list (he will pay for them if necessary).
Guest dogs? Is that a thing now?
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My daughter and her BF are having the wedding they want and are paying for it. They are going to Spain, paying for the lodging for their 28 guests (but not me or his parents). They are inviting NO other family members like cousins and uncles and aunts. That’s part of the reason they are going to Spain because they don’t want a wedding with all these relatives, and I have to admit my family isn’t easy. Other daughter got married in October and she didn’t invite some relatives and there were hard feelings. She did invite my brother and HIS daughter wasn’t happy about it as she doesn’t speak to her father and it made some of us uncomfortable that she (niece) complained about it. So D#2 is avoiding that by not inviting any of them. I think inviting no relatives is better than inviting some (he has 8 aunts/uncles plus spouses, and she as 5, a bazillion cousins, and he has grandparents who cannot travel). And I’m okay with that solution.
They could have just eloped, but they chose this very small wedding instead. I may not go because I’ve had some health issues this year and it will be very hard on me. I just think what they really want is a wedding with just their friends who are their same age and not relatives. Again, I’m okay with that.
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I’d be sad if my DS and FDiL decided to go with just friends no family but I’d be ok with it bc it’s equal treatment for both families.
DS is very close to DH’s family and he wants all of them to attend the wedding. It’s FDiL’s family who is a bit put out by the numbers. I think some of it stems from the fact that they’re shocked by the cost of hosting the wedding in general. The parents seemed to base the initial wedding budget on what their wedding cost 30 years ago and today that won’t cover the wedding the DFiL or the MOB are envisioning.
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Prices of food and venues are definitely more now than 30+ years ago. S and DIL were very clear about who they were and weren’t including to keep guests just above 80 total. All my sibs were invited with spouse or plus one for the one who was unmarried. All the groom’s 1st cousins were invited. NO kids. DIL invited the people she wanted to and about 20 flew with her mom to attend. They each also invited a few friends (most if whom also flew in) and we were able to each invite a handful of guests.
My S and DIL were happy and so we were too.
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S1 and FDiL seem to have invited everyone they know, under the mistaken impression that they will get to talk to all these people during the reception. I am honestly embarassed by the shift from small and quiet to large and fancy . And I feel as if S1s pov is drowned out in the noise as her sisters clamor for More — but he’s a grown man and they are paying for most of it. I will stand further away and smile
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I looked at my D’s current top choice of wedding venues today. I’m disappointed. I thought we gave her an incredibly generous budget. The venue was nothing special at all. And her number 2 and 3 choices are old and imo run down. This is not at all what I was expecting. No wonder they are still looking.
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Prices have gone crazy since Covid.
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That’s a bummer. Are you aware of “better” venues in their city? Are they going for a certain venue vibe? Maybe their vibe isn’t what you were hoping for?
What city is it?
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Sometimes adding guests, a wedding party, and decorations makes even the most ordinary venues feel special. It all turns out okay given some flexibility?
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Anywhere coastal New England. They want to be on the water.
Venue 3 is on the water with a gorgeous beach, but I saw multiple areas of mold in the ballroom along with an edge of the dance floor being buckled and some of the windows had broken seals and were foggy. They must have had a water incursion so I found a nice way to ask about remodel plans and they aren’t planning on any. The outside was pretty dated, but that’s easy to look beyond when you have a nice view.
Venue 2 has a nice view of the water, but I thought it was very dark and felt very old and I thought it looked a bit run down. My D thought it had character. It’s near a town with a few things to do, but not all that much.
Venue 1 was certainly not a wow, but it was updated and clean. It was near the water, and had a so-so view if you’re outside, but no view at all from the ballroom. It’s near a fun town with plenty of things to do.
I guess I thought I was giving them so much money that they’d be able to have the wedding of their dreams, and I’m really disappointed that it’s not enough to do that. They said they’d be very happy with venue 1, they just want to see if there’s anything even better. For me, I feel like if you’re not getting the wow, why spend all that money? Why not move it inland and spend half?
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One possible compromise could be a venue off the water, with photos beforehand near the water. (Thinking more on that, there could be hairdo issues from the wind.)
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I think venue 1 might be that compromise. Off the water but near it. I am still so shocked that our gift is not enough to give them what they’d really like. They are good kids and are very happy with the gift.
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