I’d say I’m middle of the road. Can’t leave the house with dishes in the sink, untidy/unclean bathrooms or “stuff” hanging around but I never make my bed unless its being changed and like someone else said, I don’t have a place for clothes worn but okay to wear again so they get piled in the bedroom or in my bathroom linen closet. I also don’t vacuum, dust or wash floors nearly enough. Well, honestly, when I started my second job in October I hired someone to come in every other week and do dusting and floors, bathrooms and change my bed. Got laid off two weeks ago so she’s gonna get laid off too LOL. Boy, I’m gonna miss her 
I’ll put myself somewhere in the middle. I like my house nice and tidy, but the reality is it can get kind of messy. A sweater or two not put away, shoes left just anywhere, mail piling up, this morning’s dishes still in the sink, bed unmade…that kind of thing. Fortunately, my H and I have a similar tolerance level. Unfortunately, the kids have a very high tolerance level and it can drive me crazy!
My house does get pretty clean though when company comes over!
That happens to everyone. We have a pile of shoes by our laundry room door. I get it. It’s more being chronically disorganized that would bug me!
At my house if it’s clean enough to wear again it’s clean enough to go back in the closet. If it’s too dirty for the closet it goes in the hamper.
I reset the kitchen every morning. Turn on some music and bring it back to clean and organized. Then I don’t care what happens, someone can cook, work on a project, throw mail around, whatever. It will be perfect again tomorrow morning. I lived with the world’s worst kitchen for 25 years so now it’s a pleasure to restore order.
Now that kids have moved out I enjoy passing their rooms and seeing neatly made beds with quilts and pillow cases that I make. And no clothes on the floor.
When my kids lived at home, they were taught never leave their stuff (clothes, backpacks, toys) downstairs. They all had to go straight up to their rooms asap. Of course, no shoes in the house.
Of course? You say that as though no one wears their shoes in the house lol. I’d like my husband to remove his work boots before he enters but that never happens (pet peeve). If the rest of us wipe our feet, I’m good. But yes, I agree with the “keep on walking with all your crap”. My kids and husband like to dump everything on the kitchen table as they enter the house. If I’m around I catch them and tell em to keep on…but if I don’t I just pick their stuff up and throw it into their rooms…onto the floor, sometimes dumping out of backpacks, I don’t care. Really? We live in 1200 sf, its not that far to your room LOL.
Guess I should start another thread of all the stuff that irks the h.e.double.hockey.sticks out of me!!
Why two desks, @dstark? Might one do if they are both clean or maybe you have some other reason for having two?
My spouse is on the cleaner side. I’m in the middle with a little clutter but most is hidden behind closed doors (don’t look in the basement, please). I like surfaces clean and minimalist. I don’t like lots of clutter, stuff on the fridge for example or knick knacks all over. It stresses me out. Dirt and uncleanliness is another thing. That definitely is not an issue and I couldn’t live with that.
I can have some clutter or a few dishes or clothes lying around but nothing I couldn’t clean up in 30-60 minutes if someone called saying they were going to come over later.
I do have a pet peeve about pet hair and clean fridges. Maybe because I grew up in a house with too much pet hair and messy fridges with “science experiments”. Non-shedding pets for me when we had dogs and a clean fridge are a must. We are a “no shoes” house as well. Making the bed though - could not care less. I guess we all have our peccadilloes.
If I don’t put my shoes away, for example, I leave them in the living room, my wite throws them outside on a deck or hides them.
This is fairly effective; although, I forgot to put my shoes away today. Found them outside. 
@doschicos, they aren’t really desks. They were just easier to describe that way.
My wife hates clutter too.
In the house where we raised our kids, I had an 18th c firewood box (original paint, nice patina) by the back door and all shoes went in that box.
In the empty nesting house, shoes go in the hall closet.
In the house where we raised the kids, they had to take their backpacks and school stuff upstairs to their own rooms when they got home. That was just non-negotiable. If husband didn’t take his briefcase to his office, I’d take it there for him.
