<p>Can you help me sort it all out?</p>
<p>this was the last line of your original post…if that is not what you wanted, if advice that didn’t match what you needed/wanted to hear, well, that is what you asked for</p>
<p>outsiders can only judge/make suggestions from what you have shared here with us, and if we see someting in a certain way, based on our own experiences, our own friends, our own lives, than that is the best we can do</p>
<p>it will not always be agreeable to see words that are not in sync with what you hope they would be, I understand that</p>
<p>But you did ask the questions, and we gave responses from what we read here on this thread</p>
<p>We really do have the best intentions, and maybe feel more useful if we point out things as we see them</p>
<p>I wish you the best, and I don’t know allthe dynamics of your life, not by a long shot, but have only been able to respond from your words here</p>
