I expect guests to go to the wedding coordinator for any issues they may have. Do not speak to the bride or the bride’s mother (me).
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I started this thread in 2016 (part 1) when S was getting married and now we are t-minus 3 days till our second wedding for D1. Two weddings, much different, some the same. Many of the same people will join us. Some have passed and cannot. 
I’m so looking forward to this ceremony as while our son’s was more traditional (and in a church) this wedding is really designed head to toe by D and fiance. From the entrance song to the readings (non-religious but spiritual) to her brother being the officiant - and both sets of parents being asked to speak during the ceremony. I feel really proud of them and to see that you can be dedicated to a ceremony/wedding/marriage with SOME of the traditional stuff but by really making it your own.
Now to just hope, hope, hope for everyone to travel safe and be healthy - we will handle any snafus that come our way - I hope!!! 
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Have fun, @abasket.
Have a wonderful day!
@abasket - enjoy this wonderful day!
That sounds very lovely! Have a wonderful day! And congrats to all. 
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I hope it’s a joyous event and much fun is had by all. I am impressed that you’ve never seemed stressed, just joyful and excited that this event is occurring.
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Enjoy! May there only be sunshine and happiness
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Well i survived DD’s wedding which was huge and elaborate ( 16 person band plus DJ, PLUS string quartet….250 people, 7 appetizer stations plus sit down dinner plus desert buffet with 5 different stations. . ) and at a complicated outdoor venue. The stress of an out of town ( for her and us but not the IL’s) outdoor event with no great back up plan nearly sent me over the edge. It was beautiful to be sure and we got lucky but I already told my other daughter that if she gets married it has to be at a hotel in the city where we live. AND INSIDE! Oh And in case you are wondering if you can buy the dress its own seat on the plane. The answer is yes. ( it was the only way to transport her huge ball gown!). Why not get the gown where the wedding was? That’s a complicated question but would have required too much involvement from her future MIL. Which was already too much ( they were driving and paying for much of the craziness).
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Congratulations! May the other daughter’s wedding be less complicated for you.
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Wow wow wow! That sounds like an event to remember! Congratulations!
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My real pride is that DD and SIL sent out all of their thank you notes to the “ adults” (i.e., parents friends and relatives) within 3 weeks. And all the others ( their friends) with 6 weeks. They included a photo of each guest in the thank you ( possible because the photographer was so keen to showcase his work at this venue that he got them 3k photos in less than a week…and Amazon photo ordering is so easy and inexpensive ). Also I had numerous friends text me to say that the notes were so nice and incredibly detailed (for example , she thanked all of my friends for their support of me over the years and her aunts and uncles for hosting memorable holiday gatherings and sleepovers with cousins).
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DD1/SIL were within the 1 year time limit on wedding gift thank you. DD2 and I are ‘johnny on the spot’ with attentiveness to thank you notes right away. One particular relative took a lot of photos which he shared on Facebook, so the pictures we made up to send with our Christmas mail came from him. DD1 got full digital wedding photographer photos but shared with us very late.
DD1/SIL had to have a baby ‘right away’ (DD thought she would not get pg right away) so their baby announcements (made up after delivery) were included with their wedding thank you mail. When they had their one month delay honeymoon, DD1 was already pg - they face timed us with their baby news upon return.
DDi/SIL did an excellent job with all the wedding planning and carry-through. We would have enjoyed some activities/extended family/friends the day after the wedding, but our in-laws were ‘tired’ and essentially needed to be driven to our home 100 miles away - for me to be hostess for a big evening meal. Thankfully our houseguests left on Monday morning. I should have had them ‘rest’ in their beautiful hotel room and used later check out. But I guess my couch was more comfortable for MIL…
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Thought I’d do my due diligence 
and report back on our D1’s wedding last weekend!
My daughter and her fiancé said it best “better than we ever could have imagined” - in saying that meaning they got just what they wanted - a casual “meet and greet” night before party, a wedding that was joyous and a celebration of their journey, a reception that mimicked a big dinner party (75 guests) and a morning after casual brunch that gave everyone one more time to visit and enjoy family and the wedding party.
We cried. A LOT. Lol, she was FULL of emotion Thursday through Sunday! But it was the walk down the aisle (she was so excited the attendees stood and CLAPPED!) and a ceremony that my son (officiant) kept light at times but also laced with plenty of tears. Their vows. Nearly 3 minutes for the groom, 4 for my daughter - they were so personal I think we all felt like we were peeping toms into their love. If you entered the room never having met them, you left knowing the kind of couple they are.
Only real snafu was driving across town after the rehearsal dinner H’s car started having battery issues and he BARELY made it to our AIRBNB - it had to be pushed in a parking spot! AAA came at 11:30 pm, hauled it to their service center. In the morning a fairy godmother at AAA gave us priority service and had it ready at noon in time for hauling the bride for first look pics!
It was wonderful. But also, it’s wonderful to have those tasks and worries behind! Even small simple weddings involve a lot of work and detail!
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That sounds fabulous! What a wonderful memory for all. Sorry for the car issues… so glad AAA was able to help.
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It sounds lovely and fairly low key. Congrats to the couple and the family.
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Congrats. @abasket.
It is hard to believe that DS#1 is coming up on his 9th anniversary and DS#2 on his 6th!! Time flies!
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My D’s 6th is coming up next month. That’s hard to believe, but even harder to believe is that our 41st is also next month!
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It sounds like a lovely wedding weekend. So glad all things went well besides the car!
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S2 and DiL’s 5th is this fall and they are finally taking a honeymoon trip. At the end of next week, S1 is proposing ! Excited to see what their big day will be like
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