<p>Hi. My daughter is about to start 10th grade, and I'm worried and looking at BS as an option. So far (9th grade) she is failing (1 A, 3 Cs, 3 Fs) in a very competitive public high school.
- She is ADHD, and consistently scores 98-98%ile verbal, 70s math. She loses everything and forgets to turn in homework, when she does it, which is rare these days (hence the Fs/grades).
- Her grades have plummeted, and she is starting to sound as if she is giving up on school entirely. The last month of school she started skipping in the afternoons, which lead to a phone call from the office, and a slew of failing grades on tests.
- Her self esteem has dropped really low, and she has dropped all extracurriculars.<br>
- She does well socially, with a best friend and several good friends and lots of Facebook, etc.
- She is so painfully shy around teachers that she won't ask a question if she doesn't understand or misses the homework instructions. Everything that draws attention to her is extremely embarrassing to her. She is extremely bright but she won't talk in class so most teachers don't know it.
- She is a likeable, very cool hipster, very cynical and funny, which will make her a cool adult.
- We've tried tutors, cognitive behavior therapy, therapist, and a private school. Finding the right local private school is impossible, and BS may provide the structure and small classes/attention she needs.
- She doesn't fit in with super-preppy, athletic, ultra-competitive girls (unless they are down to earth)
- I and my husband are not as disciplined as a BS would be, especially with peer pressure built in (everyone ELSE is doing their homework, so maybe I should too). I don't think she needs a therapeutic BS, but kind of a disciplined but flexible approach.
- Also, her scores on the SSAT attracted the top schools in our area, but then they saw her grades. Would she be accepted? She's used to being around really smart kids. She wants to do well, but is kind of frozen into this inertia which is frustrating for us, her and teachers. I think a change of scenery might wake up her old enthusiasm for school. (Did well in elementary, and teachers loved her.) I think she would like the idea of BS.</p>
<p>Any ideas on BS in general for a non-traditional child? What are the more hippie-ish, hipster-ish boarding schools? Or particular schools to look at? Do some BS work to teach study skills/organization? Also, if her grades take a nose-dive in public school, are there mid-year admissions anywhere? I basically need a BS to take a chance on a very bright but underachieving child. Does this exist?</p>
<p>I am new to all of this, so I really appreciate your help. Thanx.</p>