<p>London, I didn’t see anything about complaining within earshot of the child but I confess to not carefully reading every comment on the thread, so I might have missed that. If that’s what is going on, I would agree with you, that’s not healthy either.</p>
<p>Sometimes on this board it seems like there is a bit of hostility towards people who ask “is it really worth it”, and I thought your suggestion to pull her out was a sort of trap for Jersey. If he/she says no, I have no intention of doing that (as most parents would say), then people can accuse him/her of holding out for HPYSM, as if Jersey is a less caring parent. But I might have been wrong, as it sounds like you were sincere.</p>
<p>Yes, Jersey needs to either accept the situation or decide on an alternative, and perhaps came here for some help in thinking it through. I hope we don’t pull the you’re-a-lesser-parent-for-putting-dreams-of-HYPSM-before-your-child’s-happiness card. I am not accusing you personally London, but it’s certainly been done before on this board.</p>