When we were homeschooling, around the kitchen table, I had a lovely early 18c English wall cupboard, with Canton in the upper open shelves, and all the kids’ school stuff in the bottom behind closed cupboard doors. When they were done with their lessons, I put all their stuff away out of sight.
eta: I just put my husband’s shoes in the closet. I am just glad he is neater than my sister. I am glad I don’t have to live with my sister. But she tries so hard to be neat when she is at my house and I give her so much credit for that.
@alh, we agree on soooo many issues but we have different stuff.
By the way- it is best to throw your covers back and let the bed air all day - so better NOT to make the bed. The dust mites need moisture and dark- so sunlight and air on the bed help to cut the populations down considerably. I air our bed out every day.
I like a calm and organized house, but I am not a fantastic. DH is organized, but likes to collect things. DD is a slob, DS middle of the road. I think the tendencies are innate.
D1 has own place with her BF now. It is beautifully decorated and very neat, except for a junior 2nd bedroom. It is the BF’s room for his stuff. I guess he is a bit of a slob, so he is allowed to keep that room in any state he wants, but he is not allowed to leave anything out in the public room(s). Sounds familiar?
His parents came to visit recently and found out shoes weren’t allowed in the apartment. I heard they were very nice about it. No, it is not the norm in many homes.
Frequently husband and I speculate about the difference between collecting and hoarding. Husband says our stuff is good stuff.
Also, we don’t stack our stuff on the floor and in the yard. Other than that, I’m not so sure.
ETA: I do have some sculpture in a field. My sister has milk cartons. Eye of the beholder, which is trash or treasure. She doesn’t care for my sculpture.
No shoes in the house here either. There is a little titled area by the door and shoes stay there.
I didn’t know until CC (several years ago) that this was not the norm all over the country. Around these parts, it automatic
The more flat surfaces you have in your house, the more clutter it accumulates. Drawers are preferred to shelves - not only they keep things out of sight. but they make cluttering harder - it takes some effort to open a drawer, place a piece of junk in it in such a way that the drawer could be closed, close the drawer… Much easier to “decorate” a kitchen counter or tabletop with said junk.
“By the way- it is best to throw your covers back and let the bed air all day - so better NOT to make the bed. The dust mites need moisture and dark- so sunlight and air on the bed help to cut the populations down considerably. I air our bed out every day.”
Very common in some European countries - Germany and Switzerland come to mind - to air out the bedding every day. Love driving through the Alps and seeing feather beds hanging out the windows.
I never thought about the dust mite angle to it but it makes a lot of sense.
I feel justified in not making my bed now. Thanks, @anxiousmom! 
“If I don’t put my shoes away, for example, I leave them in the living room, my wite throws them outside on a deck or hides them.”
I am going to try this! Thank your wife for me. My H always leaves his shoes on the rug in front of the sliding glass doors that lead to our deck. I don’t mind if he leaves them in the laundry/mud room but there is no reason they need to be left in the family room.
No rule in my house about no shoe wearing but we both usually just wear socks indoors anyway.
I have two dogs that shed but my vacuum has special attachment for dog hair and I swiffer my floors every day. I did finally get sick of having my living room sofa, which is cream colored, professionally cleaned - so I bought two decorative dog gates and gated both enterences. It also keeps dog from sitting on bay window ledge and barking constantly.
S was a slob. I would just close the door. He is much neater now that he is on his own then he ever was when he lived here.
I’m on the neat side. Spouse is messy. Our marriage is saved by having a daily maid (one of the perks where we live). If we move back to Europe/US and have to do our own laundry, dishes, cleaning, ironing, tidying, we’re gonna need marriage counseling.
This time of year, when it’s warm,I take the pillows off the bed. Pull the sheet and summer quilt up to the top of the bed and straighten/flatten them out. Then I take the top edge of quit and top sheet and fold it down to the foot of the bed, leaving about half the bottom sheet exposed. Then I fluff the feather pillows and put them back. It doesn’t take 3 minutes. I’m on automatic pilot.
Is that enough airing out?
I wash sheets twice a week.