That is another great perk, might make it an enjoyable getaway for the guests.
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@melvin123, my daughter got married here:
Everything was really first-rate and it is right on the Hudson River. Ceremony was outside, on 11/11, and no one froze!
Of course a little south of New England and on the river, not the ocean, but first-rate in every way. And although all I did was write checks to the couple, I believe it wasnât terribly $$$.
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Our S and DIL looked at several venues before choosing the one they liked best which happened to also be cheapest. We gave them several checks when they were engaged and I have no idea what their final costs were but am sure our checks helped with a lot of their costs. The place they choose was a very old and historic place that was lovely in its own way and comfortable but definitely not new. They asked me to put down a deposit so I happily drove over and put down a deposit. We also had a nice tasting lunch there, to try out the different dishes.
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That looks like the place I used to know of as âShadowsâ. Lovely setting! And quite close to the train station too.
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Yes! Our guests will be coming from all over; there is no home turf for anyone. For most guests, any of the places the kids are looking at will be a do-able drive. Since everyone will have to travel, it would be much nicer for our guests if there are things to do there other than just wedding things.
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Oh that looks beautiful! Thank you, Iâll pass it along!
If anyone is getting married in Oahu, Cafe Julia was very nice. They have parking on Saturday and Sunday at reasonable prices and food is reasonable and delicious.
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Iâm way late to answer this question, but I think especially for the âolderâ generation, paper invites are appreciated, at least for the main event. Fine for invite to say see website or whatever for details.
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I went with my daughter to her wedding dress fitting 2 weeks ago. It was at a tailorâs as she bought it out of town at a sample place but this woman has been in business for at least 30 years as her shop is right near the day kids my kids attending and they are 28/29 years old. It is a size 4 (wedding size, a 0 in street clothes) so I thought it would need very little alteration as it fit her and was skin tight. Well, I was wrong! It is sort of a Morticia Adams style, but the top was a little big. The seamstress started pinning and tucking and I was amazed at how much more skin tight she could make it. In went the boobs, up went the butt, tuck in here, another there. It really will look a lot better but I never could have imagined it needing that many tucks.
Sheâll pin the train and hem the next time. She has a method of doing the bustle that tucks it up under the butt and makes it look like a pleated fan. D was thinking of cutting off the train but the seamstress vetoed that idea right away. "oh, no no no, you paid for it, you have to keep it. " D wanted the train for pictures but not for the reception. The bustle will look very nice and we both liked how it will look with the âspecialâ snap system this seamstress uses.
And yes, the alterations cost more than the dress.
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Glad you found such a good seamstress!
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Having the right seamstress/tailor for something special like this allowed your DD to be able to purchase a dress at a sample place/sample price.
DD ordered her dress to her measurements (a Bridal place did her measurements, and we bought undergarments there) and DD needed no dress alterations.
Wonderful what an expert can do!
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S and (I assume) FDiL have asked me to let them know if there is âsomething specificâ we want / donât want at the wedding or reception. His example was reading or not, speaking or notâŠ. I am afraid to weigh in and then discover it was a courtesy ask
Because I want them to rethink their head table, but asking that seems crossing a line? They have , right now, said they want all 12 attendants and their SOs at one long table with them. Yes, the venue can do that
But our other S and DiL wonât get to sit with family. Bridesmaid will be similarly stranded as will FDiL two sisters. These are four sets of people who rarely see the rest of their family and it feels rude to me to stick them at a display. I have said none of this to anyone but DH.
I think I would say something, with an alternative plan.
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My D has started to put together the tables for her wedding. It kind of reminded me of that game in Squid Game 2 where the participants had to group up or get eliminated as my D was trying to create âpodsâ based on RSVPâs.
There seem to be all kinds of acceptable configurations for tables these days. At ny sonâs 2022 wedding, the bridal couple and their 16 attendants( 8 each) were seated at one long table. Both sets of parents had separate tables near the head table. Those tables also included some family or friends of the parents . Their friends were scattered at other tables, with an eye to placing friends together. It all seemed to work out well and we really had no input into how the table seating would/ should be set up. We just showed up and had a great time!
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At DIL & Sâs wedding, they had a sweetheart table for the 2 of them and then seated the rest of the guests by type. There was a huge table for our extended clan, a huge table for DILâs clan, a smaller table for their friends and another table for our friends.
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Yup, S & DiL did that at their reception. A table for just them, attendants were in places with their family, friends, etc. But that was a considerably smaller shindig. At this point I donât know the guest list, just the total invites and a few of the guests.
I guess I will find a way to tactfully approach this. The classic âhave you thought aboutâŠâ might work.
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S had NO attendants and just over 80 guests total.
I want to say that I was not asked for my input on table arrangements, my kids planned their own weddings and I wasnât asked. I did ask about the rehearsal dinner for one kid and was told that it was their decision. No changes
AnywaysâŠ
Big kid had a long table with all the attendants. No spouses, just the attendants and the bride and groom. It worked out fine. The only hiccup was that the MOH, the people who were to sit with her spouse were no shows for the wedding. So that table was empty, the spouse is incredibly shy so trying to figure out who they sat with was a worry.
My daughter sat next to the other bridesmaids, none of whom she had ever met before. She made polite conversation during dinner and then hung out with our family. She had plenty of time to mingle and spend with family. I donât remember it being an issue.
This last wedding, there was only a MOH and a best man. They sat with family for MOH and friends for the best man. The bride and groom sat at a table by themselves. That worked out fine also.
My personal opinion is that it doesnât really matter and I would go along with what the bridal couple wants.
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What are you going to propose? Hope youâll have a wonderful time at the wedding!