<p>Collegeshopping, you are AWESOME! Your daughter is lucky as all get-out to have you.</p>
<p>nsm, that is a sweet story, somewhat similar to how H & I started.
cs, prom is sometime overrated. My daughter dumped her boyfriend just a few weeks before prom. I and a lot of her friends said not to do it, she did it anyway and went to prom with all her female friends. Now looking back, seeing how he turned out, that was the best decision she made.</p>
<p>This thread has taken an interesing turn and given me much to think about. Ds1, the clueless one, I think couldn’t care less about dating. I’ll talk to him about that. </p>
<p>Ds2, however, has always been popular with the ladies. He has very definite opinions about the kind of girl he likes. He’s only 14 so he hasn’t started dating (though many girls have called). He has no qualms telling me “this one is too needy” (can you believe it? this was in seventh grade about a girl who wrote a rap for him and sang it in class) or that he has a girl friend who he really likes but wouldn’t be interested in her romantically because she’s “too bubbly and up all the time.” I asked him whose personality he liked, and he could name someone immediately – another girl friend who is open and fun but not so overtly “on” all the time. I just have no worries he’ll find the perfect girl for him when the time comes.</p>
<p>Last year, my D who was then in 7th grade made the statement that she wasn’t popular. I asked which girls are popular in 7th grade. Her reply: “The ones with boobs.”</p>
<p>So true, Missypie, but wasn’t that the case back in our day? That’s just the way I remember it!</p>
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<p>But yikes, I’m thinking about the money my son paid for tickets and limo rental…(Same deal when a guy dumps a girl right before prom - probably an even greater outlay of $)</p>
<p>My D would say many of her HS male friends want girls who are blonde, skinny and not very bright. The one’s who act clueless and laugh at everything the boy says. Even the smart boys. Heck I know quite a few smart men who have young wives who fit the same description.
I also think that what an adult thinks of as attractive is not always the same as a teen. My son dated a girl who was beautiful. Long to the waist ringlet hair. A curvy body not skinny but not fat. Beautiful smile. All the adults including grown men would comment on how lucky my son was and how beautiful she was. When we talked about this with my son he said most of his friends did not think his GF was “hot”. They did like her chest but they did not consider her beautiful. My son said his friends were mainly attracted to blond skinny girls.</p>
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<p>Exactly the way I remembered it too. I was scrawny as a stick in the 7th grade and there was another girl that all the boys just loved. When my D was in 6th grade, there was a girl who was remarkably developed for her age, and was the IT girl of the 6th grade (makes me laugh that such a thing exists). But with all the attention on her body, that became her main concern and when she would lose her virginity (8th grade it was published on MySpace).</p>
<p>“other seven!!! Oh my God!”</p>
<p>To my husband’s late wife’s credit, they do not all “belong” to me, yet they belong to me :-). Three are mine biologically, yet when you are ages 1-8 when your Mom dies, you deserve to be loved full throttle, and that is what I strive to do everyday for these kids. They consider me “mom” and I couldn’t wish it any other way. I dry their tears the same, jump for their triumphs the same and love them the same, maybe even more, knowing what they truly missed out on. </p>
<p>With that said, once you are out numbered (one child to one parent) it doesn’t really matter. On a really positive note, when we go on cruises, we take up an entire table of 10. People get a kick out of us when we travel, each kid in a store buying a drink and snack…$30.00 later we are on the road, hoping to make it 100 miles before a bathroom stop is called by someone!! No strangers at our table, and never a dull moment. Our home is basically a youth hostel. Who knows who will fill the seats at dinner. I never turn anyone down if they come looking for a warm meal (I am well know by the “friends” to have a warm meal on the table every night between 6:30-7:30) and with THAT said, I better get the stove fired up, it is a really cold night for our part of the country and I just have a feeling that every chair will be full tonight…lol</p>
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<p>You sound like a wonderful Mom.</p>
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<p>I don’t think he lost any $$. This is a prom at DD’s high school where she got the free tickets because of her EC. The most he had to pay for is the corsage. The limo rental was shared between all riders.</p>
<p>I’ll go out with your daughter if you want $ 50 per hour</p>
<p>I was always fond of soccer girls… but painfully shy.</p>
<p>News Flash:
France wants to ban computer graphic alteration of photos geared towards girls and women.
Apparently girls and women have compulsion to have perfect figures, skin, and body.</p>
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<p>I don’t know. I remember that the “flat” girls were teased, but the girls with the boobs were often targeted for sexual harassment. I was somewhere between the two, but wore baggy clothes that directed attention away from my chest, as I would rather be teased, especially by people whose opinions are worthless, than groped.</p>
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<p>Yeah, it is. I didn’t go to my own, but I went to the senior one as a junior, with a male friend who didn’t want to go alone (we agreed beforehand that it was to be platonic). It was fun, but nothing worth angsting over.</p>
<p>Interesting thread here! </p>
<p>Happydad went from “Boys are evil and dangerous.” to “What’s wrong with these boys that none of them seem interested in Happykid?” some time in the middle of last (junior) year. Happykid did “go out with” a nice, polite classmate (he even arranged for us to meet his family) for about three movies last spring, but it fell apart over the summer while he was out of town on vacation. Happydad nearly had a fit, asking “What went wrong???” All Happykid had to say about it was that they “could talk about a lot more as friends”. Which I took to mean as neither of them knew quite what to do with a boy/girl friend once they had one.</p>
<p>Happykid has not missed a Homecoming dance yet. She goes with her gang of friends (sometimes boys as well as girls). They plan to go to prom with or without dates. Since Happykid is socially charming, beautiful, and powerful (she’s the Stage Manager), she has plenty of boys (mostly other theater types) who are half in love with her. So far though, they seem to be over-awed by the power/beauty and don’t say anything (that we’ve heard of at least). She seems to look on all of them as a mother dog looks on her puppies. I expect things to change as the boys grow a bit older. Which will probably take Happydad straight to “Boys are evil and dangerous. Where’s a shotgun?”</p>
<p>Son had an all-consuming crush on a girl for 2 1/2 years of HS…he never breathed a word about it to anyone but me. He found a “real” girlfriend junior year and went to prom with her jr and sr year. The girl for whom he pined away all those years (and I believe he still secretly likes) did not go to either prom. </p>
<p>There are some girls that guys just don’t feel are accessible or approachable. I don’t think its anything the girl does or doesn’t do. In my son’s case, I think he just liked her so much that he couldn’t face a possible rejection. There could be boys pining away for your Ds and your D may never know it.</p>
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<p>I’ve heard this from a male point of view too or maybe at this stage, boys just want “Jello” instead of “Creme Brule”(borrowing from Julia Roberts).</p>
<p>“There could be boys pining away for your Ds and your D may never know it.”</p>
<p>SO TRUE - I have a feeling that if D brought home a BF from college all of her guy friends would be SOOOO jealous! (But has any one of THEM ever asked her out???)</p>